06.01.08

How to Decrease Sex Drive

Posted in Addiction, How to Overcome Addiction, Rehab, Treatment at 4:10 pm

Ever since I started this blog I have been hesitant to give any medical advice as I am no professional. However, I don’t feel it would be right to hide the fact that I myself sought medical help for my addictions.

Part of the reason I never mentioned it in previous blog posts is because I didn’t want people to think that a pill would fix all their problems. I was guilty of this before and learned the hard way that there is no magic solution or pill. There are, however, certain medicines that can assist in putting you back in control of your life if your doctor or psychiatrist prescribes it to you.

The problem with pornography or masturbation addiction is that your sex drive has been running far beyond normal healthy levels. It gets to the point where you need constant and more intense stimulation to get excited. At this point it is very difficult to go back to normal life as it seems far too boring for your mind and body. It really is like a drug addiction.

The body naturally goes through cycles of increased and decreased sex drive by increasing and decreasing different hormones. This is natural and normal. However, this process can be hijacked and run at damaging and addictive levels if self control is not practiced.

There are few ways to decrease a sex drive once it is out of control like this. One way is to just stop the addictive behaviors and let your body naturally readjust itself. Many people have been able to do this with success depending on the level of addiction. However, many people have short lived success with this method even after many tries. What usually happens is the person will stop everything cold turkey and start trying to be happy with a normal healthy life but in the beginning of this process nothing in life seems to compare with the stimulation levels of their previous habits. So they find it difficult to endure the seemingly boring new life and run back to the previous excitement of the bad habits, temporary as it may be.

This describes the scenario I repeated many times in my life. I would have such a difficult time waiting for my sex drive to readjust back to normal. It was like fasting from food but more intense. I would get so hungry that I couldn’t stand it any more, when all I needed to do was endure the hunger pains and my appetite would have naturally adjusted.

Anyway, when I started to see a psychiatrist he prescribed me some anti-depressants for my depression. One of the side-effects, which turned out to be a benefit, was decreased sex drive. It didn’t completely go away but it gave me an opportunity to regain control and confidence.

Just so I make myself clear, this did not fix my problems, it only helped. Without applying the rest of the methods listed on this site I would have just gone right back to my bad habits after a false sense of success. This medication simply assisted in the process. In fact, my psychiatrist insisted that I receive ongoing therapy in conjunction with the medication until my life was back to normal.

This is not medical advice. I’m simply telling you about something that helped me. I know it’s not for everyone.

This combined with working on my spirituality (to fill the void I was previously trying to fill with bad things), a healthy diet and exercise, and thought control is was brought me true success.

Life adjusted back to normal and I found joy and excitement in things such as hobbies, education, friends, family, and many other things that got neglected. Life is wonderful when you’re back in control and more than exciting without misusing the body. Sexual relations with your spouse become special and wonderful again if you are married.

It does take time but it’s not as long as you may think and it is so worth it.

02.17.08

Addiction and Sex

Posted in Addiction, Help, Rehab, Treatment at 1:25 am

It’s nothing new these days to associate addiction with sex. It was before thought of as a figment of the imagination but people in general are starting to understand it is actually real. There are powerful biochemical processes that people simply cannot ignore. Sex and addiction are certainly related so far as sex is misused.

Sexual addiction is an often misunderstood term as most people assume it means someone who is addicted to having sex with others. While this is true it is not the complete definition. Sexual addiction is any kind of addiction pertaining to the sexual organs. Arguments against this seek to narrow a broad definition for reasons that do not help those seeking to understand sexual addiction in general.

I wrote a post some time ago called “Your Body has been Hijacked by Addiction” and the main purpose was to point out the powerful effects of misuse of sexual organs and bodily processes. I can call it misuse for several reasons but I will concentrate solely on the loss of personal control as evidence of unnatural habit.

Sex is powerful for a reason. It is not the reason most think. If you break it down into simple scientific and logical elements it is easy to see the sequence of necessary events in the body’s arousal process. We can of course CHOOSE to be “turned on” by anything. However, the natural born instincts tell us to be attracted to the opposite sex. The reason for this is two fold, recreate and bond.

Let’s concentrate on the bond part. If you misuse the body’s sexual processes you can bond to just about anything. You can bond to an imaginary world or porn, or you can bond to same sex, or you can bond to yourself through masturbation. None of this will ever feel consistently satisfying and you will always need constant stimulation. People in various stages of bonding, or rather addiction, may argue against this in defense.

You see, there is nothing more satisfying than doing what is right. Nothing makes you feel more content, secure, or satisfied. We all know what is right.