The problem is, I love him. Even though sometimes looking at him makes my stomach turn, and I can’t sleep at night because the nightmares of him and someone else wake me up and then the thoughts keep me awake.

I think I am deciding to stay with him. After reading countless articles on your website, even though his addiction is slightly different, I can see that he had a problem. When I talk to him, I can see that he has hit rock bottom and he is wanting to change, not for me, but for himself and me.

I want to thank you for opening yourself and your life up to complete strangers in the hopes that it can save someone else from self-destruction. From all the comments on the articles I can see that you are doing a great thing.

If you have any advice for spouses, I would really appreciate it. Or if you know someone I could talk to that has been through my side of things that would be great, too.

Best of luck to everyone out there. Seek help and guidance. There will always be someone who loves you enough to help you be accountable for your actions and help you overcome your weaknesses.

My eyes are wet as I write this. This is a tremendous struggle and I sure wish I hadn’t started with the porn in the first place. How harmless did it seem to a 13 year old who just found his brother’s magazine under the bed?

Now that I’m 40 and am going through a very real mid-life crisis, I see exactly what you mean by bonding. I feel that the loneliness I am experiencing is a direct result of the severing of the bond between my true self and my eyes and hands. The pain is incredible.

Thanks for the website. I’m getting some very good perspectives.