Comments on: Signs of Porn Addiction

By: Anne

Anne — Sat, 07 Apr 2012 01:15:45 +0000

I don’t know what to do, where to start, etc. My husband is addicted to watching porn videos or onlne on a daily basis. He’s a former cocaine addict, diagnosed w.depression so porn is right up his ally. He’s never denied ‘needing’ his videos & I’ve put up w/it, but i can’t stand the online thing cuz I think it’s just a maturation of the addiction & wonder ‘what’s next…an affair’?. During sex I constantly wonder ‘is he fantasizing about watching his porn’, etc. im now at point to where i wonder if all he does is compare me to the porn & I’m not as good. my self esteem has dropped, i’ve put on weight because of it which has just doubled the problem. i wonder is there no more intimate connection, is he becoming lazy, is he so shy/passive that nothing is going to work for him? I’m hurt and feel stuck, please help me on where to begin!

By: Tanya

Tanya — Thu, 24 Feb 2011 20:02:29 +0000

I believe my husband is becoming addicted to porn, more movies than internet. He is constantly buying movies on the t.v. two, sometimes up to four times a week, 3 hours long, access passes, wich allows him to watch different movies on six different channels w/ in those three hours. The first time i noticed this i put the “child” lock on the t.v. and he promised more than once that he wouldn’t watch them anymore, and siad he didn’t know why he was watching them. That was fine for a couple of months, till i unblocked the t.v., cuz the ratings were too high and we couldn’t even watch an R rated movie, I thought that i would give him the benefit of the doubt, and leave it unblocked, cuz i knew i could trust him….yeah right, i happened to check our purchases, and BAM…there is a ton of porn once agian. This time I am left felling low in my own self esteam, disgusted, overwhelmed, hurt, betrayed, lost confused, angry. not only this i have woken up in the middle of the night on more than one occasion to him masterbating beside me in the bed…..
Am i overreacting, or should i try to get him to see that this a problem, and try to work through it, or do i really just ignore it….i feel so lost…please some feedback…..

By: sheena

sheena — Wed, 19 Jan 2011 06:52:45 +0000

I don’t know what to do. I’ve been with my boyfriend a year and a half and we haven’t been intimate or had any sex in 14 months. I work evening shift and when I get home from work, shopping or anywhere, the computer shows he’s been watching porn for hours while I’ve been out. His underwear always seem to have hardened, crusty stuff on them all the time. He’s told me that he can’t concentrate or focus, but things will get better for us… he says he feels he’s getting better and things for us are going to get better. He’s lying. For over a year I’m thinking it’s the weight Ive gained or I’ve turned ugly for him… I wish someone could help me, as I’ve called many men’s clinics and they want almost $1000 to find out if his manhood works. I’m frustrated… please someone be honest and tell me what u think.

By: coy

coy — Tue, 22 Jun 2010 02:59:42 +0000

Hi im 17 and it was may 14th i didnt kno this girl at all and she was my prom date and we got to kno each other and i really love this girl but i feel like porn is in the way i want to give porn but i cant i can beat this i will stop watching it even if it kills me cuzz i really love this girl

By: scaredtoloseher

scaredtoloseher — Fri, 11 Jun 2010 12:55:37 +0000

I’ve been addicted to masturbation since i was 12. this was long before everyone had internet, but internet didn’t help when i got access. i’ve been with the same girl for 5 years now and can’t stand the thought of losing her. she means everything to me. december a year ago, we had a long discussion about porn and my addiction. i was in tears over the htought of losing her. but she stayed with me. and for a long time, i’ve had no problem. i still had the urges to seek out porn, but they faided. then a couple of months ago, they hit me again. i work nights and am alone while she’s asleep. some nights i make it through, some nights i don’t. this doesn’t happen at work, for clarification. last night, while home, i hit a site and she caught me. i want to be rid of this addiction. it’s not helping me at all. and yes, we’ve had problems in the bedroom. i think it’s my weight and general physical condition, but i will not deny the possibility that it could be porn related. everything else in our lives is great, except this. i can’t stand it. help.

