Comments for Porn Addiction Help http://newlifehabits.com Fri, 27 Apr 2012 20:54:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 Comment on Are You Willing to do What it Takes? by bobery http://newlifehabits.com/2007/10/10/are-you-willing-to-do-what-it-takes/comment-page-1/#comment-30733 bobery Fri, 27 Apr 2012 20:54:27 +0000 http://newlifehabits.com/2007/10/10/are-you-willing-to-do-what-it-takes/#comment-30733 i too hav suffered from the evils of masturbation. it all began at the age of 6. i was watchin from dusk till dawn. during some bar scene a woman in a bikini came out and did an erotic dance. i ran to the back of the couch and masturbated. ever since then i have suffered from this curse, but do not pity me, for i have chosen this. just like i chose to masturbate i have chosen to stop. no more will i be succumbed to this wicked lie, to societys corruption nor the ignorance of my friends. i see no how this addiction is ruining my personal and social life. in time through God and will power, i am wining this war. for i choose to deny temptation. i too hav suffered from the evils of masturbation. it all began at the age of 6. i was watchin from dusk till dawn. during some bar scene a woman in a bikini came out and did an erotic dance. i ran to the back of the couch and masturbated. ever since then i have suffered from this curse, but do not pity me, for i have chosen this. just like i chose to masturbate i have chosen to stop. no more will i be succumbed to this wicked lie, to societys corruption nor the ignorance of my friends. i see no how this addiction is ruining my personal and social life. in time through God and will power, i am wining this war. for i choose to deny temptation.

]]> Comment on How to Overcome Internet Pornography Addiction by HOLLY http://newlifehabits.com/2007/08/10/how-to-overcome-internet-pornography-addiction/comment-page-2/#comment-30720 HOLLY Mon, 16 Apr 2012 18:29:45 +0000 http://newlifehabits.com/2007/08/10/how-to-overcome-internet-pornography-addiction/#comment-30720 I felt compelled to write since there are no female bloggers - I felt I was asexual for many years - I was just too wrapped up in kids, career, a struggling marriage & the everyday pressures of life. I had everything a women could want except a healthy sex life. From a womens perspective, all the stars have to align for us to want to have sex cause it means we are truly connnected to our partner. To a man , sex makes the stars align and the world & the relationship ok. Then at age 45 & after 20 yrs of marriage I kissed another man and felt alive again !!! The strong feelings of lust & passion were overwhelming. I felt guilty to go further with it so I started watching porn & masterbating as a subsitute. Watching others have sex made me want to engage in an affair. I did have multiple affairs for many years - but just like masterbation & porn, that left me feeling "empty" as well. By working with a skilled addiction counsellor & spending a lot of time on self help, I learned that NO SEXUAL SUBSTITUTE CURES THE EMPTINESS INSIDE. I still struggle every day with my addiction to porn, masterbation & affairs. Some days are better than others but it has left me depressed, overweight (food is my sexual substitute) and suseptable to much illness & physical aches n pains. I am a successful women but this problem is VERY DIFFICULT TO OVERCOME ALONE. I would highly recommend this website & it's suggestions, internet research, & joining a support group. I WISH YOU ALL WELL WITH YOUR STRUGGLES & CONGRADULATE YOU ON YOUR STEPS IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION. GOD BLESS I felt compelled to write since there are no female bloggers -

I felt I was asexual for many years – I was just too wrapped up in kids, career, a struggling marriage & the everyday pressures of life. I had everything a women could want except a healthy sex life. From a womens perspective, all the stars have to align for us to want to have sex cause it means we are truly connnected to our partner. To a man , sex makes the stars align and the world & the relationship ok.

Then at age 45 & after 20 yrs of marriage I kissed another man and felt alive again !!! The strong feelings of lust & passion were overwhelming. I felt guilty to go further with it so I started watching porn & masterbating as a subsitute. Watching others have sex made me want to engage in an affair. I did have multiple affairs for many years – but just like masterbation & porn, that left me feeling “empty” as well. By working with a skilled addiction counsellor & spending a lot of time on self help, I learned that NO SEXUAL SUBSTITUTE CURES THE EMPTINESS INSIDE.

