Comments on: Signs of Porn Addiction

By: coy

coy — Tue, 22 Jun 2010 02:59:42 +0000

Hi im 17 and it was may 14th i didnt kno this girl at all and she was my prom date and we got to kno each other and i really love this girl but i feel like porn is in the way i want to give porn but i cant i can beat this i will stop watching it even if it kills me cuzz i really love this girl

By: scaredtoloseher

scaredtoloseher — Fri, 11 Jun 2010 12:55:37 +0000

I’ve been addicted to masturbation since i was 12. this was long before everyone had internet, but internet didn’t help when i got access. i’ve been with the same girl for 5 years now and can’t stand the thought of losing her. she means everything to me. december a year ago, we had a long discussion about porn and my addiction. i was in tears over the htought of losing her. but she stayed with me. and for a long time, i’ve had no problem. i still had the urges to seek out porn, but they faided. then a couple of months ago, they hit me again. i work nights and am alone while she’s asleep. some nights i make it through, some nights i don’t. this doesn’t happen at work, for clarification. last night, while home, i hit a site and she caught me. i want to be rid of this addiction. it’s not helping me at all. and yes, we’ve had problems in the bedroom. i think it’s my weight and general physical condition, but i will not deny the possibility that it could be porn related. everything else in our lives is great, except this. i can’t stand it. help.

By: Mack

Mack — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 20:31:07 +0000

It is so sad and tragic that porn is handicapping so many lives. The access to porn is far too easy. I would not want to be without the positive aspects of the net but am upset how far these porn sites penetrate into even the innocent areas. I guess that someone or lots of people are making fortunes through advertising for or on porn sites. The irony is that porn is a major reason we can have free access to the net. It is sad to see relationships suffering because so much sexual output is directed to porn and the viewing of it. I have to admit that most men are far too weak to resist it. We are visually stimulated to a high degree and porn plays on this. It is often called a victimless crime but there are victims.There are wives and partners who are starved of affection. There are many women caught up as sex slaves to provide the raw material. Most men are disgusted finally by their own weakness and the gross aspects of depravity they see. Should you just give up on your men? No! They are victims here too just as you are. The only way is love them through it. It won’t be easy and they will be reluctant to admit having this addiction but they need you to hang in there, to try. They don’t want to be where they are but they won’t change if they feel you are judgmental and aloof to their issues. Porn addiction is not a reason to walk away. If God can love us unconditionally as he does we owe it to our men to be be forgiving and understanding. Total honesty is the only way. You must be a best friend willing to face anything to rescue your man. If he feels exposed and talked about outside your relationship he may withdraw. I’m not saying you don’t need counsel or help with this but stay loyal to the outcome you want, your man back and healthy in your arms, not in front of a screen demoralised and alone. The masturbation thing is misleading in my opinion. All men will do this at various times when they have the need but what we are seeing at the moment is a peak in the destructive amount of visual material through the net which is making the problem much worse.

By: Gabriel

Gabriel — Sat, 20 Mar 2010 00:15:28 +0000

It’s interesting that most of the comments come from girls, having problems with boyfriends. From point of view of a boy (me) the drive to look for porn is really strong, even though I can without too much difficulty stay out of it for months. But if I let go, i can spend hours a day really easily. And it seems the intensity is stronger that real sex with my girlfriend. Although porn lets me with even more desire, and real sex satisfies much more, the need for it is never-ending.

