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Comment on How to Stop Looking at Porn on the Computer by Ryann Soled

Ryann Soled — Thu, 05 Aug 2010 14:06:40 +0000

Hello all,
I am with you all in this struggle. I am 35 and have been masturbating regualrly since I was about 16. I started with mags and progressed to a few porns, but that was the extent. Now with the internet, its unfortunately very easy and very accessible. My family knows nothing of my issues with porn and the other guys I know all simply act like porn is fine. Being a new Christian, it is a rather dificult challenge for me. I know it is wrong, I know it is sinful, I know it is wrong as I am masturbating, but I can’t stop once I started. I say okay just this last time so make it real good.
Once I make the declaration I will stop, I can usually do it for 3-5 days, but Living near Washington DC, there are so many beautiful women. I could be walking down the street with no idea in my mind of porn and I see a beautiful woman and I immediately undress her with my eyes. I then keep that vision in my head and hunt for porn that looks like her. After finding the exact right pictures set I masturbate to her. ONce I am done I feel terrible and say again I will stop.
So today I am once again making this declaration, I will stop looking at porn, no more for me. I must focus that excess energy on God and pray for a release from this addiction. I really want this and I just have to do it.

Comment on What I Learned at Passages of Malibu and Candeocan.com About Porn Addiction by JR - Freedom From Porn Addiction

JR - Freedom From Porn Addiction — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 02:41:08 +0000

Man,

I went through your presentation and I’m FLOORED at the power of the program you went through. I’m going to incorporate some hypnotherapy into my own recovery. THANK YOU for sharing!!

Comment on How to Stop Looking at Porn on the Computer by Luke

Luke — Thu, 08 Jul 2010 12:43:26 +0000

Hey guys!

It’s an eye opener how many people have a problem with porn. Its such a subtle process when you first start looking at porn and then it quickly spirals into chaos. I am 22 and started looking at porn around 14. I have managed to kick the habit for long parts of my teenage years but the last 2 years have been by far the worst and and most addictive. I’ve told family about my problem but the reality is they can’t do anything for me unless I meet them halfway as you’re always going to be alone at some point. I know its an addiction that can be overcome as i managed to do so for over 3 years. Lots of the advice on this website is very good and im gonna try and put it to good practice.
Good luck guys!!!

Comment on How to Stop Looking at Porn on the Computer by Cam

Cam — Sun, 04 Jul 2010 07:41:06 +0000

Hi,
I am a young newlywed and also new mother. Before I was married I had a good life. I was happy and I was living right. Shortly after I had my son I came home from the tanning salon to find my husband mastrabating to pornography on my computer while my 6 week old son was in his swing just feet away. My life has changed drastically. I used to be confident and loved doing thing for my husband, I loved seeing him appreciative and happy that I loved him. I now struggle every single day to be happy. To trust that my husband loves me, that he is teaching my son the ways to love and respect a woman. I wonder if I will become that wife at home while her husband is off thinking and indulging in other woman. I have never been insecure, I had many options in life in marriage. I had so many oppurtunities to succeed. I feel like he has stolen that from me. He has dragged me into a life of misery, regret, torment. I don’t feel like being with friends, being a part of facebook, or even being in a relationship period. I read many of your stories I feel so sad for the men and woman and children that are effected by it. I cannot believe that their are men and woman that would do everything in their power to get you hooked on pornography for no other reason but more money in their pockets. I read that many of you ask God to take over your addiction and hope that one day you will be cured of it. While I completely agree that it is with God that your battle of pornography can be overcome I think that God works through your works. If you show God how strong you are, you have faith that in your weak moment he will give you that extra bit of faith, but that you excercise that faith, and by excercising faith I mean truly putting a concious effort when those thoughts, or that boredom, or that thoughtless unmodestly dressed woman enters your eyesight. Pray to your Heavenly Father and talk to him as your friend, know that he is listening and in him you will find all your answers. Ask him to help you to pivot your thoughts in an uplifting direction, one that will prove your love to your wife, to your children, or any of your loved ones. I read that not too long ago… “To stay in the constant presence of light and not wander into darkness, we continually seek that light in our lives everyday”… there are so many traps set for men in our day and age. Media, music, thoughtless woman, lust for wealth and status. Don’t let them make a fool of the amazing potential we each have. I continually seek my Heavenly Fathers guidance in understanding, supporting, loving, and forgiving my husband. Also in rebuilding my confidence, security, trust, and love for my life. I truly pray that each of you will find that strength to overcome your addictions and in your weakest moments lean on a Savior who I know will complete your effort if you put in your all before you surrender to him.

Comment on “All or Nothing” Rarely Works with Porn Addiction by Tom

Tom — Sat, 03 Jul 2010 10:50:51 +0000

I have been looking at porn and masturbating for a long time more than twenty five years. It started when I first found one of my fathers hidden porn mags, (back then there was no internet) I am now 39 and still struggle with the addiction, I think I am mildly addicted but addicted all the same. I have tried to stop and will go for a month or so but than I can’t resisted the urge, than I will get right back into it a waste all kinds of time looking at porn, pages and pages so much sick stuff on line. I am married have two kids and love my wife, but she c an’t satisfy me the porn does not help.
This site is great as I am back on the wagon after falling off for a few days after a little over a month of abstaining.
It is true it gets easier and easier to keep your mind off of it and this site definitely kills the urge. I have decided to stop all on myself wile my wife was away with my kids I had some time to think and introspect and realize how damaging it is and how unproductive I am when I am into porn, it’s like you don’t have your life and live for the fix, it has led me to keep secret email addresses, creditcard, numerous sexual encounters, a couple of affairs, but the intimacy is not there, I like being with my wife a lot better, it is not the way I want to spend my life and is not what I want to teach my kids.
I did not know i was addicted, but now I feel it is very disgusting and all things ugly.
Thank you for the support and most of all the education.

