06.01.08
Posted in Addiction, How to Overcome Addiction, Rehab, Treatment
at 4:10 pm
Ever since I started this blog I have been hesitant to give any medical advice as I am no professional. However, I don’t feel it would be right to hide the fact that I myself sought medical help for my addictions.
Part of the reason I never mentioned it in previous blog posts is because I didn’t want people to think that a pill would fix all their problems. I was guilty of this before and learned the hard way that there is no magic solution or pill. There are, however, certain medicines that can assist in putting you back in control of your life if your doctor or psychiatrist prescribes it to you.
The problem with pornography or masturbation addiction is that your sex drive has been running far beyond normal healthy levels. It gets to the point where you need constant and more intense stimulation to get excited. At this point it is very difficult to go back to normal life as it seems far too boring for your mind and body. It really is like a drug addiction.
The body naturally goes through cycles of increased and decreased sex drive by increasing and decreasing different hormones. This is natural and normal. However, this process can be hijacked and run at damaging and addictive levels if self control is not practiced.
There are few ways to decrease a sex drive once it is out of control like this. One way is to just stop the addictive behaviors and let your body naturally readjust itself. Many people have been able to do this with success depending on the level of addiction. However, many people have short lived success with this method even after many tries. What usually happens is the person will stop everything cold turkey and start trying to be happy with a normal healthy life but in the beginning of this process nothing in life seems to compare with the stimulation levels of their previous habits. So they find it difficult to endure the seemingly boring new life and run back to the previous excitement of the bad habits, temporary as it may be.
This describes the scenario I repeated many times in my life. I would have such a difficult time waiting for my sex drive to readjust back to normal. It was like fasting from food but more intense. I would get so hungry that I couldn’t stand it any more, when all I needed to do was endure the hunger pains and my appetite would have naturally adjusted.
Anyway, when I started to see a psychiatrist he prescribed me some anti-depressants for my depression. One of the side-effects, which turned out to be a benefit, was decreased sex drive. It didn’t completely go away but it gave me an opportunity to regain control and confidence.
Just so I make myself clear, this did not fix my problems, it only helped. Without applying the rest of the methods listed on this site I would have just gone right back to my bad habits after a false sense of success. This medication simply assisted in the process. In fact, my psychiatrist insisted that I receive ongoing therapy in conjunction with the medication until my life was back to normal.
This is not medical advice. I’m simply telling you about something that helped me. I know it’s not for everyone.
This combined with working on my spirituality (to fill the void I was previously trying to fill with bad things), a healthy diet and exercise, and thought control is was brought me true success.
Life adjusted back to normal and I found joy and excitement in things such as hobbies, education, friends, family, and many other things that got neglected. Life is wonderful when you’re back in control and more than exciting without misusing the body. Sexual relations with your spouse become special and wonderful again if you are married.
It does take time but it’s not as long as you may think and it is so worth it.
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02.17.08
Posted in Addiction, Help, Rehab, Treatment
at 1:25 am
It’s nothing new these days to associate addiction with sex. It was before thought of as a figment of the imagination but people in general are starting to understand it is actually real. There are powerful biochemical processes that people simply cannot ignore. Sex and addiction are certainly related so far as sex is misused.
Sexual addiction is an often misunderstood term as most people assume it means someone who is addicted to having sex with others. While this is true it is not the complete definition. Sexual addiction is any kind of addiction pertaining to the sexual organs. Arguments against this seek to narrow a broad definition for reasons that do not help those seeking to understand sexual addiction in general.
I wrote a post some time ago called “Your Body has been Hijacked by Addiction” and the main purpose was to point out the powerful effects of misuse of sexual organs and bodily processes. I can call it misuse for several reasons but I will concentrate solely on the loss of personal control as evidence of unnatural habit.
Sex is powerful for a reason. It is not the reason most think. If you break it down into simple scientific and logical elements it is easy to see the sequence of necessary events in the body’s arousal process. We can of course CHOOSE to be “turned on” by anything. However, the natural born instincts tell us to be attracted to the opposite sex. The reason for this is two fold, recreate and bond.
Let’s concentrate on the bond part. If you misuse the body’s sexual processes you can bond to just about anything. You can bond to an imaginary world or porn, or you can bond to same sex, or you can bond to yourself through masturbation. None of this will ever feel consistently satisfying and you will always need constant stimulation. People in various stages of bonding, or rather addiction, may argue against this in defense.
You see, there is nothing more satisfying than doing what is right. Nothing makes you feel more content, secure, or satisfied. We all know what is right.
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02.08.08
Posted in Addiction, Pornography Addiction, porn addiction
at 6:31 am
When looking for help for a porn addiction it is easy to become quite frustrated. You see, they are relatively few therapists who specialize in sexual addiction. There are even fewer who actually know what they’re talking about. This does not mean it is impossible to find help for a porn addiction it just means it takes more effort to find one to help with this problem than perhaps other problems.
The point is that there is plenty of help out there but it may not be obvious at first. There are plenty of forums, therapist, or people struggling just like you who want to help. Don’t get frustrated and don’t feel alone. Help for your addiction is within easy reach.
I remember when I thought there was no one who understood me and no one who could help me with porn addiction. I was definitely surprised to find that someone did specialize in this field.
