How to Erase all Sexual Thoughts

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Ok, so there is no way to erase thoughts other than perhaps amnesia. However, there is a way to not think of certain things, especially lustful things. It’s actually surprisingly simple since you are the master of your mind.

I learned this technique from a friend who was struggling with the same thing. He said this, “What works best is just not thinking of porn. Not only that but also not thinking about ‘not thinking about it’. I know this sounds too simple but trust me it works 100% of the time.”

I was skeptical. He was right, it did sound too simple and I tried everything and thought I had already tried this idea as well. The problem was I never really applied this method effectively. I was so obsessed with conquering my addictions that that was all I ever thought about. If you’re religious I should mention that the Devil loves this tool. It seems like it’s not from him since it appears like a great thing to be thinking about stopping an addiction. However, stopping an addiction starts in the mind. Whatever controls your attention controls your life.

The key to proper implementation of this method is to remember that even thinking about not thinking about something is still in effect thinking about it. Ironic huh. Anyway, the goal is to think about something completely different whenever a momentary thought of the undesirable things enter your mind. This is not easy unless you have prepared beforehand with something at least almost as interesting as the addictive thoughts. You need something that will quickly take your mental attention off the sexually stimulating things and keep it off long enough for the wave of temptation to pass.

I will give you an example. I’m sort of an entrepreneur and love to think of new business ideas. That doesn’t mean I implement any of them. I just love to think about them and also talk to people about them. This is one of the only things that excite me as much if not more sometimes than thinking about lustful things. So in the event that I’m driving along and see a beautiful girl I will immediately shift my thoughts to some of my business ideas and keep it there. I’ll be honest; if I tried to apply this method by thinking about NASCAR then it wouldn’t work because that just doesn’t excite me.

Whatever excites you in life, other than your vices, will become very helpful tools in you escape from addiction. Think of your hobbies or passions. Sometimes you may have to discover a new hobby or passion. I did this. I started experimenting with new hobbies and just trying things out to see what I liked. You’ll be surprised at the things you didn’t realize you would like.

Something to remember is you have more mental power then you probably believe you have right now. One of the goals of addiction, or the devil, is to cause you to believe you no longer have this power. The doubt and depression certainly don’t contribute to self confidence. However, you can climb out of this mental dark abyss and feel free again. It will just take more mental muscle than if you were already practicing self mastery. It’s not as hard as it seems or “someone” would have you believe though.

Lastly, one more thing you should know, a thought entering your mind does not mean you have already given into a thought and you’ve done bad. That’s not true at all. Everybody, and I mean everybody, has bad thoughts enter their mind on a daily basis. What’s important is how you handle those thoughts, which is the purpose of this article. If you choose to dwell on that thought then yes that is bad but if you choose to control your mind and switch to another thought quickly then you have done well. Never get down on yourself though if you don’t apply this method well at first. It takes practice, somethimes a lot of practice which means a lot of learning from mistakes.

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11 Comments

Jonathan on 12.08.2008 at 22:43 (Reply)

I just found your site. I’m glad someone out there takes the traditional view of masturbation as both physically and psychologically harmful (whether or not it actually causes blindness or whatever). It is hard to break the addiction when medical authorities are always telling you that it’s healthy (imagining trying to quit drugs or smoking if they told you it was perfectly healthy!), but the truth is God really did not intend us to engage in this behavior!
I am a Christian struggling to overcome my addiction to pornography and masturbation. With God’s help and your advice I know I can overcome it.

In Christ

Jonathan
Romeo on 09.03.2009 at 18:16 (Reply)

Thanks man great article God Bless you
Joe on 27.03.2009 at 07:57 (Reply)

I am not religious but for as long as I can remember about the only thing I have on my mind is sex. I have a loving beautifull wife and a perfict baby boy but I still can’t stop fantasizing about every girl I see. Thanks for the tip I hope to be able to gain controll over my vices.
marshal on 26.04.2009 at 04:06 (Reply)

Thank you for this article. It makes all the spiritual and psychological sense. The bible says as a man thinks in his heart so is he. You are so right then when you say that we do have much more mental power than we realise. The more we think positively the more we build ourselves up to better people.

Christian or not, realise that you have a God given drive to make great things happen, it begins in the mind.
fransisco on 06.05.2009 at 05:05 (Reply)

im so close to get my urges gone,the only thing left is the porn addiction
i dont get aroused no more by myself. All of you here should work on contain-
ing those lustful thoughts and it would truly work,but first u need a role model to keep you moving in progress.
joseph on 04.06.2009 at 22:33 (Reply)

hi im new to this site and i just sent off for the seven steps wow i see im not the only one out there that struggles with mastebation and pornagrafy and bad sexual thoughts.and im also a christian and i hate those thoughts so im going to check out the programs here and go from there.thank GOD for this site .
jonathan on 28.06.2009 at 07:27 (Reply)

this is cool. i actually thought about this theory that “thinking of not thinking about something is in effect thinking about it” too when i was a lot younger, maybe 5 or 6 years ago. i tried to get rid of my addiction with that theory as well, and it worked well for a period of time.. dont really remember, but i think it was for about 2 or 3 weeks. but i eventually felt a need for it after that period, and returned to the addiction. it’s really frustrating coz i couldn’t find something else that could preoccupy my mind more than the addiction. u’re going on the right lines, but there’s certainly something missing there.
Jayce hancock on 03.08.2009 at 06:17 (Reply)

Hey thank u so much. Porn destroys not just mr but my friends and family. I can’t do this without God.
1. Anonymous on 05.09.2009 at 05:11 (Reply)
  
  God never throws anything at you that you cant handle. Overcoming the addiction will strengthen your willpower to more than it ever has been.
someone on 12.12.2009 at 08:38 (Reply)

its strong in the mind it controls the body its the masterbation then the thinking and then the action and where it starts when your alone , you seem that you cant control it , and it gets harder and harder to resist i try praying so it will go away but the tempter the spirit of the air trows darts at us in this area , some people it will be drugs, drinking, gambling, but im there with you all its a struggle keep me in your prayers im trying deep down in my heart to stop these actions cause we can hurt other people to wheater gay or bi or straight, gby
overcome on 26.06.2010 at 02:37 (Reply)

i have a problem i would like some help, i used to watch anime , but i left that , the problem is i watched all kind of animes even ecchi and hentai, and now i feel like watching some non nudes hentai scenes , and when that happens i get some sexual pleasure and orgams , im a little vouyerist , so i hope this thing works ,

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