Signs of Porn Addiction

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How can you know if you or someone you know is addicted to porn? Sometimes it is obvious but most of the time it is not. Some signs and symptoms seem like the usual personality imperfections. So I have put together a list of the usually suspects concerning signs of porn addiction.

1. Are you distant in your relationships with other? Try to avoid interaction or affection?

2. Are you easily provoked, meaning you get offended or angry easily?

3. Do you or the person of concern seem opposite of the norm, almost like a totally different personality

4. Are you on the Internet far too long? This may sound extreme but there are few reasons to be on the Internet all day and night.

5. Do you find it difficult to be happy or content in any circumstance?

Some of these signs of porn addiction may sound like personality disorders, that’s because when a person is not in control of a major aspect of their life then they are not in control of their character or personality. Control of personality comes with self mastery.

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3. Linda on 10.04.2009 at 19:11 (Reply)

   My boyfriend is addicted to porn but is in denial and it has completely affected our sex life… He says he has no drive. But he has a drive for porn.. Our relationship is falling apart.

   1. Sally on 27.09.2009 at 16:29 (Reply)

      Linda, I am having the same problem. It is hurting my self esteem and making me down on myself. I have asked why would you look at that when I am here, I do not understand. he told me it was part of being a guy. I even went to see a sex therapist for help. Of course he would not go and would not try any of the things she suggested. On my last visit she told me until he admitted to his addiction nothing would help. I would have to determine if I wanted to stay in this relationship or not. I love him very much and offered the world to help him. He gets upset with me when I try to talk about it. I wish I could tell you the magic secret to fixing this but I wanted you to know someone else is having the same problem. Stay strong!

      1. SD on 21.12.2009 at 23:56 (Reply)

         Linda, I know exactly how you feel, i’m so confused as to what my responsibility should be, i want to help him but he won’t admit it and if i bring it up he turns it around and gets mad at me.. i don’t have anyone to talk to about what i’m going through, my self esteem has hit rock bottom, i feel like i’m competing against something that i can’t touch.. i hate porn, we are growing farther apart because when i look at him all i see is him masturbating in front of the porn sites, it makes my self worth very low and this is affecting me physically, i don’t have an appetite, i started smoking again which is a habit that i tried so hard to kick..i try everything to make myself pretty and sexy for him but i guess it’s not enough, then he wonders why i can’t believe when he compliments me, i just don’t get it.. i never thought i would be facing this and to top it off he is a deacon at church which is devastating, if they only knew what a hypocrite he is..no one knows what i have to go through, the silence i keep hidden from everyone else..

4. Nobody2008 on 11.06.2009 at 11:27 (Reply)

   I am addicted to porn and I find it difficult to be happy or content in any circumstance. Thanks.

   1. SD on 23.12.2009 at 15:46 (Reply)

      I have been with my husband feels like all my life, because we fell in love almost 30 years ago. There has been infedility in the relationship but here we are still together because we love each other and want to make it work. I never thought in a million years that I would be facing this now, his addiction with porn. If I even bring it up he gets furious, I believe that he is embarrased at himself for it and this is the reason he is in denial. He looks at porn on the internet every chance he is alone, he even masturbates while watching it. This has affected our relationship tremendously and he doesn’t even realize it because he won’t admit that he has a problem. I can’t even begin to explain how this has affected my self esteem, I find myself doing what I can to always look pretty and sexy for him but at the end of the day he prefers to look at porn and I can tell that this is what is on his mind and not me. I hate porn and what it has done to me, I feel like I am competing with something I can’t touch but it is something that definitely has his attention. When ever he is alone I’m always imagining what he is doing which is looking at porn, when I am on the phone with him I feel as he is rushing through the conversation so that he can go back to looking at porn. What is it about porn that is so addictive?? I feel that we have a good sex life but it is deminishing because of all the porn he looks at and I feel cheated, I feel that he would rather look at the girls on the porn site rather than me. When ever I look at him all I can think is, “were you looking at porn today”? I know he looks at it alot but he doesn’t know that I know about it, like I said if I was to bring it up he would get angry and stop talking to me. Now he is talking about buying a bigger screen and this is making my skin crall because in my mind this means bigger porn viewing, I feel sick to my stomach and even started smoking again due to the stress. I don’t like the fact that I can talk to him without him blowing a fuse but he doesn’t see this and on top of this he is a deacon at our church and I feel that he is not being the christian he is suppose to be, he wants to teach but he looks at porn more than he picks up the bible.. What do I do, I love my husband but I am becoming so insecure in our relationship, I feel like I have lost the fight..