I still struggle every day with my addiction to porn, masterbation & affairs. Some days are better than others but it has left me depressed, overweight (food is my sexual substitute) and suseptable to much illness & physical aches n pains. I am a successful women but this problem is VERY DIFFICULT TO OVERCOME ALONE. I would highly recommend this website & it’s suggestions, internet research, & joining a support group.

I WISH YOU ALL WELL WITH YOUR STRUGGLES & CONGRADULATE YOU ON YOUR STEPS IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION. GOD BLESS

]]> Comment on Signs of Porn Addiction by Anne http://newlifehabits.com/2008/02/04/signs-of-porn-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-30706 Anne Sat, 07 Apr 2012 01:15:45 +0000 http://newlifehabits.wordpress.com/?p=85#comment-30706 I don't know what to do, where to start, etc. My husband is addicted to watching porn videos or onlne on a daily basis. He's a former cocaine addict, diagnosed w.depression so porn is right up his ally. He's never denied 'needing' his videos & I've put up w/it, but i can't stand the online thing cuz I think it's just a maturation of the addiction & wonder 'what's next...an affair'?. During sex I constantly wonder 'is he fantasizing about watching his porn', etc. im now at point to where i wonder if all he does is compare me to the porn & I'm not as good. my self esteem has dropped, i've put on weight because of it which has just doubled the problem. i wonder is there no more intimate connection, is he becoming lazy, is he so shy/passive that nothing is going to work for him? I'm hurt and feel stuck, please help me on where to begin! I don’t know what to do, where to start, etc. My husband is addicted to watching porn videos or onlne on a daily basis. He’s a former cocaine addict, diagnosed w.depression so porn is right up his ally. He’s never denied ‘needing’ his videos & I’ve put up w/it, but i can’t stand the online thing cuz I think it’s just a maturation of the addiction & wonder ‘what’s next…an affair’?. During sex I constantly wonder ‘is he fantasizing about watching his porn’, etc. im now at point to where i wonder if all he does is compare me to the porn & I’m not as good. my self esteem has dropped, i’ve put on weight because of it which has just doubled the problem. i wonder is there no more intimate connection, is he becoming lazy, is he so shy/passive that nothing is going to work for him? I’m hurt and feel stuck, please help me on where to begin!

]]> Comment on Using a Counterintuitive Approach to Overcome Porn Addiction by luke http://newlifehabits.com/2009/11/05/using-a-counterintuitive-approach-to-overcome-porn-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-30698 luke Thu, 29 Mar 2012 19:33:07 +0000 http://newlifehabits.com/?p=302#comment-30698 The biggest breakthrough in my journey has just been born, what an incredible post, so relevant to where I am right now and so right on time. Still get amazed! Thanks :) The biggest breakthrough in my journey has just been born, what an incredible post, so relevant to where I am right now and so right on time. Still get amazed! Thanks :)

]]> Comment on How to Stop Porn Addiction by man http://newlifehabits.com/2008/02/07/how-to-stop-porn-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-30694 man Wed, 28 Mar 2012 18:40:24 +0000 http://newlifehabits.wordpress.com/?p=87#comment-30694 I have dealt with porn problems for years. I was born again in Christ about 6 months ago and for about 5 months I didn't even think about pornography. Then one day I was online and a picture of sexy girl in bikini showed up and from there temptation set in and it consumed my mind. I kept telling myself not to go there but then I kept seeing more girls and then I started searching for more pictures and that was it. I was back to looking at pornography. After that happened, I prayed and asked for repentance and I was free of pornography for a month and then the temptation hit me again and started in sin again. This goes on periodically because I can only use my self control for a short time. The urge and temptation to feel satisfied with pornography is so strong like the need to eat. When I'm done looking at pornography I feel empty and sick and full of shame and feel like I just hung out with the devil. Please help me and pray for me. I have dealt with porn problems for years. I was born again in Christ about 6 months ago and for about 5 months I didn’t even think about pornography. Then one day I was online and a picture of sexy girl in bikini showed up and from there temptation set in and it consumed my mind. I kept telling myself not to go there but then I kept seeing more girls and then I started searching for more pictures and that was it. I was back to looking at pornography. After that happened, I prayed and asked for repentance and I was free of pornography for a month and then the temptation hit me again and started in sin again. This goes on periodically because I can only use my self control for a short time. The urge and temptation to feel satisfied with pornography is so strong like the need to eat. When I’m done looking at pornography I feel empty and sick and full of shame and feel like I just hung out with the devil. Please help me and pray for me.

