08.08.07
How to Stop Masturbation Addiction
Are you wondering how to stop masturbating? Well you are not alone. There are millions of frustrated men in the world trying to figure out how to stop masturbating. There is a plethora of confusing guidance and information out there. I will lay out advice from myself and others I have collected over time to make this is simple as possible. But before I jump into that I want you to know that you can and absolutely will overcome this addiction with the right attitude. Perseverance is the name of the game and victory will be yours if you possess the ability to get up and dust yourself off every time you fall. Many people have overcome this addiction and so can you. Its a personal decision you must make because no one can do this for you. So let’s get into the steps.
1. Before you learn how to stop masturbating you must isolate the cause and not the symptoms. There is a reason or reasons you masturbate and you must find out why. If you concentrate on just stopping masturbation then you will just return to your addiction after a short period of success. So, why do you masturbate? You’ll need to get some paper and something to write with for this one. There are many reasons you could be doing this and it may take a lot of pondering to get all the reasons on paper. It could be because you are bored, lonely, hurt, stressed, or it could be because of pains from the past. You’re going to have to get yourself in a relaxed state conducive to productive thought to really find out why you turn to masturbation. What are you trying to escape? Avoid focusing on symptoms. Saying you masturbate because it feels good is not the real reason you masturbate. Ok, it temporarily feels good but why do you feel like you need that? Dig deep into your feelings. If you find this part difficult you may need therapy to help you discover feelings you are not seeing clearly right now. It could also be something other than feelings. It could be that you are putting yourself in bad situations such as where pornography is easily accessible.
2. Once you have understood why you masturbate you need to start dealing with these feelings or situations. Dealing with feelings correctly is a skill and may be a skill you have forgotten or need to learn. Feelings are the result of thoughts. How we interpret the world and ourselves in our minds determines how we feel. We decide how we feel about things. If you masturbate because you feel bored then it is because you decided to feel bored. Nobody made you feel bored. You did. You have choices. You can get out of the house, you can talk to friends or family, you could do many things. You also decide how you think. You could decide that your situation is not as boring as you thought. What are you comparing your situation to that causes you to think its boring, or rather leads you to decide it’s boring. Becoming more aware of your emotions will not necessarily bring complete success but it is one step in this process that will give you essential personal power over the emotions that have ruled your life. The strongest man is the one who controls the mind. There is no universal application of this technique for everyone. Learn what works for you by trial and error, always refining your approach. Learning how to stop masturbating is exactly that, learning.
When you have a feeling, any kind of feeling, learn to slow down the automatic train of thoughts you’ve created over time. The mind and body love to try and be as efficient as possible and does this by automating as much as possible. So it does take effort to interrupt ingrained automation, a.k.a. habits. For example, when you feel bored stop for a second and think about the message of this feeling. Is it because you feel your life is unproductive, or you would like to be doing something better with your free time? Once you’ve figured out why you’re bored you have some options. You need to either change the way you think about things or the way your are handling the situation or both. So you can either learn to see your life and situation as not boring or take action to make it not boring. If you’re sitting at home with nothing to do then take action and get out of the house. Go get involved in a hobby or create a new one. Why do you think people take up running? Yeah it’s great for health, but they also want to feel productive. The feeling of boredom is trying to give you a message. If your life is already productive then you need to change your thoughts and decide to be happy and content with every day living. You’re only going to continue to search out the temporary pleasure of masturbation so long as your are not content on the inside. True happiness springs from your thoughts and emotions, which you control, and not external circumstances.
A key to learning how to stop masturbation is learning to change the feelings that are leading up to masturbation. You also need to change how you feel about masturbation. You can no longer see masturbation as a solution to your boredom or loneliness or whatever, but instead must associate the act of masturbating with the pain and lack of control it brings into your life. The more you learn to enjoy your everyday life the less you will want to turn to masturbation and its natural consequences.
3. Depending on the frequency you masturbate you need to narrow down the times of the day that seem to be the biggest problem for you. A lot of people have problems at night when they lay down and begin to relax. They’re not busy with daily activities and their thoughts begin to drift. Perhaps they have used this as a way to fall asleep for a long time. Isolating the times of the day that you struggle the most can help you to focus your efforts better learn how to stop masturbating. If you know you struggle most when you lay down at night then you can create a plan specific to that time of day. Maybe you need to exercise and burn some testosterone before going to bed. Exercise will also help you to be more tired and fall asleep faster. That means less time to think about masturbating. If you struggle at different times of the day or several times throughout the day then try to narrow down the times and the environment you’re in when this becomes difficult. If you go to a certain store with bad magazines or the gym where women are dressed in less then you may have to change some things about your daily routine.
4. Spend some time each day, perhaps in the morning, visualizing a new you. Close you eyes for a few minutes and imagine yourself easily overcoming the temptation to masturbate. It’s important that you start reprogramming your brain on a daily basis. It may seem awkward at first but do this everyday for 21 days and you will be comfortable with your new and confident self-image.