5. skass on 29.07.2009 at 00:30 (Reply)

   I’ve been trying to find out the key elements in why my life sucks for a while now and I’m totally shocked to see this brief list basically describing all the symptoms that I’m frustrated with. I knew I had porn addiction but I would have never thought it could be the root of all the other seemingly unrelated problems that I have so I never took it seriously.

   I’m very, very helpful for this entry, right now I feel it can change my life. I will eliminate porn addiction first and hope for the rest.

6. Jen on 12.11.2009 at 02:21 (Reply)

   My boyfriend has an addiction to porn and masturbation. He acknowledges the fact that he has the addiction and has taken some measures to try to help himself (internet block, meeting with a group weekly and accountability partners that he checks in with routinely). The majority of the measures taken came after a recent argument when I caught him in a lie pertaining to actions taken related to the addiction. He understands the damage that the addiction causes and as a means of trying to protect me he decided he needed to try to handle things on his own, so we are currently not together. There is no question that he loves me. We still talk every day and he sobs at the thought of losing me and the realization of the damage he’s already done. The struggle seems so great and the frustration and disappointment with himself so real. I love him dearly and don’t want to picture myself with anyone else. I’ve never dealt with this before… is it unrealistic to think that he can get a handle on his issues and have a normal, healthy relationship with me? This is truly devastating…

7. Rene on 13.12.2009 at 09:48 (Reply)

   very helpfull coments lets hope for no porn and live a better life, I dont like the feelings after I watch porn.

8. Rae on 28.12.2009 at 00:17 (Reply)

   I read this but none of the symptoms are shown through me.I get turned on easily and i masturbate on a daily basis to pornography.I don’t my relationships,and i don’t have low self esteem but i love masturbating and i think about sex all day.Am i a addict?

