Comments on: How to Overcome Internet Pornography Addiction

By: Ogra

Ogra — Thu, 03 Mar 2011 21:53:36 +0000

I am finding that my addiction to porn is gradually spiraling out of control. I can spend literally hours looking through the crap without masturbation. Very little of it arouses me and some disgusts me. I find that there are only certain clips that I like, often because I find the models within them attractive. It’s little more than a substitute for the real affection I want to show and the real pleasure I would like to give in a proper full, in my case heterosexual relationship. I also have deep feelings of failure and inadequacy. I have no job and have suffered from OCD for years. I also feel that I am too old to start thinking about relationships, something which in view of my poor mental health might not be a good idea to begin with. I am not a great looking guy, something which I am constantly reminded of when I go out even by total strangers who comment on how morphologicaly challenged I am. The distaste and animosity I attract I wouldn’t wish on some of our worst criminals. My appearance has led to outright rejection by peer groups over the years and even criticism from my own family. I use porn as a means of accessing something I can never have, when viewing the porn, I often imagine myself in the place of the participants as either male or female. My past sexual experiences have been almost exclusively homosexual, but I find that as I am getting older my interests are becoming increasingly heterosexual, very strongly so. When I seek help, all I get is the usual rubbish about denial of my gayness rather than accepting that I no longer have the homosexual preferences that I expressed in the past. I find the ideas of rape and incest totaly disgusting and have never sought to download images of this nature, even if they are mostly simulated. Sometimes porn represents things I certainly wouldn’t want and have no desire to download. I’m pretty disgusting anyway and would like to change, but the last thing I need is religion. I am having considerable difficulty marrying my life experience with a warm and compasionate personal god. I am looking for a scientific and materialistic approach to my problem. I appreciate now that I am far from unique as far as this problem is concerned.

By: Wife & Mother

Wife & Mother — Thu, 24 Feb 2011 19:53:02 +0000

Upon dicovering my husband of 17 years addiction to porn, I have suffered great emotional distress and upheavel as well as feelings of hatred toward him. I simply do not understand how a man can pass up all that makes sense in his life, simply to oogle over some degrading images. It has affected our sex life and I am beginning to wonder what it would feel like to have a man “make love” to me. Will probably send me to the arms of another. I am already begiining to fantasize about other men.

By: Never Back Down

Never Back Down — Mon, 25 Oct 2010 10:00:52 +0000

Let us fight this addiction, persevere, emerge victorious

champions, and live the remainder of our lives knowing that

we have overcome the greatest test/challenge/temptation

of the 21st century. Thanks for all the testimonials, I will pray

for everyone to be set free from this malignant cyst

By: Dave S

Dave S — Tue, 29 Jun 2010 15:44:37 +0000

I am now 28 and have been looking at porn since the age of 12. At it’s worst I was looking at porn every day for several hours and I felt terrible. More recently I have reduced my pornography use, and only look at it once every two months or so for a couple of hours. I feel that looking at my emotions, self hatred anger and past traumas has helped me achieve this, however I am still not 100% free and when the craving arises it is NEARLY impossible to resist. But every time you do resist you become stronger and the habit becomes weaker. When I lapse (like today) I find it hard and I really beat myself up about it as well as feeling massively guilty. But most men don’t even see porn as a problem, so pretty much everyone who is reading this is at least one step ahead. I think porn has to be one of the hardest addictions to quit with the internet the way it is. You don’t even have to go to the shop or the drug dealer, it’s streamed into house in unlimited supply and you don’t even have to pay for it. How many crack or herion addicts would succeed in quiting in those kind of circumstances? I think to succeed in quiting you need to tackle the issue from all angles, try and increase your will power by waiting for the urge to pass. When craving arises just tell yourself, I’ll wait an hour, or two hours and gradually increase this until you can wait for days weeks months, maybe even years. But it is true that you need to explore the emptiness and voidness that you are filling with porn if you really want to succeed. I dream of a day when I no longer crave porn but until then I set my sights at this target and try to keep moving in the right direction.

