Comments on: Pornography is a Depressant

By: Free Myself

Free Myself — Sun, 20 Feb 2011 05:39:47 +0000

Hey David, im in a similar situation as you….know that im there for you. Even though I don’t know you. Im in a similar fear state….ive done things that I fear my family will find out about with this stuff. I’ve been addicted since I was 13 years old. Been ashamed of it from year one….but never knew how best to go about talking about it. And you know….the years build on and on, and the longer it takes to come out, the harder it is to spill it out to the people who care about us….

My advice to you is to be calm about it…..in my situation I have used the breathing technique he talked about on his site here….and it has literally ended my addiction so far…..its kind of a dumb way, but I tested it. I got on a computer last night for the entire night, and any time any pang of temptation came I did deep breathing to control and calm myself down…..Its amazing.

My e-mail is freemyself53 at yahoo.com if you want to talk some more David, same for anyone else here……im committed to helping others overcome what I have just barely overcome, I don’t think the fight is over, but I am gaining the upper hand! Thanks a ton to this site…You are an amazing person!

And David, your a great person too, you have made bad decisions, like all of us. Don’t let that define who you are though and what your future still holds for you!

(note to web owner): If I double-posted, accident. Apologize if I did.

By: Free Myself

Free Myself — Sun, 20 Feb 2011 05:38:31 +0000

And David, your a great person too, you have made bad decisions, like all of us. Don’t let that define who you are though and what your future still holds for you!

By: Vickie59

Vickie59 — Fri, 11 Feb 2011 02:55:40 +0000

I have a 9 year disaster myself. My boyfriend was asked to leave our home state by a judge that said he was beyond any help the court could offer.He had a criminal historyGettin of voyerisim for over 20 years. Forced to move to Florida he
Transferred voyerisim for web porn. He ignores me, he,s distant, snotty, always un happy, no ambition, no goals. Just lives to sneak away and jack his dick. I don,t have the problem with porn Im not a prude. I have a problem with him
Getting all the sex he wants and I cant even get a hug, a kiss
Conversation and lets not forget, sex.I get it 2 maybe 3 times a month and He hates me even bothering him with something so trivial as my need for sex. We havent had loveable sex in 7 years. I adore this man thats why I stay, but I live a sick ass life to do it. I am middle aged but put together well, dress well, make good money, pay over 1/2 the bills, 123 lbs, hell my boobs dont even sag, and yet totaly
Ignored all for PORN. I will not live one more year like this.

By: David

David — Wed, 10 Nov 2010 23:51:26 +0000

So I just goolge searched addiction to porn and i found this site. Im really glad i did. I need help. I am 25 and for years i have been addicted to porn and masterbation. I never saw it as a problem. because of my behaviour i am losing everyone around me. I am destroying every decent aspect of my life. I have pushed my addiction to the point i like making homevideos, pics with the girls ive been with. almost like a stamp collection of homemade porn. Here’s what has caused me to beleive i have a problem..
I recently got caught for copying a photo on my roomates computer of his gf topless. It was a complete accident that i stumbled upon the photo but where i went wrong is that i sent it to myself in an email. Well my girlfriend didnt find it too amusing. she broke up with me and told my roomate. he got pissed and kicked me out. I was already moving out this weekend but he asked i left by the next day. so this is where im at.
when i was younger in my mid teens i would masterbate constantly. to even the fuzzy porn channels that didnt come in all the way. after reading a little bit on porn addiction i realize i have a problem. I realy wish it didnt tear my relationship apart but now i am living with the concequences. i feel ashamed and the lowest of my entire life. this all happened 2-3 days ago and im going crazy. I am afraid to be known. i havent gone to school in fear that someone might know. I am really scared about this going on facebook or something. its too easy to slander someone these days and i dont know what to do. if you have any suggestions on help i would appreciate it. i literally dont have a friend in the world right now that i can go to this with. im ashamed to even speak to anyone i know. thanks

By: Hurt :(

Hurt :( — Tue, 09 Nov 2010 00:09:38 +0000

Hi Hurt, I just wanted u to know that I am in the same situation. my partner of 8years also has a porn and masturbation addiction that he will not admit to. I am also lucky to have him to myself once a month, We have had so many fights about it in the past and now again. For some reason he likes to do it while Im at home & I no he does it. Now whenever he is on the computer Im paranoid that he is looking at porn. I am now scared to even try and be with him as I dont want to be rejected as he most likely masturbated that day. It is realy hurting me as I am feeling depressed and not good enough, I try & dress pretty for him & that never works. I really think that he prefers porn over me, sometimes I wonder why does he even want me? What am I here for? I know he loves me & I love him but this is just ruining our relationship. I have tried talking to him so many times but he just denys it and says thats its all in my head. I really need help as I dont want to break up with him over this. HELP!!!