Comment on How to Stop Looking at Porn on the Computer by cp

cp — Sat, 03 Jul 2010 03:09:07 +0000

I had never been able to admit I had a porn addicition until today, when I broke up with my girlfriend. Unable to fully commit to her I began to search for the real reason I had failed in this relationship and others. Instead of concluding that it was simply my commitment phobia, I believe that porn addicition was also to blame. My beliefs: that I didn’t need her, could live without her, that there would be another chance around the corner, that on my own I would never disappoint or upset someone else are derived straight from the fantastical and desensitizing world of porn. I had never seen anything wrong with porn but with the advent of the internet it has become all consuming, easy to access and inexpensive. It fits into our world of zero commitment, consumer insatiability and thrill seeking but only gives back low self esteem, shame and an inability to properly connect. It produces people who aren’t really there and who prefer to live in a world far removed from reality.
I started early after finding an abandoned mag in a local park and even told my teenage pals I wanted to be a porn photographer when I grew up. It was all fun then but as time went on I began looking at porn more often and for longer periods and now I feel greater shame after looking at these images for long periods of time. As with any addiction the key is in being able to moderate and I am not able to do this anymore. I now see the damage it is doing and vow to stop. It won’t be easy and I will approach it in the same way I gave up cigarettes-Acknowledge the problem, eliminate the exposure completely, put controls in place and replace it with something else. Its gonna be tough but I look forward to the day when I can say no and find something more positive to do with my time.

Comment on How to Stop Masturbation Addiction by David

David — Fri, 02 Jul 2010 20:23:55 +0000

Thank You so much! I have been addicted for 2 1/2 years. I just want to thank you for this article

Comment on How to Stop Looking at Porn on the Computer by Travis

Travis — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 17:37:44 +0000

This is the first time I’ve “said” these words: I am addicted to internet porn. I have spent, on many days, in excess of four to six hours looking at it and masturbating. I first discovered porn when I was 10 or 11. It was my brother who introduced it to me in the form of a couple of cassette tapes borrowed from a friend. I will be thirty in september. My son, who will be 2 on July 17 has just joined me. He would be here whether I was typing on this blog, or…I love him more than anything in the world…to think that I could expose him to it. This is bigger than you or I. It is more than we can handle on our own.

I have been addicted to a lot of things. My biggest weakness is an extremely addictive personality. I’ve tried almost every drug under the sun and been addicted to many of them. Nicotine, cocaine, and alchohol were the three hardest to quit…until now.

I’ve been married now for four and a half years and my precious wife still doesn’t know. I find myself indulging so much sometimes, that I can’t even get it up anymore to be intimate with her, whether I want to or not. Sometimes I deliberately start arguments with her, if I think she might be in the mood, so that I won’t be expected to perform. I’m self employed as a general contractor, and lead several ministries within a large church. No one knows. No one but me, and it’s killing me so slowly. I hate myself for the disgust and betrayal that I know my wife would feel toward me were she to find out, and I hate myself for the legacy this is leaving for my children (number two will be here in October). Most of all, I hate myself for how I have betrayed the author of salvation, a pure and loving God, who would send his own son to die, and would have done so to save even just me. This is how I praise Him? I’m desperate.

I will pray for all of you who’s posts I have read, and all those who need to find this page. Thank you to newlifehabits, who has made me realize that I am not alone. What legacy will you leave?

Comment on How to Overcome Internet Pornography Addiction by Dave S

Dave S — Tue, 29 Jun 2010 15:44:37 +0000

I am now 28 and have been looking at porn since the age of 12. At it’s worst I was looking at porn every day for several hours and I felt terrible. More recently I have reduced my pornography use, and only look at it once every two months or so for a couple of hours. I feel that looking at my emotions, self hatred anger and past traumas has helped me achieve this, however I am still not 100% free and when the craving arises it is NEARLY impossible to resist. But every time you do resist you become stronger and the habit becomes weaker. When I lapse (like today) I find it hard and I really beat myself up about it as well as feeling massively guilty. But most men don’t even see porn as a problem, so pretty much everyone who is reading this is at least one step ahead. I think porn has to be one of the hardest addictions to quit with the internet the way it is. You don’t even have to go to the shop or the drug dealer, it’s streamed into house in unlimited supply and you don’t even have to pay for it. How many crack or herion addicts would succeed in quiting in those kind of circumstances? I think to succeed in quiting you need to tackle the issue from all angles, try and increase your will power by waiting for the urge to pass. When craving arises just tell yourself, I’ll wait an hour, or two hours and gradually increase this until you can wait for days weeks months, maybe even years. But it is true that you need to explore the emptiness and voidness that you are filling with porn if you really want to succeed. I dream of a day when I no longer crave porn but until then I set my sights at this target and try to keep moving in the right direction.

Comment on How to Erase all Sexual Thoughts by overcome

overcome — Sat, 26 Jun 2010 02:37:20 +0000

i have a problem i would like some help, i used to watch anime , but i left that , the problem is i watched all kind of animes even ecchi and hentai, and now i feel like watching some non nudes hentai scenes , and when that happens i get some sexual pleasure and orgams , im a little vouyerist , so i hope this thing works ,