Comments on: “All or Nothing” Rarely Works with Porn Addiction http://newlifehabits.com/2009/04/05/%e2%80%9call-or-nothing%e2%80%9d-rarely-works-with-porn-addiction/ Fri, 27 Apr 2012 20:54:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Hurt http://newlifehabits.com/2009/04/05/%e2%80%9call-or-nothing%e2%80%9d-rarely-works-with-porn-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-29685 Hurt Mon, 11 Oct 2010 23:07:46 +0000 http://newlifehabits.com/?p=187#comment-29685 My boyfriend has been looking at porn and masturbating most of his life. He's been rejected sexually by the 2 partners he's had before me. Now he's with me, who has a very high sex drive, masturbation does nothing for me, and I prefer his touch. However, he has zero sex drive when it comes to wanting me. He says he loves me, and he shows it in many ways except out sex life SUCKS! He masturbates 3 to 4 times a day to porn. I've caught him many times, and he stops and closes the web browser and is all embarrassed, but I can't get him to understand that he's got a problem. He doesn't see himself as having a problem because he's been doing it for so long, and he doesn't see it as a sexual act. To him it's just a thing he does. However any counselor will tell you the act is to "stimulate a SEXUAL organ to come to a climax." I don't know what to do to make him realize he's hurting me, makes me feel insecure and like I am not satisfying him even though he says I do. I've told him how I feel, and how it makes me feel, but he doesn't seem to care. Now, I'm in counseling now for it. I know it's not me, however, I can't help but feel like it is. Is there anyway to get him to acknowledge what it is and what it's doing to us without hurting our relationship? He and I are coming apart over it, and I don't want to loose him over something so stupid. My boyfriend has been looking at porn and masturbating most of his life. He’s been rejected sexually by the 2 partners he’s had before me. Now he’s with me, who has a very high sex drive, masturbation does nothing for me, and I prefer his touch. However, he has zero sex drive when it comes to wanting me. He says he loves me, and he shows it in many ways except out sex life SUCKS! He masturbates 3 to 4 times a day to porn. I’ve caught him many times, and he stops and closes the web browser and is all embarrassed, but I can’t get him to understand that he’s got a problem. He doesn’t see himself as having a problem because he’s been doing it for so long, and he doesn’t see it as a sexual act. To him it’s just a thing he does. However any counselor will tell you the act is to “stimulate a SEXUAL organ to come to a climax.” I don’t know what to do to make him realize he’s hurting me, makes me feel insecure and like I am not satisfying him even though he says I do. I’ve told him how I feel, and how it makes me feel, but he doesn’t seem to care. Now, I’m in counseling now for it. I know it’s not me, however, I can’t help but feel like it is. Is there anyway to get him to acknowledge what it is and what it’s doing to us without hurting our relationship? He and I are coming apart over it, and I don’t want to loose him over something so stupid.

]]> By: Tom http://newlifehabits.com/2009/04/05/%e2%80%9call-or-nothing%e2%80%9d-rarely-works-with-porn-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-29511 Tom Sat, 03 Jul 2010 10:50:51 +0000 http://newlifehabits.com/?p=187#comment-29511 I have been looking at porn and masturbating for a long time more than twenty five years. It started when I first found one of my fathers hidden porn mags, (back then there was no internet) I am now 39 and still struggle with the addiction, I think I am mildly addicted but addicted all the same. I have tried to stop and will go for a month or so but than I can't resisted the urge, than I will get right back into it a waste all kinds of time looking at porn, pages and pages so much sick stuff on line. I am married have two kids and love my wife, but she c an't satisfy me the porn does not help. This site is great as I am back on the wagon after falling off for a few days after a little over a month of abstaining. It is true it gets easier and easier to keep your mind off of it and this site definitely kills the urge. I have decided to stop all on myself wile my wife was away with my kids I had some time to think and introspect and realize how damaging it is and how unproductive I am when I am into porn, it's like you don't have your life and live for the fix, it has led me to keep secret email addresses, creditcard, numerous sexual encounters, a couple of affairs, but the intimacy is not there, I like being with my wife a lot better, it is not the way I want to spend my life and is not what I want to teach my kids. I did not know i was addicted, but now I feel it is very disgusting and all things ugly. Thank you for the support and most of all the education. I have been looking at porn and masturbating for a long time more than twenty five years. It started when I first found one of my fathers hidden porn mags, (back then there was no internet) I am now 39 and still struggle with the addiction, I think I am mildly addicted but addicted all the same. I have tried to stop and will go for a month or so but than I can’t resisted the urge, than I will get right back into it a waste all kinds of time looking at porn, pages and pages so much sick stuff on line. I am married have two kids and love my wife, but she c an’t satisfy me the porn does not help.
This site is great as I am back on the wagon after falling off for a few days after a little over a month of abstaining.
It is true it gets easier and easier to keep your mind off of it and this site definitely kills the urge. I have decided to stop all on myself wile my wife was away with my kids I had some time to think and introspect and realize how damaging it is and how unproductive I am when I am into porn, it’s like you don’t have your life and live for the fix, it has led me to keep secret email addresses, creditcard, numerous sexual encounters, a couple of affairs, but the intimacy is not there, I like being with my wife a lot better, it is not the way I want to spend my life and is not what I want to teach my kids.
I did not know i was addicted, but now I feel it is very disgusting and all things ugly.
Thank you for the support and most of all the education.

