Comments on: Create Your Own Rehab

By: E

Fri, 01 Aug 2008 23:29:52 +0000

Hello,
I am currently fighting my addiction to masturbation.
I started masturbating in high-school and I thought the whole time that it was normal for boys. I watched every type of pornography I could get my hands on. If there wasn’t any pornography available I would watch TV, fantasize and masturbate. I would often miss classes at school because I was too busy watching porn. Masturbation had become my main hobby. It was not a hobby but an OBSESSION. I thought “There’s nothing wrong with that. Everybody does it”. I couldn’t realize that I was an ADDICT. Later I bought a computer and discovered porn on the internet. I could watch all the porn I wanted. Soon normal porn wasn’t good enough anymore. I started watching lesbians, transvestites and all different kinds of perversions. My addiction was getting stronger and stronger. It affected my perception of the world. I wasn’t a normal person anymore. It also affected me physically. Porn had influence on everything in my life. Sometimes I would watch porn for days, not being able to do anything else. I felt that it was destroying my life but I simply couldn’t stop. Everywhere I went I was thinking about only thing - sex. I saw sex everywhere. I fantasized about my colleagues, my neighbors, even about complete strangers on the street. I couldn’t imagine my life without masturbation and pornography.
Then I found God. Something made me re-evaluate the things in life. I believe that God saved me. Through the Christian faith I found the strength to break the chains of pornography. Suddenly I felt that I could resist the urges. I stopped watching porn of any kind.
Now,after many years of addiction I finally feel free.
But the battle isn’t over. Even though I don’t watch porn and try hard not to think about sex I still feel a strong desire to masturbate. But I want to get rid of that nasty habit once and for all.
It’s been a month since I masturbated for the last time. Sometimes I feel pressure and discomfort but I know this is the only way to normal life.
I hope and pray that I’ll overcome the addiction.

I find websites like this very helpful. I wish all of you good luck and let God be with you.

By: Sara

Sara — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 15:27:47 +0000

I never would have imagined that something like this could take control of my life. Before I got saved, masturbation was a way of coping with feelings of loneliness and abandonment. I thought it was something I could beat on my own, but every time those feelings surface in my life, I run to this false “comforter”. There is only One who can comfort, so why do I keep turning to masturbation? I have never been more ashamed and embarrassed about anything in my life. I don’t have anyone to talk to about this. I just want to be in control of my self. I want to deal with the root issues that lead to it, and I want to overcome!

By: Lady Rain

Lady Rain — Tue, 24 Jun 2008 08:13:04 +0000

I’ve had a problem with this for years…a decade, nearly, on and off. At first I didn’t know what it was, but eventually I realized. It’s so comforting to read that i’m not alone, as a woman with this problem.

By: Jeff

Jeff — Mon, 02 Jun 2008 05:55:39 +0000

I have had a porn addiction for four years. When I fell in love three years ago, I stopped viewing pornography for about three months. During my relationship with her I became a christian. Before I had met her I was extremely messed up. I met a girl that was my “guardian angel” and I could only stay sober for three months. My addiction pushed me to pressure my innocent girlfriend into sex. She dumped me because of my addiction. Now I cannot keep a relationship. I lost the love of my life to the obsession.

By: Toshia

Toshia — Wed, 23 Apr 2008 18:21:57 +0000

Toshia…

Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens….

By: Ahmad

Ahmad — Mon, 07 Apr 2008 02:07:56 +0000

For a person who knows that God exist, and knows what we do, I feel ashamed of myself. I keep on masturbating, since high school. It is like a drug, keeping us at it, even though I want to stop.

I tried many times to stop, but still failed. I never confessed this to anyone so publicly. I only have my parents, and it will break my mother’s heart sorely, if she knew what I had done.

Starting from this second, I’ll vow, in front of all of you, and all of the future readers, that I wil stop masturbating. If you haven’t, don’t start. It has affected me mentally, and physically. Remember, there will always people to help you. And remember your Creator. Remember that HE created you from the best of being. It is a very hard road, but keep to it. And you’ll succeed.

By: Leanne

Leanne — Thu, 03 Apr 2008 23:12:24 +0000

For those that know God, and have taken refuge in Jesus, I want to encourage you to keep holding onto the fact that Jesus had died for our sins, ONCE FOR ALL. That we can find solace that all our past sins (masturbating), present sins and future sins (times we masturbate in the future) are all forgiven.

This is a two edge sword, however. Being forgiven for all the times we masturbatue in the future does not mean we can keep on masturbating. What it means to take Jesus’ salvation is that we turn 180 degrees around from our ways.

I have an addiction to masturbating. I have started going out with this guy and I want to stop this addiction because I want to remain pure for him. Especially if it may lead to marriage.

