Comments on: How to Stop Porn Addiction

By: Stephen

Stephen — Mon, 28 Feb 2011 22:41:39 +0000

This week I have made the initial strides to stop my addiction. Lately I have grown in many areas spiritually when I decided to rededicate myself to the Lord but this addiction to masturbation has been holding me back as of late. I’m very proud of going out and drinking way less, as I used to go out everyweekend. And there are other strides I’ve made as well such as consulting the Bible and the scriptures daily or at least weekly. I making many progresses and I have been blessed by the Lord Jesus in making these progresses but I decided yesterday that I need to stop my addiction to porn and masturbation.
I believe I realized why I have been tormenting myself and the main reasons for why I return to this habbit. First I believe a have a low self image of myself. I think I let guilt from my parent’s divorce and my dad’s decision to be a homosexual affect how I think about myself. Because I have a low self esteem, my social interactions with women are usually worse and in many cases I’m too shy and I have reverted to masturbation for too long.
I can see by the other posts that this is truly a tormenting sin. For me this has truly become tormentful because in the past year or so I have been watching worse kinds of porn. Also there was an experience I had with someone who I chose as a best friend for many years but he was a very bad influence. He often tempted me to try and score with girls and think bad lustful thoughts. Then one day he tried to seduce me in my room and that has forever left a scar on me. Lately I’ve been getting images of homo rotic thoughts and they scare me because I know i’m not a homo sexual but ever since I followed sinners and behaved in this way, I have been tormenting myself further and further. I have truly let the views of sinners and the harmful acts they have done to me break much of my will and torment my mind.
Thus I have decided to stop tormenting myself. That’s why I set up parenting controls on this computer. Blocked porn sites just in case. Go to this website for help. I want to be the best christian I can be, but I know that is dificult when I keep feeling guilty and trapped in the sins I do not want to commit. I will pray for you all my brothers and I believe that God can help us change our ways. If you have advice for I may let those certain past events torment, I would greatly apreciated in hearing them.

By: Parker

Parker — Wed, 23 Feb 2011 09:11:34 +0000

@Brendan
My name is Parker.
I had my first experience with pornography when I was seven years old. It had a hold on me for 11 years of my life until recently. Though I still find myself dabbling lightly in soft porn (Which I am having a hard time with and is why I am here), though I have kicked hardcore, videos, and masturbation.
I would like to share what I’ve learned so folks like the 12 year old above me do not have to endure what I did. I will be frank.
The hard facts:
– Society at large knows pornography and sexual exploitation is wrong. However, to justify its actions, pornography and gratuitous sexual innuendo has worked its way into popular media by scared and ashamed crouching masturbators just like you and I. And so, slowly, these norms of female disrespect and sexual looseness have invaded our values en masse due to the huge impact media has on our lives. It goes like this: in the medieval ages and before actions like rape, adultery, and in some cases even lusting after a married woman were punishable by death. But slowly as materials and ideas became more distributable and common, the sexual perversions of a few deviants were accessible by the people in their region, then nation, and now with the advent of the internet, available accidentally to a seven year old child on the other side of the world. As the accessibility grew, so did the acceptance, until now when you can’t go a day on mainstream TV without hearing or seeing something inappropriately sexual.
The media has dumbed down our values and is now capitalizing on it via pornography.
Remember this when you laugh at a sexual joke on TV, but then feel ashamed after you’ve looked at pornography.
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-Something that delays or personal improvement in people -trying to quit pornography is the thought that “I will be able change when I _____” i.e. “I will be able to quit when I am married and am sexually active with my wife” or “I will be able to quit when I have that job and have less idle time alone.”
The hard fact of the matter is if you want to change, you must change now. Right now. As a 9 year old I would have NEVER imagined that I would still be into it when I was 19. And yet 10 years later there I was. 10 years from now you will be the same person with the same desires regardless of marriage, children, the amazing job, or the hot girlfriend, unless you make a rock-solid DECISION TO CHANGE Right. Now.
That realization was the turning point for me. In the future I want nothing more to have an grade-A incredible relationship with my wife and a beautiful and trusting relationship with my children.
Pornography does not factor in there.
I need to have the utmost respect for my wife and her womanhood which is not possible when saturated with images of fakery and disrespect. And I need the confidence and rock-solid values needed to raise kids lovingly. Rather than creeping away into the den and not being able to look my wife or kids in the face.
Remember, just like many great things, pornography and sexual addiction can be likened unto a seed; if it is planted and you continue to water it (even slightly) it will grow.

