Comments on: Are You Willing to do What it Takes?

By: Anonynmous

Anonynmous — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 08:30:33 +0000

Although some of us may be religious, its important to remember that not every one here is. Ive been struggling with porn addiction my whole life and masturbation. I will never give up fighting it, and I know this perseverence in my soul is a good thing. No matter how many times I relapse or make mistakes, no matter how big the binge, I will never quit my resolve to quit. I will quit this and one day, one day I will succeed. Even if it takes me my whole life. This is what makes a man. May we all be helped.

By: anonymous

anonymous — Mon, 30 Jun 2008 09:36:55 +0000

I have to agree with what most of the articles are saying…Mastubation and porn addiction is ruining my life. I am blessed with a loving family and loving relationship. Both these addicitons have somewhat distorted my mind and thinking. It always makes me feel guilty and I am never happy each time I succumb to my temptations. I feel really bad and sorry to my girl friend. Dhe deserves someone better. Not some porn addicted guy. I know what I did is wrong and I am determine to get things right. But each time I decided to quit, my addiction pulls me back unexpectedly. Be it from stress or whatever. Not only that I am also ruining my studies as I am doing things which I am not suppose to do… i know what I do is wrong and I am in the process of correcting things. I am so so sorry to myself and evryone around me. Hopefully I’ll find enough strength to pull things around. I WILL BE ABLE TO DO IT..!!

By: Zach

Zach — Tue, 24 Jun 2008 05:36:46 +0000

Since I was 13, I have had this “addiction” and it seems never to end. Everyday I see something somewhere that tempts me and after a while it just rips me apart. This is the first time I have ever said it out loud… It keeps taking control of my life and I don’t want this anymore. After seeing what these people on this site have written I finally realized that I am not alone. Cause recently I feel like an outcast to the people around me. I just… feel like as soon as I am doing good some problem rises out of no where and throws me back on the ground. I really feel like I have no fight left inside of me. But coming here has shown me that I can keep fighting and I will pray for you all also. Maybe God will pull us all out. I hope so because I am on the verge of destruction inside of me. I have to end this on going curse that has plagued my soul. I must stop masturbation. I not only promise myself but quietly promise my loved ones and God. Please God get me through this…

By: Dime

Dime — Fri, 30 May 2008 06:42:53 +0000

I’m trying to overcome masturbation. It takes away lots of things in a person’s life, especially spiritual power. I always blame myself for masturbating everytime I finished doing it. Its like a spirit tempts me and I could feel that spirit around me. I’m very spiritual and this is my only weak point in life. This spirit exploits it too much. Its a way the spirit gets me to sin against God most times if he can’t succeed in different ways. I am ready to stop now. I must stop and drive this spirit away. I don’t think of sex anytime i’m in church. I feel like I’ve gained more power. Immediately I get back home, I feel the urge to masturbate right away. That spirit takes away lots of spiritual blessings away from me after I get them through masturbation. I must stop masturbating. I promise myself to stop. Once and for all.

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By: Hammer

Hammer — Mon, 24 Mar 2008 20:09:47 +0000

I was also exposed to porn at a very young age. I do blame some problems on it but it is not the root of my evils.
I dont think god will condemn anyone for masturbating. You will condemn yourself. Masturbation however is impure and leads to impure lustful thinking of women. I myself masturbate regularly and I am trying to overcome the addiction. It’s not easy when all this stuff is right here on the net. I have lasted a couple of weeks without doing it. but than, I might come home drunk, and…. you know the deal. I feel maybe that if we take it day by day, starting with our thoughts and emotions, we may have a chance. Often, when I have the urge to m.bate, i ask myself…” what is the reason behind this desire?” is it lonlieness, emptiness, lust… what? I think its a mix of all and plus some more. This culture(america) and others have a tendency to portray women in a pornographic manner everywhere we look and this is very harmful to all. Women are looked at as thing to be had… we need to change this…

By: Dahir

Dahir — Tue, 18 Mar 2008 15:48:59 +0000

It all started when i was 11, when a freind of mine described his experience with masturbation.This new discovery as he said was his ultimate pleasure and had asked me to have a try.That day 20 years ago was the begining of a painful journey.I masturbated most of the time but i was lucky because i had lots of friends and a big family so i sometimes didnt have the space to think of it.Thinking back of those years when i used to experience the side-effects of masturbation which i was not aware of makes me feel sad.Low self-esteem, fear, anxiety, fatigue and dirty thoughts, you name it i had them all.Now my battle to this destructive habit is improving.There are times when i don’t masturbate or view any pornagraphic materials and in those days i experience happiness and the joy of life itself.I am extremely confident, healthy looking, productive, organised with high level of self-esteem..One week, two weeks or sometimes 2 months without masturbating or viewing any pornographic images and i m high in the sky.During this gap i declare to myself my triumph of overcoming this destroying habit and that i will never do it again.And before i know it, i am back to it again and again and the journey begins.I would read the effects of this addiction from the internet so that it encourages me to i quit, but it only lasts for few days and i am back to it again.I must admit i am closer than any other time to get rid of this addiction.I can feel it in the back of my mind.Something inside me is getting stronger and stronger….To all my fellow human beings who have been traped by this habit i say DON’T GIVE UP AND GOD WILL BE WITH YOU IF YOU TRY YOURBEST…….
The journey continues

