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I don’t feel a strong need to seek out porn like I did before. I do however need to get a different phone as I forgot that stuff is accessible on it as well and slipped up. It’s a Blackberry and I talked to Verizon and they said there is no way to filter the […]

Don’t Lock Horns with the Devil Mark Chamberlain, Ph.D. Kevin thought he was addicted to pornography. “I must be. I’ve tried so hard to stop. I’ve worked for the last five years at it, and yet I still can’t kick the habit completely.” When I talked to him about his approach, it sounded like he […]

I know how it feels to want a quick way out of addiction. For years I was looking for the end all solution that would make everything all better in a hurry. However, porn addiction is like many other things in life, there is no quick fix or magic pill. I had to write this […]

One lesson I found very hard to learn as I set out to overcome porn addiction is that most of the time success will come gradually. There are those who appear to drop the addiction and never have the problem again. However, for most people, this is not the case. Most people have to gradually […]

Ok, so there is no way to erase thoughts other than perhaps amnesia. However, there is a way to not think of certain things, especially lustful things. It’s actually surprisingly simple since you are the master of your mind. I learned this technique from a friend who was struggling with the same thing. He said […]

You’ve most likely heard that alcohol is a depressant right? Well, so is pornography and masturbation. What do I mean? If you haven’t already experienced this then you will eventually if you are addicted to either porn or masturbation. There’s the excitement and then there are the low feelings of lack of self control that […]

It’s nothing new these days to associate addiction with sex. It was before thought of as a figment of the imagination but people in general are starting to understand it is actually real. There are powerful biochemical processes that people simply cannot ignore. Sex and addiction are certainly related so far as sex is misused. […]

When looking for help for a porn addiction it is easy to become quite frustrated. You see, they are relatively few therapists who specialize in sexual addiction. There are even fewer who actually know what they’re talking about. This does not mean it is impossible to find help for a porn addiction it just means […]

There is much advice on this site about how to stop porn addiction. There is quite a range of suggestions involving physical and mental techniques. One of the top contributing factors to an addiction is an addiction to a certain thought pattern. Meaning you have been thinking a certain way for so long that it […]

When speaking of porn addiction it is usually common to speak of internet porn addiction specifically. Why is this? Well for one, porn on the internet is plentiful and private. This creates the perfect recipe for an addiction to such. In fact, an internet porn addiction progresses at an exponentially faster rate than any other […]

How can you know if you or someone you know is addicted to porn? Sometimes it is obvious but most of the time it is not. Some signs and symptoms seem like the usual personality imperfections. So I have put together a list of the usually suspects concerning signs of porn addiction. 1. Are you […]

I was listening to the news today and started to ponder a bit. The news is never too good of course, that’s not what brings in the money. The news is in the business of entertainment and not necessarily concerned with keeping you informed, though that’s how they defend their position. Anyway, I started to […]

If you feel like you absolutely must use the computer but are trying to stay away from porn then there are several things you can do. First off, please understand that there is no full proof 100% way to make your computer safe from the temptation of porn. There are several deterrents that, depending on […]

What is the purpose of rehabilitation centers? It is to give the addicted person a fair chance to recover. I say fair because there does come a point for many where unless you make some drastic changes in your life and environment you’ll continue to repeat the same cycle of addiction indefinitely. This certainly applies […]

There is no magic pill, no secret program, no super special technique to overcome an addiction. There are, however, steps and techniques you have forgotten or just never learned. The problem is, even with all the right knowledge and techniques at you disposal you won’t just automatically overcome addiction. There comes a point where you […]

In order to change the way you act you have to change the way you think. Simple as that. While the truth of the matter may be simple, it is certainly easier said than done as your body and mind are sure to resist change. However, that just means it takes work to change. If […]

If you’re like I was then you’re probably racking your brain trying to figure out just how long it is going to take to overcome addiction. You might be asking yourself questions like, “How long does it take before my desires change?”, “When does this start to get easier?”, or “Why do I feel like […]

There is something so important that is often not understood by those trying to reach lofty goals. That is, you must learn to enjoy your new life if you expect to keep it. If you’re dieting then you must learn to enjoy your new life of exercise and healthy food options. If you’re an entrepreneur […]

Are diet and exercise really that important for overcoming an addiction? You’ve already heard how important diet and exercise is for good physical and mental health but how would this specifically apply to an addiction? Perhaps you’ll be surprised how neglecting these areas of your life are actually making it a lot more difficult to […]

I’ve read a lot of self-help books. In desperation to understand my addictions and figure out how to stop I searched for the perfect book that would fix everything for me. I thought I could find the book that would tell me the secret and everything would quickly be all better. Well, though I did […]

A big part of getting your porn addiction under control and creating a new life is replacing bad habits with good ones. You can’t just stop bad habits and expect everything to be good. You absolutely must fill that void and free time with good things you enjoy. I know sometimes it can be difficult […]

Sometimes, if a person is struggling enough, attending a Sexual Addicts Anonymous (SAA) meeting or 12 step meeting is necessary. I myself attended several out of a strong desire to overcome and frustration in not knowing what else to do. I attended non-denominational and denomination specific programs. I personally had mixed results. I found both […]

If I did not tell you about how spirituality helped me more than anything when overcoming addiction then I would be hiding something very important from you. I initially considered keeping this site religiously neutral. However, I found this difficult to do without leaving out some important parts of the subject. Spirituality is very important […]

I was talking to a friend one time and asked him the question, “How does a person deal with lonliness?” He said, “Good question, let me think about the answer and get back to you.” I called him a couple days later and he said, “I have an answer for you on that lonliness question.” […]

Let’s get something straight, we all have weaknesses. So why do we get mad at our weaknesses? I used to get irritated any time I felt vulnerable to temptation. I worked so hard to control my thoughts that I was trying to be something other than human. Human beings have feelings and weaknesses. I was […]


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