9. A.H.A on 28.12.2009 at 01:20 (Reply)

   I’m young (19) and I’m in a half year relationship. But, I’m already engaged and I know from the bottom of my heart that we will be together for our lives. I’m addicted to porn. Since when I was around 11 I was masturbating, increasingly to porn. By the time I was 18 I had enough porn to fill a small hard drive, I had porn on my desktop, I had porn in every folder on my computer, I had a shortcut to porn on my keyboard. I had porn in my browser bookmarks, I knew hundreds of sites off by heart. I used to use porn for maybe 5 hours a day. I used to talk about porn to my old friends. I had almost every symptom of the addiction. Then I met her. Within days of meeting her I already knew she was special to me, and, I eradicated my porn collections, and before we even agreed to date, I told her I wouldn’t watch porn again! I was using my newly growing love to defeat my addiction. Throughout the past 6 months, I had a daily internal struggle to remain honest to my commitment and relationship. My feelings quickly developed for her into love. We engaged to marry. Then we had a long period of not being able to have any intimate time due to our lives. I relapsed. Hard. I was having my usual insomnia, and she went to bed earlier than I. Then suddenly I found myself staring at my browsers start page and very turned on. Masturbation is common in my relationship, and we embrace it at times of long-distance (which we are frequently in). But, this night instead of using our own videos and pictures (which we both consensually store), I got the urge. I had that voice, that desire, that need. I thought “Why.. not.. check.. the.. site? What will go wrong? I’m innocent right? I’ll just look at one picture then- or maybe tw- thre- fify? a hundred?”. The rest writes itself. Knowing I’ve had a seriously bad addiction I’ve curbed for 6 months, I tried again. But, this time I kept going for 5 nights, not able to sleep, staying up, and masturbating. I felt awful, horrible, shameful. I considered punishing myself with self-harm or worse. I truly love my fiancée beyond anything, and my relapse made me feel worse than I have ever felt. I’ve contemplated suicide due to my messed up childhood before, and I guess I was close to going back to that. Yes, because of 5 nights of shame, that’s how much I care for my lover. Today I woke up and couldn’t even look her in the eye, I felt so guilty. I felt sick, I wanted to puke. I wanted to tear my eyes out and remove my manhood violently. Then, I looked to the internet for help as I had been for the past 3 nights. I installed software to stop myself, and gave the password to it to a relative to keep me from it (so I’m locked out of adult sites), but even then, I still had the retrospective guilt. I decided that, finally, I should tell my future wife. Well, all I can say is that I am the luckiest man alive to have someone as amazing as I do, since, after a whole day of being upset, we came to a place where we can recover as a couple, rather than having to do it in secret. It has, and will, have lasting consequences on our lives, but we will get past it with our love. And, hopefully soon her confidence will return, so we can resume our usual sex life. We have more than hope! We have love!! I tell this story so people will hopefully tell their partners, however early in their relationship to open up. If you truly love each other, it will work out. Don’t let the shame stop you! Don’t hide things, and don’t try to do it alone! It makes relapses only that much harder. Love can beat porn, love can beat all! – An Honest Atheist (while it helps, you don’t need religion to beat addiction)

10. GM on 12.01.2010 at 22:50 (Reply)

    I started masturbating almost 10 years ago when I first got a computer. Before that I rarely touched myself to the point of orgasm. (I was a late bloomer at this habit.) Anyway, I discovered internet porn and also discovered sites where I could order my own dvds. I have a decent amount of x-rated movies. But due to financial troubles I had to stop buying so many. My viewing of them soon tapered off and I returned my focus to the internet porn sites. My addiction was a gradual and graduating process. I started off just looking at the usual activity. But after a while it got boring and I got into more kinky things like group sex, outdoor sex, s&m, pissing. Before long I was even looking at gay and transsexual porn. I’ve never had any real desires for gay sex but the more taboo the acts in the clips are the more intense the orgasm is. My addiction is greatest when I’m not in a relationship. I had problems with the last girl I was with and I believe porn addiction has a lot to do with it. With most of my sexual energy aimed at internet porn there wasn’t much left for her. This often led to erectile dysfunction, which made her angry when she was in the mood. Nowadays, I often experience erectile dysfunction while watching internet porn. I figure my next step is to give it up. Internet porn is time consuming and physically, mentally, and emotionally draining. I masturbated yesterday and I’m struggling not to as I write this. I probably should sign off when I’m done here. I have plenty of other healthy hobbies I could get into. I would like to hear your stories and any advice other porn addicts have.

11. Laura on 20.01.2010 at 05:35 (Reply)

    I’m so glad I found this site, it helps to know that I’m not alone. I am in a 4 year relationship with my live in bf. I know he has a masturbation/porn addiction problem. He denies that he’s addicted even though he does it almost every day. I told him that it is affecting our relationship because he doesn’t come after me any more and is disinterested in sex with me. He flipped out and screamed at the top of his lungs at me for about an hour saying that we do not have any sexual problems and never ever to bring the subject up again and that I’m trying to think of reasons to complain. I’m so confused because I love him and as absurd as it sounds, I believe he loves me, he just loves porn/masturbation more. He just can’t admit that his addiction is affecting our sex life. I still don’t know what to do. I don’t want to leave him because other than this problem, he is a wonderful, loving and even very affectionate guy. This problem is just bigger than us, especially when he can’t admit that this is affecting us. I would like any advice anyone can offer me.

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