Please, for your sake and the sake of your family or future family, starve the seed!
Good luck fellows and ladies. I will truly be praying for
you, please do the same for me.
– Parker

By: Brian

Brian — Sun, 13 Feb 2011 22:10:33 +0000

Just like many of you, I have given this problem over to God. This time, it is different. I no longer feel the fear that I have lived with. I have gone a week with relative ease and I feel like I have finally found the issue for me. It was the struggle, the pain and then the commiting of the act. It became a very serious cycle that I was addicted to. I believe that it is like a bear trap – the more I struggled, the more it hurt and the more pain I felt. Now, I have decided that giving it to God means the same as it means for anything else – as long as it is His, I will win. When it becomes mine again, I lose. Do not try, rather decide and do! Also, realize that you did not just pick this up in a day or two or three. This has been building in your life and progressing in a way that is self defeating and tears you down. You cannot put this out of your life in a day. You can and should commit to a journey – the journey of allowing God to rid you of it. God bless you all and never forget just how much Jesus loves each and every one of you! He did then, he does this very second and will for eternity. Ask Him!

By: Brendan

Brendan — Wed, 09 Feb 2011 04:47:39 +0000

hi every one i am 12 years old and i have a problem with porn it has got me in so much trouble that i might go to military school for it god will help me i know but i wish porn never exsited all types i wish never exsited it makes me feel bad i wish someone would reply

By: Ant

Ant — Mon, 31 Jan 2011 17:27:57 +0000

Today I Prayed asked GOD to Stop my addiction to Sex and Cyber Porn addiction. I came across this site Read EVERY post and accept the challenge of what I MUST do to overcome THESE addictions. I was looking for a Prositute TODAY but I will refrain, Will destroy my porn collection and began to work on changing my Trigger patterns emotions for the addictions. Reading All of you alls post has helped and inspired and I hope you all are inspired as well. We Can get through this with GODS Mercy and follow his will, words and ways as ALL time Hope GOD blesses you all the addicts, co addicts and recovery addicts GOD bless us ALL>

By: John

John — Mon, 31 Jan 2011 07:56:30 +0000

I am still a really young teenager and I can’t stop myself secretly going on the computer looking for porn. Ive tried to stop countless times but after a few days, I can’t stop myself. Once Ive done it, i feel so bad and wonder why I couldn’t have stopped in the first place. This is my guilty addiction which really makes me ashamed of myself and feel that i don’t deserve such good friends and family. Can someone please pray for me because I really want to stop. I want to let people know that this is actually harder than I thought it would have been. The only reason why i started was the devil. He is sooo sneaky. I hate him so much. Porn has totally wrecked my mental and emotional life. I am not brave enough to tell my family, friends or pastor. I am too ashamed. Please pray for me cos I am having trouble battling against porn addiction and masturbation. Thanks =D

By: dan

dan — Wed, 19 Jan 2011 04:23:53 +0000

I have been using porn about two to three times a week to masterbate sometimes more during the winter months. I am ok with masterbation and I think its healthy when done in moderation but using porn makes me feel shallow and like a low life.

I pray to god to give us the strength to live and think rightly from this day forward. Lets battle this like warriors !!!! Pray everyday . Don’t give up on god because he will never give up on us. We have one life to live fill our lives with good things.

By: Phil

Phil — Mon, 25 Oct 2010 08:46:15 +0000

I have been addicted for a long time to masturbation. The internet has only made it worse and I needed to have more and more “hard core” porn to satisfy myself. I made a choice to stop and it has been 55 long days since I have seen porn or masturbated. The 55 days have been long and hard. I am determined to keep going and free myself but it is very hard. This website has been a lifeline for me. I know that I am not alone in this struggle and there are others struggling to be free too. God bless!

By: ben

ben — Fri, 22 Oct 2010 07:25:55 +0000

Thank you for this opportunity to share. I’ve been addicted for over 10 years due to the ease the internet. Unfortunately, I have seen the evolution of internet access. Thank you for your comments because I feel like I have the strength to continue to try with grace and strength. The articles have helped me with the strategies to overcome, especially the idea of welcoming the temptation as an opportunity to focus on other details around me. Please pray for me because I know I will need it but I am again encouraged by your writings and your faith.

By: karma

karma — Tue, 19 Oct 2010 06:59:12 +0000

hello jack i have the same problem and you and mike described exactly how i feel. id love to have someone to talk to about this because i’ve never talked about it to anyone and i really need any help i can get..so if we could email each other about it would be really helpful..