By: Hurt

Hurt — Sat, 16 Oct 2010 16:04:21 +0000

My boyfriend has an addiction to porn and masturbation, but refuses to see his problem. I’m lucky if I get to have him to myself once a month, we have been together for almost 3 years. I’m now seeing a counselor because it has cause some serious anxiety issues and depression for me, but he still doesn’t see it but as a harmless, and I quote “I don’t see it as a sexual act”, just something he does. He watches porn and masturbates on average of 3 to 4 times a day depending on when I’m not home or I’m sleeping. He wakes up and does it, comes home from lunch and does it, and before he goes to bed. If I leave the house between these times when he’s home he’s doing it. I’ve become obsessed with his addiction, and to the point I’m not helping anymore but hurting the relationship when I just want him to see that it’s not just me hurting us. I’m changing my habits, or at least working hard at doing it so I don’t push him away more and he’s helping me with such. I have no problems with him satisfying me, and I show him that on a daily basis. I love him and don’t want to loose him over something like this. I’ve done all I can, now I’m turning to those with similar issues for help. Please! I’m desperate now …

What I need is to know how do I get him to realize that he’s got a problem, it is a sexual addiction, and he’s also hurting us?

By: Meriam

Meriam — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 05:39:30 +0000

Hi
Today would be the first time in my life that i would actually admit to myself that i have a problem with masturbation and porn. this has been going on for years in my life and it had made a home for its self in my life some where and comes out when it wants to. It is really a depressant. I have struggled with this for a very long time. I need help. I am a christian, but each time i want to live that holy life, i slip and fall. i have been dying to tell my friends and family members but i am too ashamed to even say a word about it. it makes me sick. I sometimes hate my self for doing such an evil dirty foolish thing as this…I know to call the name of Jesus but i can’t seem to do so when i start. i am sick of this kind of life. I am single, hoping to be married one day and have kids, i am afraid that it would hinder me fro have a happy life. i need to stop this. i need help..ideas?

By: scissorhands

scissorhands — Sun, 03 Jan 2010 22:58:27 +0000

I’ve always felt self abuse to be an unnatural act… and yet, if you go through the trouble to research this private subject, you will find widespread acceptance of masturbation as a healthy act. What a load of shit. I can tell you, after being an active member of the church, listening to both sides of the story, personally knowing the depressed, the blessed, and everyone in between, that masturbation is a lustful, sinful act. It is a waste of passion, only perpetuated by the cesspool that is the American social state. This act, this self-loving sin, will confuse this generation. Only a man no longer in contact with his most blessed and intimate gift, could arrive at the convoluted, back ass-wards opinion that beating off for nothing more than personal pleasure is healthy, fulfilling experience. I feel like that person doesn’t deserve a penis. Don’t look at pornography, don’t waste your seed vicariously on a 2-dimensional whore. Be a man. Find a real woman. Do what you know in your heart is true.

By: Joe

Joe — Sun, 06 Dec 2009 02:52:36 +0000

Nathan, that’s exactly where I was when I was 15. I know that your post is a few months old now, and I would be thrilled if you are already able to tell me abou your success. But you should know that I went 3 years of being too embarassed to tell my parents that I had a problem with masturbation because I knew that they would not be happy with it. So many times I wanted to let it all out, but then I go scared and decided I could do it on my own, One day I got a burning feeling waiting for them to come home and I knew it wouldn’t leave unless I blurted it all out. So the second they walked in the door I told them before I could chicken out. And it’s what finally helped me to quit. They were disapointed, but supportive. I relapsed one more time, but I couldn’ disappoint my mom anymore. I’ve now gone 4 years without masturbating and it feels wonderful. Sometimes it’s been tempting to do it just once and that’s it, but deep down I know that can’t work. The longer I’ve gone the less I get tempted to masturbate.

By: NAY

NAY — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 05:39:19 +0000

Nate I too struggle with porn. Listen one word JESUS. For real man. Whenever u feel the need to go on the sides, Call on His Name, run out go out call a friend. Call his name call his name call his name. This thing is so hard and has us become slaves to it. We have become slaves to Pornography.WOW. We need to master it, its hard but we need His God’s power. Ask someone how to receive His Power. I myself will be trying this with you. WE NEED DELIVERANCE. It has a hold of us. I know many people especially Christians going through this. Isnt funny how its targeting Christians, ministers, Evangelist Pastors, people who work for the Kingdom???/ Its out to destroy us and master us. I cant let it. Write me back