By: haz

haz — Tue, 19 Feb 2008 13:59:02 +0000

i used to love wathching porn i always thought that woman was god’s gift to man i use to belive that sex was given to us to enjoy i would always talk of how the great solomon had 500 wives so it cant be wrong. I recently started reading my bible again and i came across a pasage saying that “the man who even thinks in a lustfull way is condem cause he is committing adultry in his mind and will be condemmed” This got me thinking about my own mind state. I find porn so exciting and i love to watch it but now im very concious of my lusting and i feel i must stop this obssesion to save myself from hells damnation. Despite this i find myself even more drawn to it. Ill sit and watch it all day with two sets of conciouses 1 of sheer enjoyment; 2 of real fear of gods words. i feel so confused im 41 years old and have from a very early age had a real love of sex, porn, and the feminin form. I think about sex evry day , i look at women in a lustfull way everyday and have done for many years. But porn is my access to plenty of “femminin form and i cant stop mysely from indulging. Im so confused and frustrated cause i feel it is wrong in gods eyes but i just cant resist having a look. Its not about being desperate with me in terms of not being able to find a partner cause im in a relationship and its never been a problem . Its just that i enjoy watching porn but for my spiritual well being i know i must stop i would appriciate any help you can offer

By: Corey Evans

Corey Evans — Sun, 23 Dec 2007 09:47:56 +0000

I recently came to terms with my addiction and faced the truth that these conditions overwhelm me and are deteriorating my lifestyle. Im only 18 years old and since the age of 12 I’ve experienced a long and losing battle to masturbation and pornography addiction. Its gone beyond the point of internet pornography towards other sources but not to the extent where it is noticeable by anyone but myself. After reading several articles from this website I realize how much of a stranglehold this addiction has had on my life socially and recently recognizing its impacts on my academic career. I recently failed a class in my first year of University. Not because I’m stupid, but because i didnt exercise my full potential. For a while now I’ve recognized that this addiction has impeded my progress throughout school and although I’ve experienced good situations in academics, its beginning to take its toll. Now more than ever do I have the motivation to persist and overcome this. I know I muist develop a system in which I am motivated to prioritize and persevere without pornography, sex or masturbation on my mind. Although this will be a tough journey, I am confident that I can do it as long as I stick to my convictions, stay motivated and change into a solid routine that supports my real life goals.

By: Jeremy Garcia

Jeremy Garcia — Sat, 10 Nov 2007 06:32:50 +0000

In regards to what Paul said i feel the same way, i can relate to that exactly as if i wrote it myself, i was exposed to pornographic material at a very young age. I feel like it has destroyed my life and and i know god is helping me because even though my mind is foggy and my vision is a little blurry God helps me invision myself as the man i want to be and the man i strive to be focused, strong body, mind, and soul and pure thoughts. And when i am finished with my test i know im gonna be everything i want to be im going to have girls,money,love, and happiness and my suffering will be gone. The funny thing is that im a pretty good looking kid im physically healthy and i have a big muscular body anyone would look at me and think im perfect if they only were in my shoes they would know that thats not the deal. I feel progression everyday but its hard for me im only 17 and i feel like my testoterone is going to burst out of my veins. I have so much potential and im so talented everyone tells me im good at sports, im smart, im good at art, the art of combat, and i aspire to do great things and to be a movie director but i need this terrible addiction to pass by me. Im very confused in my life rite now and i feel like both God and the Devil are both trying to help me God in His way and the Devil in his, I just need to follow the righteous path and the path towards Gods ways. Every time i masturbate i feel like a chunk of my manhood is being taken away from me. I need to get myself focused and get my life back on track i feel my family and friends slowly drifting aways from me, please get back to me with some tips. Im not as scared anymore to admit i have a problem i tell most of my close friends that im trying to stop masturbating. I really feel like im gonna stop this time for my sake, the sake of God. Thanks for listening please get back to me.
PS. is their someone that i can email directly like one on one help so i can get a more instant and effective results? Im only 17 I want to heal myself from this addiction asap, I have so much more life to live. Thanks