By: jakes

jakes — Sat, 26 Jun 2010 01:23:06 +0000

hi am so encouraged by your many posts this addiction has rily taken a toll on my self esteem nd confidence i feel so ashamed bout it i just pray that God will help me overcome this addiction so that i can look at the girl that i love with the respect her beauty deserves but all is not lost let us take refuge in 1 corinthians which says that God will always offer a way out of temptation we just have to look for it and He will never allow sumtin that we cannot overcome to tempt us

By: jakes

jakes — Sat, 26 Jun 2010 01:16:08 +0000

hi its good to know that am not the only one suffering with this porn addiction it has taken so much of my self esteem and confidence and every time am about to achieve a goal a slip and feel so ashamed afterwards i just pray to God that he wiil help me overcome this addiction so i could look at the girl i love with the respect her beauty deserves recovering addicts take refuge in 1 corinthians where it says that God will always offer a way out of temptation we just have to look for it and he will never allow us to be tempted by sumtin we cannot overcome

By: parry

parry — Sun, 17 Jan 2010 19:51:36 +0000

I have been encouraged by these comments. Iam a 40 year old married guy with a wonderful wife and 4 kids. Iam also a religious person but this addiction is tearing me apart from inside. It started when a colleague mentioned a website that was erotic. That was the start of the slippery road to the abyss. Iam a believer in God’s power and help and really fought the urge and managed to abstain by promising myself not to repeat the habit and setting a heavy financial penalty as well as some fasting. This seemed to work wonders and after paying the penalty once i managed to stay off the addiction for almost a couple of years. Then satan found a way to break me again. I suffered from low libido and while reading an article on the net about overcoming it, it mentioned that some men improved their libido’s by watching filthy stuff. This was the trigger which once again led me back into the habit. This is how satan works (i’m not passing the buck but that is how most of us are misled). I know that it is wrong and that how will i face my creator when i meet him, but the urge ovecomes me. I pray to Him to help me overcome this. By the way i found very useful advice esp. about sports and exercise and cutting the source of the evil and the comment from the daughter to parents was really moving. My advice (although i still haven’t won the fight myself) is 1. Always be hopeful that you will not give in. See it as a fight or a challenge. 2. Write down your feelings or resolutions about it (i.e to stop). 3. Never lose faith in God, ask Him to help you out.

By: Dan

Dan — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 11:25:53 +0000

I am approaching my late teen years and am struggling to break the hold of porn addiction. I don’t feel like I have a very strong addiction as it is not exceptionally frequent (3-5 times a week) but I still feel that it is damaging me emotionally. I am finding it harder and harder to build relationships with females, despite being a friendly and easy going person. It is not just romantic relationships with women but forming friendships, it just doesnt seem to happen. I always feel as if they are judging me and I think that pornography addiciton is responsible

By: anonymous

anonymous — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 07:19:26 +0000

I am glad that this site was created and that we, for some reason, sought it out. I am in my 20s and I have been addicted to porn and masterbation for about 8 years. The best I have ever done at quitting is making it 11 months. I did that by constantly being around somebody who had higher moral standards than me and would refuse to see such filth. I thought I had overcome it but then it got bad again. I’m committed once again to quit, but this time for good. I have a girlfriend that I love and want to marry and I dont want this to ruin anything for me. I am also religious and that has a big role in my life. Such things are a filth that dirties our souls, but does not stain them. The filth can be removed and I know that myself, and everyone addicted, is a better individual than the shallow fool who seeks out degrading daughters of God. I have started a process motivated by myself, and influenced by this site and the testimonies on here. We are all taking a step in the right direction and I will be back on this site to leave a comment of how I have been successful in changing who I have been acting like to who I really am, free of pornography and comfortable in my own skin.

By: joe

joe — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 11:39:52 +0000

guys, the problem is not porn addiction – that is only the symptom. The problem has to be emotional. The question is why we have an urge to look at porn while someone who is not addicted doesn’t have that urge. The urge has it’s roots in emotions. Are we trying to escape hurtful emotions? I have noticed I feel a strong urge to look at porn when I’m feeling weak inside. To escape this pain I indulge in this activity so that I feel pleasure not pain. I have a dependancy on this addiction in trying to deal (more like escape) the real problems. Everytime after watching/mastrubating I feel my mind going numb and feel peaceful again. Isn’t this something a junkie feels after taking a hit?! There are chemicals being released in the brain that are covering up the hurt/pain we are trying to run away from. This is why we feel good – cos the pain has been numbed again!

We can only overcome this by facing and taking steps to sort out whatever is bothering us. If you have been bullied as a child and that’s what’s driving you to porn, then face those memories. Cry your heart out. If you feel weak, take some martial arts classes and build your confidence. I bet all this will take time but this is the only way to permanently get over this addiction.
For this reason, we should not look at recovery success by measuring it in number of days we have controlled it. That’s just trying to control the symptom. As long as the root causes are still there, the urge will remain as strong as ever. I think you should look at how the urge reduces over the recovery period. In the end you should not have a need to ‘control’ yourself from watching porn. You just won’t feel the need to watch it. Wouldn’t that be great! Good luck to everyone and keep trying – cos as long as you keep trying you don’t lose.