5. You cannot overcome a masturbation addiction so long as you are viewing pornography. If you have unrestricted access at home or work or anywhere then you need to create a safer environment. Simple as that. Get monitoring software or get rid of the computer. A recovering alcoholic cannot hang out at the bar or the alcohol section of the grocery store without giving into temptation. The same applies here. You need time to recover and get stronger.
6. Have an emergency way out - When the wave of temptation comes you need to have a pre-planned emergency way out. Many people have found that snapping a rubber band on their wrist helps break the automatic thought chain that leads to masturbation. Of course you don’t want to hurt yourself, just have something similar to get you mind off masturbating. Memorize a song or think about a hobby, whatever works.
There are a couple things I want to mention here. You’ll notice a couple things as you work to overcome a masturbation addiction. First, it’s not easy and you may have to try many many times before you get consistent success. I recommend tracking your progress for each day on a calendar so you can see even the slightest progression. Do not expect perfection. You may sometimes feel like Tom Hanks in the movie “Cast Away” trying to get over those big waves and off the island. Just keep trying no matter how many times you fail. Hint: One of the things I would do after making a mistake was go take a shower and put on new clothes. This would make me feel like I was clean and making a fresh start. Also doing this and having this mentality at the beginning of a new day makes you really feel like you have a fresh start. The new day is spotless and you have another opportunity to do better.
The second thing you’ll notice is a feeling of lethargy, irritability, and mood swings. This can be compared to having withdrawal symptoms. Your body has gotten use to the way you have trained it. Anytime there was a build up in testosterone or dopamine you gave in and relieved the body. So there will be a period of time, not months but weeks, where you will need to let your body readjust itself. It will be easier, then, not to masturbate. This also applies to porn addiction . Until then you will be fighting the urges of a body resisting change. The lethargy can go away in a matter of days if you endure.
The third thing I want you to understand is the role of testosterone. It takes seven days for your testosterone levels to reach their max. So the first few days might not feel so difficult after you decide to stop masturbating but as the testosterone levels build up it will become more difficult. Just keep that in mind when you start to feel like its getting more difficult. That is how the body works. It cycles. If you allow it to, the body will absorb the testosterone and continue to work properly. When you were younger perhaps you had “wet dreams”. This was the body naturally regulating the high testosterone levels. This is nothing to feel guilty about but is actually a sign your body is working properly again if this does happen. Of course older individuals have lower levels of testosterone and should not expect “wet dreams” to happen.
In conclusion I would say the most important thing you can do while learning how to stop masturbation addiction is to control your thoughts. Learn to control your thoughts and you will be the master of your emotions and actions. Persevere through all the set-backs you have. You are never failing unless you are refusing to stand up and try again. Success is inevitable if you persevere through the slip ups and mistakes.
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dee said,
10.18.07 at 2:43 am
hi there,
I am happy to have found this site. I have recently decided that my usage of pornography has hurt my personal relationships and has become a daily addiction. I have successfully stopped looking at pornographic materials for the past 6 weeks and plan to continue breaking this dependency. But I had never considered that i may have an addiction to masturbation. i have always heard that it is a healthy and normal thing to do. As a male in his late twenties, I always understood my masturbation usually one or two times a day to be acceptable. I am wondering when masturbation becomes an addiction. After reading your article, i decided to stop for a week to gain perspective. it is day 4 and I have been successful controlling my thoughts and placing myself in good situations. I feel a physical discomfort, not pain, but definite nervous energy and a strong desire for relief to my cravings. Tonight i am wondering ‘why am i doing this’ but want to stay committed to my goal. Am i to understand from your site that ANY masturbation from ANYone is unhealthy? Thanks
Samuel Howard said,
10.21.07 at 1:43 am
Dear Whomever wrote this article I really felt that to my heart because I been having this problem for a while and I really get tired of being defeated so I was just wanted to say thank you for your advice and may God bless you! Please write back!
kipsang said,
11.02.07 at 4:02 pm
It has drastically empowered and changed me.Thanks a million.
kipsang said,
11.02.07 at 4:04 pm
continue to encourage me.Thanks.
Fake Name said,
11.03.07 at 8:19 am
Thankyou so much for your advise, I am going to start stopping right……..NOW! THANKYOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ammar said,
11.04.07 at 10:55 am
thank you very much for this valuable information and from today, i will act up upon it because the addiction is making my health go at a poor standard and i do see myself in the future being healthy again and once again thank you very much.
joseph said,
11.06.07 at 9:02 pm
always let the word of God be in ur heart,
gavin said,
11.07.07 at 8:30 pm
this has put alot in eprspective and allowed me start to build my self-esteem back up and like Joseph said let the word of God fill you up and be in ur heart
Chris said,
11.09.07 at 3:20 pm
To the owner of this article,
I think your articles are good to read. I have a question about something you said in this one. In step two above, you said that if you feel bored it’s because you decided to feel bored! What the heck do you mean?! Just because no one makes you feel bored doesn’t mean you make yourself feel that way, it just naturally happens don’t you think?