By: MeJoe

MeJoe — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 12:54:40 +0000

I have been addicted to masturbation ever since I experienced it for the very first time. Obviously later on with the wide availability of porn on the internet and elsewhere I found myself as addicted as hell to pornography as well. My personality has just turned upside down. I can identify in first place my problem as being linked to a very low selfesteem. I have always considered myself unattractive being a slim type of male that I hated to be so badly. The only thing that I will tell you the addiction is real ladies, and, do not be too tough on your partners because they are trying their very best I know. we all do. The first thing you should do is to change the way you see your partner’s addiction. Instead of looking at him as an hypocrite deacon at church, dare see him rather like someone who is trying to serve God in spite of his own weaknesses. Stop seeing your partner’s addiction as if you were unattractive. No, it is not about you it is about the society of today. Internet, Porn one click away…We just all victims…Be of good cheer

By: Laura

Laura — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 05:35:33 +0000

I’m so glad I found this site, it helps to know that I’m not alone. I am in a 4 year relationship with my live in bf. I know he has a masturbation/porn addiction problem. He denies that he’s addicted even though he does it almost every day. I told him that it is affecting our relationship because he doesn’t come after me any more and is disinterested in sex with me. He flipped out and screamed at the top of his lungs at me for about an hour saying that we do not have any sexual problems and never ever to bring the subject up again and that I’m trying to think of reasons to complain. I’m so confused because I love him and as absurd as it sounds, I believe he loves me, he just loves porn/masturbation more. He just can’t admit that his addiction is affecting our sex life. I still don’t know what to do. I don’t want to leave him because other than this problem, he is a wonderful, loving and even very affectionate guy. This problem is just bigger than us, especially when he can’t admit that this is affecting us. I would like any advice anyone can offer me.

By: GM

GM — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 22:50:44 +0000

I started masturbating almost 10 years ago when I first got a computer. Before that I rarely touched myself to the point of orgasm. (I was a late bloomer at this habit.) Anyway, I discovered internet porn and also discovered sites where I could order my own dvds. I have a decent amount of x-rated movies. But due to financial troubles I had to stop buying so many. My viewing of them soon tapered off and I returned my focus to the internet porn sites. My addiction was a gradual and graduating process. I started off just looking at the usual activity. But after a while it got boring and I got into more kinky things like group sex, outdoor sex, s&m, pissing. Before long I was even looking at gay and transsexual porn. I’ve never had any real desires for gay sex but the more taboo the acts in the clips are the more intense the orgasm is. My addiction is greatest when I’m not in a relationship. I had problems with the last girl I was with and I believe porn addiction has a lot to do with it. With most of my sexual energy aimed at internet porn there wasn’t much left for her. This often led to erectile dysfunction, which made her angry when she was in the mood. Nowadays, I often experience erectile dysfunction while watching internet porn. I figure my next step is to give it up. Internet porn is time consuming and physically, mentally, and emotionally draining. I masturbated yesterday and I’m struggling not to as I write this. I probably should sign off when I’m done here. I have plenty of other healthy hobbies I could get into. I would like to hear your stories and any advice other porn addicts have.