By: Mack

Mack — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 20:31:07 +0000

It is so sad and tragic that porn is handicapping so many lives. The access to porn is far too easy. I would not want to be without the positive aspects of the net but am upset how far these porn sites penetrate into even the innocent areas. I guess that someone or lots of people are making fortunes through advertising for or on porn sites. The irony is that porn is a major reason we can have free access to the net. It is sad to see relationships suffering because so much sexual output is directed to porn and the viewing of it. I have to admit that most men are far too weak to resist it. We are visually stimulated to a high degree and porn plays on this. It is often called a victimless crime but there are victims.There are wives and partners who are starved of affection. There are many women caught up as sex slaves to provide the raw material. Most men are disgusted finally by their own weakness and the gross aspects of depravity they see. Should you just give up on your men? No! They are victims here too just as you are. The only way is love them through it. It won’t be easy and they will be reluctant to admit having this addiction but they need you to hang in there, to try. They don’t want to be where they are but they won’t change if they feel you are judgmental and aloof to their issues. Porn addiction is not a reason to walk away. If God can love us unconditionally as he does we owe it to our men to be be forgiving and understanding. Total honesty is the only way. You must be a best friend willing to face anything to rescue your man. If he feels exposed and talked about outside your relationship he may withdraw. I’m not saying you don’t need counsel or help with this but stay loyal to the outcome you want, your man back and healthy in your arms, not in front of a screen demoralised and alone. The masturbation thing is misleading in my opinion. All men will do this at various times when they have the need but what we are seeing at the moment is a peak in the destructive amount of visual material through the net which is making the problem much worse.

By: Gabriel

Gabriel — Sat, 20 Mar 2010 00:15:28 +0000

It’s interesting that most of the comments come from girls, having problems with boyfriends. From point of view of a boy (me) the drive to look for porn is really strong, even though I can without too much difficulty stay out of it for months. But if I let go, i can spend hours a day really easily. And it seems the intensity is stronger that real sex with my girlfriend. Although porn lets me with even more desire, and real sex satisfies much more, the need for it is never-ending.

By: MeJoe

MeJoe — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 12:54:40 +0000

I have been addicted to masturbation ever since I experienced it for the very first time. Obviously later on with the wide availability of porn on the internet and elsewhere I found myself as addicted as hell to pornography as well. My personality has just turned upside down. I can identify in first place my problem as being linked to a very low selfesteem. I have always considered myself unattractive being a slim type of male that I hated to be so badly. The only thing that I will tell you the addiction is real ladies, and, do not be too tough on your partners because they are trying their very best I know. we all do. The first thing you should do is to change the way you see your partner’s addiction. Instead of looking at him as an hypocrite deacon at church, dare see him rather like someone who is trying to serve God in spite of his own weaknesses. Stop seeing your partner’s addiction as if you were unattractive. No, it is not about you it is about the society of today. Internet, Porn one click away…We just all victims…Be of good cheer

By: Laura

Laura — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 05:35:33 +0000

I’m so glad I found this site, it helps to know that I’m not alone. I am in a 4 year relationship with my live in bf. I know he has a masturbation/porn addiction problem. He denies that he’s addicted even though he does it almost every day. I told him that it is affecting our relationship because he doesn’t come after me any more and is disinterested in sex with me. He flipped out and screamed at the top of his lungs at me for about an hour saying that we do not have any sexual problems and never ever to bring the subject up again and that I’m trying to think of reasons to complain. I’m so confused because I love him and as absurd as it sounds, I believe he loves me, he just loves porn/masturbation more. He just can’t admit that his addiction is affecting our sex life. I still don’t know what to do. I don’t want to leave him because other than this problem, he is a wonderful, loving and even very affectionate guy. This problem is just bigger than us, especially when he can’t admit that this is affecting us. I would like any advice anyone can offer me.

By: GM

GM — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 22:50:44 +0000

I started masturbating almost 10 years ago when I first got a computer. Before that I rarely touched myself to the point of orgasm. (I was a late bloomer at this habit.) Anyway, I discovered internet porn and also discovered sites where I could order my own dvds. I have a decent amount of x-rated movies. But due to financial troubles I had to stop buying so many. My viewing of them soon tapered off and I returned my focus to the internet porn sites. My addiction was a gradual and graduating process. I started off just looking at the usual activity. But after a while it got boring and I got into more kinky things like group sex, outdoor sex, s&m, pissing. Before long I was even looking at gay and transsexual porn. I’ve never had any real desires for gay sex but the more taboo the acts in the clips are the more intense the orgasm is. My addiction is greatest when I’m not in a relationship. I had problems with the last girl I was with and I believe porn addiction has a lot to do with it. With most of my sexual energy aimed at internet porn there wasn’t much left for her. This often led to erectile dysfunction, which made her angry when she was in the mood. Nowadays, I often experience erectile dysfunction while watching internet porn. I figure my next step is to give it up. Internet porn is time consuming and physically, mentally, and emotionally draining. I masturbated yesterday and I’m struggling not to as I write this. I probably should sign off when I’m done here. I have plenty of other healthy hobbies I could get into. I would like to hear your stories and any advice other porn addicts have.