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02.07.08
Posted in Addiction, Attitude, Confidence, How to Overcome Addiction, Masturbation Addiction, Perseverance, Pornography Addiction, Relapse, Thought Control, porn addiction
at 5:27 am
There is much advice on this site about how to stop porn addiction. There is quite a range of suggestions involving physical and mental techniques. One of the top contributing factors to an addiction is an addiction to a certain thought pattern. Meaning you have been thinking a certain way for so long that it is difficult to think any other way. However, without completely changing the thought process that has assisted in keeping you in addiction you cannot hope for any long lasting success.
If you do not work out your emotions and thoughts then you will return to your vices. I will focus on thoughts for a moment here since everything stems from them, including emotions. I was reading an interesting article today written by Jonathan Leger titled “Think low and you will stay low”. This article highlighted the importance of overcoming mental barriers before you can overcome physical one. If you were to do this in the opposite order you would just return to what you have not worked out in your heart and mind and the cycle would repeat itself.
So you want to know how to stop porn addiction or any addiction. Start believing in yourself first because there is nothing that you cannot overcome if you believe and persevere. This is the first step and is very necessary. Stop all the negative self talk and start building yourself up with positive thoughts that cause you to believe in yourself no matter how many mistakes you have made.
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02.04.08
Posted in Addiction, Internet Filter, Internet Monitoring, Pornography Addiction, porn addiction
at 3:03 am
When speaking of porn addiction it is usually common to speak of internet porn addiction specifically. Why is this? Well for one, porn on the internet is plentiful and private. This creates the perfect recipe for an addiction to such. In fact, an internet porn addiction progresses at an exponentially faster rate than any other type of porn addiction.
Does this mean all is lost if you are addicted to porn on the internet? No, of course not, though it may feel that way. What it does mean is you have some tough choices to make. Do you get rid of the internet all together or perhaps get a decent filter/monitoring software. Perhaps you are in a job that requires you to use the internet on a daily basis. Is it time to go into another career field? These are decisions you need to study out and make yourself. What is saving and preserving your character worth to you? The reason for that question is simple; an internet porn addiction will quickly rob you of your great character traits
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Posted in Addiction, Blogroll, Masturbation Addiction, Pornography Addiction, porn addiction
at 2:50 am
How can you know if you or someone you know is addicted to porn? Sometimes it is obvious but most of the time it is not. Some signs and symptoms seem like the usual personality imperfections. So I have put together a list of the usually suspects concerning signs of porn addiction.
1. Are you distant in your relationships with other? Try to avoid interaction or affection?
2. Are you easily provoked, meaning you get offended or angry easily?
3. Do you or the person of concern seem opposite of the norm, almost like a totally different personality
4. Are you on the Internet far too long? This may sound extreme but there are few reasons to be on the Internet all day and night.
5. Do you find it difficult to be happy or content in any circumstance?
Some of these signs of porn addiction may sound like personality disorders, that’s because when a person is not in control of a major aspect of their life then they are not in control of their character or personality. Control of personality comes with self mastery.
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12.20.07
Posted in Addiction, Attitude, Boredom, Character, Confidence, How to Overcome Addiction, How to Stop, Masturbation Addiction, Pornography Addiction, porn addiction
at 4:04 am
I was listening to the news today and started to ponder a bit. The news is never too good of course, that’s not what brings in the money. The news is in the business of entertainment and not necessarily concerned with keeping you informed, though that’s how they defend their position. Anyway, I started to realize how sad the news was and how difficult it can be to live in the world if your reference is the news. Read the rest of this entry »
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12.03.07
Posted in Addiction, Boredom, Internet Filter, Internet Monitoring, Pornography Addiction, Relapse, Safe Environment, porn addiction
at 5:07 pm
If you feel like you absolutely must use the computer but are trying to stay away from porn then there are several things you can do. First off, please understand that there is no full proof 100% way to make your computer safe from the temptation of porn. There are several deterrents that, depending on your level of addiction, could be enough to do just that, deter you from looking at porn. Even when you have been free from looking at porn for awhile you still need to make your computer safe, for in your pride you’ll think you’re strong enough until your mental armor wears thin and you give into the temptation again. So here are some tips. Read the rest of this entry »
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11.12.07
Posted in Addiction, How to Overcome Addiction, How to Stop, Masturbation Addiction, Pornography Addiction, Safe Environment, porn addiction
at 4:19 pm
What is the purpose of rehabilitation centers? It is to give the addicted person a fair chance to recover. I say fair because there does come a point for many where unless you make some drastic changes in your life and environment you’ll continue to repeat the same cycle of addiction indefinitely. This certainly applies to pornography addiction. The alcoholic cannot stay sober if he continues to go to the bar or still has alcohol in the refrigerator. The person addicted to porn cannot kick the bad habit so long as they have easy access to the porn. Read the rest of this entry »
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10.10.07
Posted in Addiction, Attitude, Character, Confidence, How to Overcome Addiction, How to Stop, Masturbation Addiction, Perseverance, Pornography Addiction, Relapse, Spirituality and Addiction, Thought Control
at 9:03 am
There is no magic pill, no secret program, no super special technique to overcome an addiction. There are, however, steps and techniques you have forgotten or just never learned. The problem is, even with all the right knowledge and techniques at you disposal you won’t just automatically overcome addiction. There comes a point where you have to choose to work enough, believe enough, and be motivated enough to earn success. Read the rest of this entry »
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