]]> Comment on How to Stop Masturbation Addiction by spencer http://newlifehabits.com/2007/08/08/how-to-stop-masturbation-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-30693 spencer Wed, 28 Mar 2012 17:26:43 +0000 http://newlifehabits.com/2007/08/08/how-to-stop-masturbation-addiction/#comment-30693 i must say thank you. for six years i have masturbated every day! i know it was unhealthy but i had anxiety and was unable to make friends my whole life. i was alone yet i know that my actions were not an end but a mean that would never end. my whole life i have been addicted to pornography, since i was a small boy. i have tried to quite HUNDREDS of times and have always fallen. i got so low that i was masturbating in public because i couldn't control myself. i went as far as to spend hours hacking library moniters just to get a glips to masterbate to. as i have just done that know and in my depression and self loathing i finally sought out help knowing i can't do it alone. this sight has helped me understand that giving up is not an option, i can get over this and i will, before pornorgraphy my life was so happy, never nervouse, no gilty mind, productive life style, friends just being made. i sit here, alone, having acomplished little in my life when i know i could have gone far with what i was given. i hope to reply back in a few weeks. a stronger man with a purpose in life and a goal to be better and help others around me be better. thank you, thank you all for this. those of you struggling with me, DON'T GIVE UP. we can do this!!! god bless you. i must say thank you. for six years i have masturbated every day! i know it was unhealthy but i had anxiety and was unable to make friends my whole life. i was alone yet i know that my actions were not an end but a mean that would never end. my whole life i have been addicted to pornography, since i was a small boy. i have tried to quite HUNDREDS of times and have always fallen. i got so low that i was masturbating in public because i couldn’t control myself. i went as far as to spend hours hacking library moniters just to get a glips to masterbate to. as i have just done that know and in my depression and self loathing i finally sought out help knowing i can’t do it alone. this sight has helped me understand that giving up is not an option, i can get over this and i will, before pornorgraphy my life was so happy, never nervouse, no gilty mind, productive life style, friends just being made. i sit here, alone, having acomplished little in my life when i know i could have gone far with what i was given. i hope to reply back in a few weeks. a stronger man with a purpose in life and a goal to be better and help others around me be better. thank you, thank you all for this. those of you struggling with me, DON’T GIVE UP. we can do this!!!
god bless you.

]]> Comment on Are You Walking on Egg Shells? by Aubrey http://newlifehabits.com/2007/08/12/are-you-walking-on-egg-shells/comment-page-1/#comment-30682 Aubrey Sat, 24 Mar 2012 22:20:31 +0000 http://newlifehabits.com/2007/08/12/are-you-walking-on-egg-shells/#comment-30682 I am not addicted to pornography or masturbation, neither have I ever been, but this website is very inspired. These ideas and tips are principally based, so can be applied to all aspects of ones life. I know I have learned a lot from the experiences and articles here. Thank you for sharing. I am not addicted to pornography or masturbation, neither have I ever been, but this website is very inspired. These ideas and tips are principally based, so can be applied to all aspects of ones life. I know I have learned a lot from the experiences and articles here. Thank you for sharing.