Today I want to STOP MASTURBATING!
I know the road is hard. And there will be stumbling blocks. And I know there are times when I think it’s too hard. There will be times in the near future where I break my promise. But I want to fully stop.
It’s a gradual thing for me. I want to see if I can go two weeks without.
After two weeks I will reward myself. (Masturbating is NOT a reward)
That doesn’t mean after two weeks do it once. It means after two weeks treat myself to a nice dinner at a nice restaurant.
After a month (you’ve already done two weeks) another reward. I want to go and have a picnic with my boyfriend. (My boyfriend is a God-centred person so he won’t try to make moves on me that would tip me over)

After two months…
After four months…
After 6 months…
and keep on going.

If I break the chain, and I know there will be times where I will, I know that I’ve already been forgiven. However, I wanna say sorry because I hurt the relationship with God. Kind of like hurting your relationship with your parents, your spouse, or your dearest friend. You know they’ll forgive you, but you just want to show them that you really mean it.

That’s why I’m going to do something that I don’t like doing just to say sorry. Like clean the house, help volunteer at a nursing home over the weekend, donate my favourite top to a charity clothes bin. Because giving money to charity doesn’t make me feel as bad or as sorry.

During the time I won’t do nothing I will be focussing on:
1. Keep my eyes focussed on God. Having a God-centred life means that God comes first over everything. That means, for me, God > porn. (God is greater than Porn).
What that means is that my priorities are with God and not with my own self pleasure.
There was a quote that said, whatever temptation you will face is not too much for you to bear because God will always provide a way out.
And that way out is the door or the off button or the X on the web browser.

2. Keep myself busy. Idle hands are the devils work. This is especially true for me. I find myself most vulnerable when I’m doing nothing. That’s why I’ve bought myself a diary with all the hours of the day written up so I can account for all the hours. For the married people, who may not want their spouse to find out, place an M or some code that you would know. My friend puts down “Going to McDonalds”. Always plan ahead for the next 2 days. This will keep you focussed on your life and not your addicted life.

That is my plan. And I will keep myself accountable.
Hope it will help you too.

By: Martin

Martin — Mon, 31 Mar 2008 13:45:32 +0000

I too am addicted to internet porn and have lost two marriages, my home, my career and my self respect as a result. I am so low at the moment that although I arranged a referral to a psychiatrist via my doctor, I was unable to make the appointment due to it costing too much (a good excuse huh? = NOT!)

It is true that addiction always escalates - in my case my fantasies were once of ‘faceless / nameless’ girls whose pictures I could access on the internet. However, I now find that I am tempted to act out my fantasies in real life - which I know would have devastating consequences all round. I know that I need help, because this has been going on now for years, and it hasn’t gone away. I just feel desperate and worthless as a result and I know this is the real reason that I destroy most good things in my life.

Anyway, I am determined to beat my addiction, and to resume my life with my energies centered and focused on good things, and not on ideas and materials that make me feel worthless.

I am going to look right through this site and find whatever help I can get.

By: Nick

Nick — Tue, 25 Mar 2008 06:15:23 +0000

Seems that all of us that commented use addiction in some form or another to either cover up a circumstance that brings pain or pain itself. Unattractive, undesireable, and inadequate. We use addiction to put something in the place of what we actually need. Time and time again we think that maybe putting on make up or wearing sexual clothes will make us attractive. Attractiveness comes from within. You make yourself feel attractive and then other ppl will find you attractive. Somewhere in our lives we have put in our minds that gaining the approval of someone else is healthy in concerning our core values. Sure its ok to get approval from someone but not for our core values. We are worth much more that anyone can ever think about us. You want to stop the addiction? Embrace where you are hurting. Find what makes you feel terrible. Then start healing yourself. You have the power to make “You” better. Do things for you and no one else that make you feel pretty or handsome. Then when you are decked out….Compliment yourself. I find this more and more. It starts when we are in middle/highschool. Yeah you did it..I did it…We all did it. Talk about someone that has to many zits, talk about the fat kid, talk about the kid with braces. Shame on us all (me especially). We are alive and living. That is enough to show value in all of us. So…I say all this to say this. I am addicted to pornography and masterbation. I do it to comfort myself when I have been hurt. I do it because it is a stress relief. I do it for entertainment. I do it to feel accepted. Its like a drug. It helps me escape all of those things. I need to know that what I believe and what I know about myself is enough to comfort me. I am alone and have been alone for a very long time. The remedy for my addiction is to understand that I can comfort myself during these hard times (with Gods help). I can comfort myself in knowing that the outcome of my circumstances will be awesome. I can comfort myself in knowing that what ppl say about me is not true but what God says about me is eternal. I can comfort myself by crying.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Wed, 06 Feb 2008 02:42:27 +0000

My Partner is addicted to porn and He uses it instead of being involved in a real sex life with me. I am being ignored and brushed to the side in favour of strangers on the internet. It makes me feel unattractive, undesirable and inadequate. i don’t know what to do. I talked to him about it but he doesn’t think it’s a problem. He says its the most natural thing for a man to do. I don’t know how long I can deal with it. He feels fulfilled and I feel ignored.