Comments on: Using Prisoner of War Methods to Deal with Lonliness and Addiction Captivity http://newlifehabits.com/2007/08/13/using-prisoner-of-war-methods-to-cope-with-addiction-captivity/ Fri, 27 Apr 2012 20:54:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: C. Smythe http://newlifehabits.com/2007/08/13/using-prisoner-of-war-methods-to-cope-with-addiction-captivity/comment-page-1/#comment-29084 C. Smythe Sun, 08 Nov 2009 06:01:39 +0000 http://newlifehabits.com/2007/08/13/using-prisoner-of-war-methods-to-cope-with-addiction-captivity/#comment-29084 I am trying to understand porn addiction. My husband is addicted and I can't seem to get him to stop. He lies to me regarding the addiction, and that he is doing it. He finds times he can be alone with the computer. I find him up late at night and we argue about it. We have almost separated several times because of it. He lost his job and our home because of it (he made a lot of money with his old job). We had to move away to find work. Now we are alone (We only have each other). I have tried and tried to help him, to get his interest in our relationship but I can't seem to get him interested at all. We have 2 grown children and one still in high school. I feel depressed, lonely and alone. What can I do for him and for our marriage. I have never seen me with anyone other than my husband. We were both virgins when we married and I can't imaging being with anyone else. However, at this point I am so angry with him and we seem to be getting more and more detached from each other. I just don't know what to do any more. I am trying to understand porn addiction. My husband is addicted and I can’t seem to get him to stop. He lies to me regarding the addiction, and that he is doing it. He finds times he can be alone with the computer. I find him up late at night and we argue about it. We have almost separated several times because of it. He lost his job and our home because of it (he made a lot of money with his old job). We had to move away to find work. Now we are alone (We only have each other). I have tried and tried to help him, to get his interest in our relationship but I can’t seem to get him interested at all. We have 2 grown children and one still in high school. I feel depressed, lonely and alone. What can I do for him and for our marriage. I have never seen me with anyone other than my husband. We were both virgins when we married and I can’t imaging being with anyone else. However, at this point I am so angry with him and we seem to be getting more and more detached from each other. I just don’t know what to do any more.

]]> By: stewart DeMersseman http://newlifehabits.com/2007/08/13/using-prisoner-of-war-methods-to-cope-with-addiction-captivity/comment-page-1/#comment-28939 stewart DeMersseman Sun, 20 Sep 2009 00:27:10 +0000 http://newlifehabits.com/2007/08/13/using-prisoner-of-war-methods-to-cope-with-addiction-captivity/#comment-28939 I started using porn on the internet intensely a few days ago. I lost track of time and it has probably been a week or more actually that this poison has been harming me. I am glad to see that anyone cares enough to help me and others with this addiction get help in any way. I don't want to lose any more of my life or potential relationships or current relationship time to this. I started using porn on the internet intensely a few days ago. I lost track of time and it has probably been a week or more actually that this poison has been harming me. I am glad to see that anyone cares enough to help me and others with this addiction get help in any way. I don’t want to lose any more of my life or potential relationships or current relationship time to this.

]]> By: Jeffrey S. Rafuse http://newlifehabits.com/2007/08/13/using-prisoner-of-war-methods-to-cope-with-addiction-captivity/comment-page-1/#comment-28200 Jeffrey S. Rafuse Thu, 19 Feb 2009 09:39:00 +0000 http://newlifehabits.com/2007/08/13/using-prisoner-of-war-methods-to-cope-with-addiction-captivity/#comment-28200 I am very greatful that this website is here. Every artical I have read thus far has helped me with this issue I have been dealing with for too long. I really do have sooo much to be thankfull for. This type of addiction is very much missunderstood in our world, and it's a saving grace that the profesionals behind this website, and all it makes accessible to many people like myself. Thanks...mostly for helping me see and understand that I am a very beautiful person, that has has the world of bright oppertunities ahead of me. I am sure any addiction brings on the feeling of low self worth, and I am really helped by knowing how amazing I am, how needed I am, and just how beautiful life can truly be. I am very greatful that this website is here. Every artical I have read thus far has helped me with this issue I have been dealing with for too long. I really do have sooo much to be thankfull for. This type of addiction is very much missunderstood in our world, and it’s a saving grace that the profesionals behind this website, and all it makes accessible to many people like myself.

Thanks…mostly for helping me see and understand that I am a very beautiful person, that has has the world of bright oppertunities ahead of me. I am sure any addiction brings on the feeling of low self worth, and I am really helped by knowing how amazing I am, how needed I am, and just how beautiful life can truly be.

