Comments on: The Good and the Bad About Sexual Addict 12 Step Programs

By: Sean A.

Sean A. — Wed, 12 Mar 2008 16:00:35 +0000

Porn addiction is too strong to tackle alone. SAA and SLAA is resource to realize you are not alone. There are many people struggling without the knowledge that there are others who can help. I put together a site to help others who are struggling with porn addiction to get answers http://porn-addiction-recovery.com

By: Arthur

Arthur — Thu, 07 Feb 2008 06:20:24 +0000

Masturbation addiction is very real. Today I did nothing but masturbate. As a college student, I don’t have the time or energy to invest in masturbation. I have thought for far too long that masturbation can control me. But now I know I can control my masturbation and pornography addictions. I am going to remove all pornography from my life, and am going to keep a schedule of the days I do masturbate. I don’t need a twelve step program. I only need the determination to conquer some of my most private addictions. Tomorrow I am going to wake up refreshed. I am going to wake up, want to masturbate, and in turn, convert that motivational energy towards doing something else. Everytime I crave looking up pornography, or want to masturbate, I’m going to do something different. I’m NOT letting this take control of me. I will stay positive, and win.

By: Sam

Sam — Mon, 04 Feb 2008 17:39:12 +0000

I can see wanting to quit if you have a partner and the masturbating and porn is interfering with the relationship. But what if you’re not in a relationship and have little chance of ever being in one? Quitting to be completely celibate is not much of a motivation. The pressure builds up over time. Without any kind of release I don’t think I could do it (quit)

By: bill

bill — Sat, 29 Dec 2007 08:41:41 +0000

i was introduced to porn at 6 years old. even now i remember vividly the sex scene from the porno that i saw 25 years ago. porn and masturbation has been a curse to me and my family. i found my fathers porn collection my children found mine. how can i tell my sons how to stop. if i cant. my wife left today with my 2 youngest sons. i have lost my everthing. i stopped masturbating last year around this time. and i went a full four months without doing it. i did not attend a twele step program. it was will power i guess. at this very moment, i dont know what to do. masturbation is not a drug u can buy. its not “illegal”. my genitals and hands are everywhere i go. i cant run and hide from myself. i am tired of masturbating.i need help. i dont need porn. i have enough pornogrphy images in my head to last a life time. help me. sometims i feel like the only way to stop is castration. then what good would i be to my wife.

By: Renee

Renee — Wed, 26 Dec 2007 10:25:39 +0000

Here I am at 4:30 in the morning and all the memories have resurfaced. This is not my first discovery but one of many. I had thought/hoped the problem with porn was a memory of the not so distant past. What a Christmas present, I was just looking at my lap top (which my husband has become quit attached to lately). I discovered by looking at the history (which he apparently forgot to clear) that he had again been looking at these horrible porn sites. I approached him about it this Christmas night and was just dismissed. He was ready for bed and I was just keeping him up. He didn’t have to explain anything to me. What am I to do. I am middle-aged and this has been going on for most of my married life. I am not an advicate of divorce except under the event of infidelity. I know….I believe lusting after someone else is a form of infidelity. I know there is no real answer that I can live with. I have felt so alone and verbally and mentally abused for years. It’s our dirty little sectet. I hate living this way. I see others who are obviously in love and I just ache. I long for someone just to actually talk to. He only talks if there is a need. As for sex, I noticed a problem within the first six months of marriage. He stayed up late and I went to bed alone. That’s not normal. Of course the man is usually always the bread winner in the family and that is the case here. There is a lot of dependance as far as money, insurance, a home, a certain life-style. I just hate to think I have another 30 to 40 years left living this way. I threatened divorce at one time and was apparently quite convincing. I was told he would stop….wrong. I am just venting since I can’t sleep and I don’t have anyone else to share with now or anytime. We went to a councelor years ago and he said my husband was addicted to pornography. However, it seems he to being male I was over-ruled in some of my thoughts. Well, I guess I have taken enough of someone’s time if this is even ever read. I really hate my life at this point and ….. Well, I better go for now.

By: Rob

Rob — Sun, 21 Oct 2007 22:27:05 +0000

Hello,
I just read this page about SAA. I agree with the points on not having an exit strategy. I’ve been to several dozen SAA meetings over the last few years, and realize that some members have been there for 3 or more years. If I am abstinent for a year, I’d say I’m pretty close to being cured of my addiction. The catch for many, I think, is that they don’t find a better way to live. They think that they have to come to these meetings forever, and will always be an addict. I don’t believe this.
I think some of these people don’t realize that, although the higher power of the group can provide support at crucial times, they still have to have some control, as we all can’t be at a meeting 24/7. I think there needs to be more of an emphasis on finding that other way to live, and doing it. I wonder who the author of the SAA piece is, and if they will respond directly to me, or just post a message.
Well, it was a good, insightful read,
Rob,
Santa Ana