]]> By: Stop Pornography http://newlifehabits.com/2009/04/05/%e2%80%9call-or-nothing%e2%80%9d-rarely-works-with-porn-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-29496 Stop Pornography Tue, 22 Jun 2010 21:39:38 +0000 http://newlifehabits.com/?p=187#comment-29496 Progress and not perfection! I wish I could one day just get the, arrive, be sober... But it is an ongoing journey. I am either moving forward or sliding back. Progress and not perfection!

I wish I could one day just get the, arrive, be sober… But it is an ongoing journey. I am either moving forward or sliding back.

]]> By: Vincent http://newlifehabits.com/2009/04/05/%e2%80%9call-or-nothing%e2%80%9d-rarely-works-with-porn-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-29469 Vincent Mon, 07 Jun 2010 08:32:03 +0000 http://newlifehabits.com/?p=187#comment-29469 I've yet to overcome porn, even though I've stopped for some weeks. I am beginning to think that I won't fall back on it. I wish I could say 100% that I am never going to fall back on it. Porn, strip joints are very addictive. No matter how strong you are or mentally willed, once you connect to it, even a peek, it'll suck you in super fast, like a very strong whirl. Why even go there, there is no way to win. We are like gasoline, it only takes one spark to set us off completely into flames. The purpose of porn is to introvert the individual and to disempower him. It makes people lazy, and it sucks the living life of one. It stimulates the mind negatively, and fixates the individual tremendously. I speak from experience, at this point of my life I feel like a sombie. It really does kill one spiritually. I am trying to recover that precious innocense and purity that I once had. I’ve yet to overcome porn, even though I’ve stopped for some weeks. I am beginning to think that I won’t fall back on it. I wish I could say 100% that I am never going to fall back on it. Porn, strip joints are very addictive. No matter how strong you are or mentally willed, once you connect to it, even a peek, it’ll suck you in super fast, like a very strong whirl. Why even go there, there is no way to win. We are like gasoline, it only takes one spark to set us off completely into flames.

The purpose of porn is to introvert the individual and to disempower him. It makes people lazy, and it sucks the living life of one. It stimulates the mind negatively, and fixates the individual tremendously. I speak from experience, at this point of my life I feel like a sombie. It really does kill one spiritually. I am trying to recover that precious innocense and purity that I once had.

]]> By: Dean http://newlifehabits.com/2009/04/05/%e2%80%9call-or-nothing%e2%80%9d-rarely-works-with-porn-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-29327 Dean Wed, 10 Mar 2010 15:17:14 +0000 http://newlifehabits.com/?p=187#comment-29327 I hate the rollercoaster of guilt that I put myself through, by continually looking at porn. I'm in a position where I can't see myself confessing my sin openly to people I live with and work with. I just want free of this, but I'm not sure I'll get free without confessing this openly. Are there any of you, out there, that have kicked this addiction without having told people around you? Is it possible? I hate the rollercoaster of guilt that I put myself through, by continually looking at porn. I’m in a position where I can’t see myself confessing my sin openly to people I live with and work with. I just want free of this, but I’m not sure I’ll get free without confessing this openly. Are there any of you, out there, that have kicked this addiction without having told people around you? Is it possible?

]]> By: Charlie http://newlifehabits.com/2009/04/05/%e2%80%9call-or-nothing%e2%80%9d-rarely-works-with-porn-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-29231 Charlie Fri, 15 Jan 2010 06:26:13 +0000 http://newlifehabits.com/?p=187#comment-29231 I know exactly how you feel. All you ever here is that MEN are into porn, and that ONLY MEN masturbate. I feel as though if women have the problem it is disgusting, or unnatural. I hope that we can both see that WE are not alone, and that WOMEN make mistakes just the same as men. Men and Women are together in this addiction! You are now my inspiration to overcome this addiction... knowing that I am NOT alone. -Charlie I know exactly how you feel. All you ever here is that MEN are into porn, and that ONLY MEN masturbate. I feel as though if women have the problem it is disgusting, or unnatural. I hope that we can both see that WE are not alone, and that WOMEN make mistakes just the same as men. Men and Women are together in this addiction!