By: A.H.A

A.H.A — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 01:20:51 +0000

I’m young (19) and I’m in a half year relationship. But, I’m already engaged and I know from the bottom of my heart that we will be together for our lives. I’m addicted to porn. Since when I was around 11 I was masturbating, increasingly to porn. By the time I was 18 I had enough porn to fill a small hard drive, I had porn on my desktop, I had porn in every folder on my computer, I had a shortcut to porn on my keyboard. I had porn in my browser bookmarks, I knew hundreds of sites off by heart. I used to use porn for maybe 5 hours a day. I used to talk about porn to my old friends. I had almost every symptom of the addiction. Then I met her. Within days of meeting her I already knew she was special to me, and, I eradicated my porn collections, and before we even agreed to date, I told her I wouldn’t watch porn again! I was using my newly growing love to defeat my addiction. Throughout the past 6 months, I had a daily internal struggle to remain honest to my commitment and relationship. My feelings quickly developed for her into love. We engaged to marry. Then we had a long period of not being able to have any intimate time due to our lives. I relapsed. Hard. I was having my usual insomnia, and she went to bed earlier than I. Then suddenly I found myself staring at my browsers start page and very turned on. Masturbation is common in my relationship, and we embrace it at times of long-distance (which we are frequently in). But, this night instead of using our own videos and pictures (which we both consensually store), I got the urge. I had that voice, that desire, that need. I thought “Why.. not.. check.. the.. site? What will go wrong? I’m innocent right? I’ll just look at one picture then- or maybe tw- thre- fify? a hundred?”. The rest writes itself. Knowing I’ve had a seriously bad addiction I’ve curbed for 6 months, I tried again. But, this time I kept going for 5 nights, not able to sleep, staying up, and masturbating. I felt awful, horrible, shameful. I considered punishing myself with self-harm or worse. I truly love my fiancée beyond anything, and my relapse made me feel worse than I have ever felt. I’ve contemplated suicide due to my messed up childhood before, and I guess I was close to going back to that. Yes, because of 5 nights of shame, that’s how much I care for my lover. Today I woke up and couldn’t even look her in the eye, I felt so guilty. I felt sick, I wanted to puke. I wanted to tear my eyes out and remove my manhood violently. Then, I looked to the internet for help as I had been for the past 3 nights. I installed software to stop myself, and gave the password to it to a relative to keep me from it (so I’m locked out of adult sites), but even then, I still had the retrospective guilt. I decided that, finally, I should tell my future wife. Well, all I can say is that I am the luckiest man alive to have someone as amazing as I do, since, after a whole day of being upset, we came to a place where we can recover as a couple, rather than having to do it in secret. It has, and will, have lasting consequences on our lives, but we will get past it with our love. And, hopefully soon her confidence will return, so we can resume our usual sex life. We have more than hope! We have love!! I tell this story so people will hopefully tell their partners, however early in their relationship to open up. If you truly love each other, it will work out. Don’t let the shame stop you! Don’t hide things, and don’t try to do it alone! It makes relapses only that much harder. Love can beat porn, love can beat all! – An Honest Atheist (while it helps, you don’t need religion to beat addiction)

By: Rae

Rae — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 00:17:22 +0000

I read this but none of the symptoms are shown through me.I get turned on easily and i masturbate on a daily basis to pornography.I don’t my relationships,and i don’t have low self esteem but i love masturbating and i think about sex all day.Am i a addict?

By: SD

SD — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 15:46:20 +0000

I have been with my husband feels like all my life, because we fell in love almost 30 years ago. There has been infedility in the relationship but here we are still together because we love each other and want to make it work. I never thought in a million years that I would be facing this now, his addiction with porn. If I even bring it up he gets furious, I believe that he is embarrased at himself for it and this is the reason he is in denial. He looks at porn on the internet every chance he is alone, he even masturbates while watching it. This has affected our relationship tremendously and he doesn’t even realize it because he won’t admit that he has a problem. I can’t even begin to explain how this has affected my self esteem, I find myself doing what I can to always look pretty and sexy for him but at the end of the day he prefers to look at porn and I can tell that this is what is on his mind and not me. I hate porn and what it has done to me, I feel like I am competing with something I can’t touch but it is something that definitely has his attention. When ever he is alone I’m always imagining what he is doing which is looking at porn, when I am on the phone with him I feel as he is rushing through the conversation so that he can go back to looking at porn. What is it about porn that is so addictive?? I feel that we have a good sex life but it is deminishing because of all the porn he looks at and I feel cheated, I feel that he would rather look at the girls on the porn site rather than me. When ever I look at him all I can think is, “were you looking at porn today”? I know he looks at it alot but he doesn’t know that I know about it, like I said if I was to bring it up he would get angry and stop talking to me. Now he is talking about buying a bigger screen and this is making my skin crall because in my mind this means bigger porn viewing, I feel sick to my stomach and even started smoking again due to the stress. I don’t like the fact that I can talk to him without him blowing a fuse but he doesn’t see this and on top of this he is a deacon at our church and I feel that he is not being the christian he is suppose to be, he wants to teach but he looks at porn more than he picks up the bible.. What do I do, I love my husband but I am becoming so insecure in our relationship, I feel like I have lost the fight..