]]> By: suffian http://newlifehabits.com/2007/08/13/using-prisoner-of-war-methods-to-cope-with-addiction-captivity/comment-page-1/#comment-132 suffian Fri, 01 Feb 2008 08:29:19 +0000 http://newlifehabits.com/2007/08/13/using-prisoner-of-war-methods-to-cope-with-addiction-captivity/#comment-132 This is the best advice i have ever received, esp the part "Reject False Logic - It is false logic to think that survival is contingent upon compliance with captors". meaning (in my opinion) thinking that masturbation will help you not make it worse, yes it helps reduce stress for a while but its eating u up psychologically, impelling your soul, the essence of our identity (feeling helpless, ashamed, disgusted, not knowing where u fit in with good and "evil" all in all reduced self esteem and reduced self image) This psychological pain experienced through masturbation causes to masturbate again to reduce this bottomless feeling, and therefore proving the point that its false logic since your goal is to be free and masturbation just gives u a false sense of freedom and release you for a short while, and then it gets u back, a (vicious cycle) conclusively. Its illogical thinking masturbation helps stress it compounds it till it makes u think your nothing without it, your just a self indulgent piece of flesh, the product of physical pleasure. The analogy to this is, think of a person attached to a post with a rubber band, now think of the rubber band as "masturbation as an entity" and the post as the "center of ur captivity"( the reason ur not free to live life and act and think without masturbation) the rubber band (masturbation), lets u wonder for a while (not masturbating for a while) and u think that ur free, you think that the captors have given ur freedom, given back ur identity ur soul...., till the elastic band wont stretch anymore, it grims, ur confused you thought masturbation was good it helped ur freedom, it deceived you, masturbation takes a hold over you...u masturbate, take ur frustration out rebel, and the rubber band forces, plunges, drags, kidnaps u back in captivity, IN DESOLATION, where we cry for a little while... then we wonder again thinking it might let us go this time it might not have a hold on me this time..... YOU WILL NEVER BE FREE UNLESS U "Learn to tolerate discomfort. Remain focused on tasks at hand." stay in that area where the rubber band is the strongest where u will need the most strength the will power the self conviction and break through once u broken the rubber band ur free for forever..... Maybe we should think of other things that reduce stress and make friends with them,masturbation isn't the only way to reduce stress... This is the best advice i have ever received, esp the part
“Reject False Logic – It is false logic to think that survival is contingent upon compliance with captors”.
meaning (in my opinion) thinking that masturbation will help you not make it worse, yes it helps reduce stress for a while but its eating u up psychologically, impelling your soul, the essence of our identity (feeling helpless, ashamed, disgusted, not knowing where u fit in with good and “evil” all in all reduced self esteem and reduced self image)
This psychological pain experienced through masturbation causes to masturbate again to reduce this bottomless feeling, and therefore proving the point that its false logic since your goal is to be free and masturbation just gives u a false sense of freedom and release you for a short while, and then it gets u back, a (vicious cycle) conclusively. Its illogical thinking masturbation helps stress it compounds it till it makes u think your nothing without it, your just a self indulgent piece of flesh, the product of physical pleasure.
The analogy to this is, think of a person attached to a post with a rubber band,
now think of the rubber band as “masturbation as an entity” and the post as the “center of ur captivity”( the reason ur not free to live life and act and think without masturbation)
the rubber band (masturbation), lets u wonder for a while (not masturbating for a while) and u think that ur free, you think that the captors have given ur freedom, given back ur identity ur soul…., till the elastic band wont stretch anymore, it grims, ur confused you thought masturbation was good it helped ur freedom, it deceived you, masturbation takes a hold over you…u masturbate, take ur frustration out rebel, and the rubber band forces, plunges, drags, kidnaps u back in captivity, IN DESOLATION, where we cry for a little while… then we wonder again thinking it might let us go this time it might not have a hold on me this time…..
YOU WILL NEVER BE FREE UNLESS U “Learn to tolerate discomfort. Remain focused on tasks at hand.” stay in that area where the rubber band is the strongest where u will need the most strength the will power the self conviction and break through once u broken the rubber band ur free for forever…..

Maybe we should think of other things that reduce stress and make friends with them,masturbation isn’t the only way to reduce stress…

]]> By: How Long Does it Take to Overcome Addiction? « Pornography and Masturbation Addiction Help http://newlifehabits.com/2007/08/13/using-prisoner-of-war-methods-to-cope-with-addiction-captivity/comment-page-1/#comment-131 How Long Does it Take to Overcome Addiction? « Pornography and Masturbation Addiction Help Wed, 29 Aug 2007 06:35:29 +0000 http://newlifehabits.com/2007/08/13/using-prisoner-of-war-methods-to-cope-with-addiction-captivity/#comment-131 [...] for that matter. Addiction can cause us to stop believing we can do things. Its like being a prisoner of war, eventually you start to believe you cannot escape and stop trying to escape. That’s when the [...] [...] for that matter. Addiction can cause us to stop believing we can do things. Its like being a prisoner of war, eventually you start to believe you cannot escape and stop trying to escape. That’s when the [...]

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