]]> Comment on How to Stop Porn Addiction by jack http://newlifehabits.com/2008/02/07/how-to-stop-porn-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-30681 jack Sat, 24 Mar 2012 21:12:31 +0000 http://newlifehabits.wordpress.com/?p=87#comment-30681 I have been struggling wit porn addiction for about seven years. Although it was worse a few years back I still have problems erradicating it from my life completely. I think the problem is that as I am being tempted I momentarily forget how bad I am going to feel later and become overwhelmed b the temptation. One thing I have tried the last few times when I get tempted is that instead of visiting a porn site I visit sites on how to stop porn addiction and I instead of feeling all the bad emotions after I close my computer I feel all the good ones. Instead of feeling guilt I feel responsible. Instead of being ashamed I feel like I held myself accountable. Instead of feeling less complete I feel more complete. Instead of feeling unsatisfied with m behavior I feel more satisfied. It really has helped and I can carry on with my day with much more happiness. I have come to believe in God like many of you and relying on His forgiveness as also been great. Going to this site and others tat talk about tis issue has made me feel less alone and more empowered to gain control of my life again. I just want to end by saying thanks to everyone who posted! It really helped and I hope my post helps some people struggling out there too! I know we can heal within if we believe we can do it! I have been struggling wit porn addiction for about seven years. Although it was worse a few years back I still have problems erradicating it from my life completely. I think the problem is that as I am being tempted I momentarily forget how bad I am going to feel later and become overwhelmed b the temptation. One thing I have tried the last few times when I get tempted is that instead of visiting a porn site I visit sites on how to stop porn addiction and I instead of feeling all the bad emotions after I close my computer I feel all the good ones. Instead of feeling guilt I feel responsible. Instead of being ashamed I feel like I held myself accountable. Instead of feeling less complete I feel more complete. Instead of feeling unsatisfied with m behavior I feel more satisfied. It really has helped and I can carry on with my day with much more happiness. I have come to believe in God like many of you and relying on His forgiveness as also been great.
Going to this site and others tat talk about tis issue has made me feel less alone and more empowered to gain control of my life again. I just want to end by saying thanks to everyone who posted! It really helped and I hope my post helps some people struggling out there too! I know we can heal within if we believe we can do it!

]]> Comment on How to Erase all Sexual Thoughts by Eric http://newlifehabits.com/2008/07/19/how-to-erase-all-sexual-thoughts/comment-page-1/#comment-30677 Eric Wed, 21 Mar 2012 07:17:22 +0000 http://newlifehabits.com/?p=72#comment-30677 All thing work for the good of those who love god and that god will use our weaknessess to make us stronger. Keep your faith in God and never lose hope. Always remember that God is there and he is there for you.I will be praying for all of you. Be strong.Cant offer any advice but always depend on God Your brother in Christ, Eric All thing work for the good of those who love god and that god will use our weaknessess to make us stronger. Keep your faith in God and never lose hope. Always remember that God is there and he is there for you.I will be praying for all of you. Be strong.Cant offer any advice but always depend on God

Your brother in Christ,
Eric

]]> Comment on How to Overcome Internet Pornography Addiction by k money http://newlifehabits.com/2007/08/10/how-to-overcome-internet-pornography-addiction/comment-page-2/#comment-30663 k money Mon, 19 Mar 2012 05:12:11 +0000 http://newlifehabits.com/2007/08/10/how-to-overcome-internet-pornography-addiction/#comment-30663 Im 38 a married christian man and I have struggled with porn all my life,for me I am most vulerable alone in my room or at work surfing the internet.Its a lifelong struggle that makes u feel empty at the end of the sin.It is such an encouragement to know that we are not alone in our struggles to overcome porn.The weakness comes out of loneliness,hurt,pain and the escape from the hardships of daily life.I have quit before but when I bought a galaxy tablet I found myself watching it alot lately.I will pray for Gods forgiveness and do my best to walk away and pray for you all as well.The more we spend time with the Lord we realize that we must do our best to overcome this sin. Im 38 a married christian man and I have struggled with porn all my life,for me I am most vulerable alone in my room or at work surfing the internet.Its a lifelong struggle that makes u feel empty at the end of the sin.It is such an encouragement to know that we are not alone in our struggles to overcome porn.The weakness comes out of loneliness,hurt,pain and the escape from the hardships of daily life.I have quit before but when I bought a galaxy tablet I found myself watching it alot lately.I will pray for Gods forgiveness and do my best to walk away and pray for you all as well.The more we spend time with the Lord we realize that we must do our best to overcome this sin.

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