You are now my inspiration to overcome this addiction… knowing that I am NOT alone.

-Charlie

]]> By: Enya http://newlifehabits.com/2009/04/05/%e2%80%9call-or-nothing%e2%80%9d-rarely-works-with-porn-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-29025 Enya Fri, 09 Oct 2009 23:13:50 +0000 http://newlifehabits.com/?p=187#comment-29025 I am a female, highly addited to internet porn. I always thought, 'Well who am I hurting? It's easy and it's free.' It's hurting me. I can no longer orgasim through regular sex with my man. I am often late for work. My home is a pigsty. I always, always feel fithy after I finish. I don't know what to do. 'm hoping this site and others like it will help me. Thing is, it's all men on these sites. No women. I feel very alone in this. I am a female, highly addited to internet porn. I always thought, ‘Well who am I hurting? It’s easy and it’s free.’
It’s hurting me. I can no longer orgasim through regular sex with my man. I am often late for work. My home is a pigsty. I always, always feel fithy after I finish. I don’t know what to do. ‘m hoping this site and others like it will help me. Thing is, it’s all men on these sites. No women. I feel very alone in this.

]]> By: Bill http://newlifehabits.com/2009/04/05/%e2%80%9call-or-nothing%e2%80%9d-rarely-works-with-porn-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-28873 Bill Sun, 06 Sep 2009 15:12:55 +0000 http://newlifehabits.com/?p=187#comment-28873 This kind of addiction is not something that can be easily overcome. A lot of the guys, I think, I know for myself, start to look at pornography, thinking they can be a macho guy and overcome it. Don't even start! It is also about admitting that we are messed up, and acknowledging it is the first step. Do you really want to live in lies, illusions and fantasies? I think we deserve more than the lies and empty promises pornography makes. This kind of addiction is not something that can be easily overcome. A lot of the guys, I think, I know for myself, start to look at pornography, thinking they can be a macho guy and overcome it. Don’t even start! It is also about admitting that we are messed up, and acknowledging it is the first step. Do you really want to live in lies, illusions and fantasies? I think we deserve more than the lies and empty promises pornography makes.

]]> By: mark http://newlifehabits.com/2009/04/05/%e2%80%9call-or-nothing%e2%80%9d-rarely-works-with-porn-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-28779 mark Thu, 27 Aug 2009 22:30:18 +0000 http://newlifehabits.com/?p=187#comment-28779 When ever I get tempted, I visit this site and read articles and comments and it helps put out the fire. Thats the only thing that has really worked for me. Porn is all about lies and illusions and traps. this site is about truth, reality and freedom. What we fill our eyes with will fill our whole body. When ever I get tempted, I visit this site and read articles and comments and it helps put out the fire. Thats the only thing that has really worked for me. Porn is all about lies and illusions and traps. this site is about truth, reality and freedom. What we fill our eyes with will fill our whole body.

]]> By: Jon http://newlifehabits.com/2009/04/05/%e2%80%9call-or-nothing%e2%80%9d-rarely-works-with-porn-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-28656 Jon Mon, 06 Jul 2009 06:51:05 +0000 http://newlifehabits.com/?p=187#comment-28656 Yea all i can say is that my buddy told me about this website and i have been a masterbation and porn addict for seven years. i want to change my perverted mind and also get out of my addictions to make me a better person, and to also hopefully keep a relationship for more than a week. I do have a girlfriend we have been going out for 5 days now, and she knows alot about me but she sorta knows im perverted. i have been really good and trying to control myself but the one thing she doesnt know yet is that i have the two addictions and i just figured out that i have a masterbation addiction just now so yea... im sorry for my grammar and punctuation but i absolutly know i will get past my problems and hopefully have a better relationship than my past 3.... Yea all i can say is that my buddy told me about this website and i have been a masterbation and porn addict for seven years. i want to change my perverted mind and also get out of my addictions to make me a better person, and to also hopefully keep a relationship for more than a week. I do have a girlfriend we have been going out for 5 days now, and she knows alot about me but she sorta knows im perverted. i have been really good and trying to control myself but the one thing she doesnt know yet is that i have the two addictions and i just figured out that i have a masterbation addiction just now so yea… im sorry for my grammar and punctuation but i absolutly know i will get past my problems and hopefully have a better relationship than my past 3….

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