deano said,
11.11.07 at 2:51 am
this is beter the any therapy out ther ..an credz goes to effort spent on articl
Anonymous said,
11.12.07 at 3:55 pm
Im a 15 year old schoolboy who is addicted to , both masturbation and pornography. I thought it isnt a big deal ,but now I can understand how it affects my personality. I will try my damn best to overcome this
Thank you
sydney said,
11.14.07 at 1:57 am
thanks. God be with you! Truly God is good to Israel, to such as are pure in heart. but as for me, my feet had almost stumbled; my steps had nearly slipped. Psalm 73:1-2
cinder kitty said,
11.14.07 at 9:41 pm
thanx God i found sm help.u know i hate doing it.n i hate myslf 4 doing it.bt i cudnt think of stopng myslf 4m it.i’l try ths.n INSHALAH i’l ovrcome it.u r right wn u say dt v do it coz of past failures,emotional hurt or boredom.keep up the good cause.thanx
MARTIN said,
11.15.07 at 12:45 am
THANKS FOR MAKING THIS SITE. FIRST I TRIED IT AND I HATED IT THE I WANTED TO STOP BUT I COUDN’T I APRECIATE THAT THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO CARE ABOUT OTHERS.
Enlightened said,
11.16.07 at 12:53 am
Thank you for that very helpful advice that i really need. We can’t change ourselves for we are weak, but if we ask God to change our lives then we can overcome all that prevents us from being who we really are, servants of God with pure hearts and minds.God Bless
Victor said,
11.16.07 at 8:56 am
I am a college student who has suffered with pornography addiction and masturbation for some time now. I started believing that it was harmless but I began to realize the profound impact that it had on my personal relationships, my reputation, and especially my scholastic ability. I would get tired and fall asleep often, lack energy throughout the day, and lose productive time because of my addiction. I am slowly but surely trying to make the change to recovery. I feel that the surest way to overcome this addiction is to recognize our self worth and dignity. May everyone here be constantly reminded about how much they are worth in this world.
Saud Rajput said,
11.16.07 at 4:22 pm
thnx to the writer, may Allah bless his showers upon u for helping humanity getting rid of this miserable habit
Sam said,
11.19.07 at 4:48 am
Hi,
Thanks for this post.
EVERYONE: If you can, WHENEVER you feel that urge to masturbate, don’t think twice — Immediately leave the room and go for a walk! From there you can call a friend or do something else to get your mind off masturbation.
Also, try to avoid watching things on tv or on your computer about anything sexual. If you’re like me this can be very tempting.
Masturbation is a REAL addiction.
Mark said,
11.19.07 at 5:48 am
I really would like to stop, but every time I try I get uncontrollable erections that simply get worse throughout the day. Then I will have to go to a bathroom to relieve myself or suffer the humilation of someone seeing my hard-on through my pants or me playing pocket pool to adjust my throbbing cock. I started masturbating around the age of four and never looked back until I heard that it was a sin. I have spent many hours studying it and keep getting conflicting doctrinal stances on the issue. The Bible nor the Quran make no blatant prohibitions or license to do it. I am confused.
Kim said,
11.20.07 at 3:30 pm
To the author:
Thank you for taking time out to share meaningful information with those who have been suffering with Masturbation and Pornography addiction. Your advice has empowered me with a new zeal to overcome this habit once and for all. I have stopped- and started countless times. I started masturbating when i was 12 years old, and i have been burdened with guilt to this day. I am now married and my wife knows i used to masturbate before i met her, but i still masturbate sometimes without her knowledge. Thank you for equipping me with the tools i need to beat this bad habit before it ruins my marriage!! God Bless you.
Rich said,
11.22.07 at 5:37 am
I stuggled with this for years growing up. I stopped for 3 years, and to my everlasting shame, in a moment of weakness, I picked it back up in a heartbeat. Its been almost 6 months since I started again and I now feel as if I can officially beat this. This has ever been a source of great pain to me. I have lived a life with a hidden addiction almost all my life, but never again. I shall never forget your advice. Lord bless you, my friend.
Alex said,
11.23.07 at 1:40 pm
Hello there. Just wanted to say thank you for your advice and hopefully it will be of great help to me. I’m really struggling with both porn and masturbation addiction and it’s got to a point where it’s stopping me from doing my school work as i spend productive hours on the internet watching porn. i’ve already bookmarked ur site and will continue to refer to it on a daily basis if i have to cos i really want to beat this habit. God bless u.
Mike said,
11.23.07 at 6:31 pm
Thank you so much for making this site. I had been trying to stop for a year, but never gottn past 3 days without doing it. It has now been 3 weeks since I did this. Thank you for your help, God bless you, and continue to help others!
tahsan said,
11.24.07 at 2:10 am
hi i hv just read da site…its gr8…thank god der r ppl whos cares abt others….i started masturbating at da age of 12…i am a singer of the band black here in bangladesh…i hav this wiered problem i hv tried many girls or prostitutes at 1st it was good to hav sex..but later i found out that it dusnt work i dont cum having sex..da only way is thru masturbation i donnno what da fuckis wrong with me..pls i need help
Dontworryaboutit said,
11.24.07 at 5:12 am
i really thank u, i have just finished reading this article and hopefully i will overcome my shameful habit, if this works or not, thank u very much, wish me luck, allah be with u all and help u through ur times of need
thankfulman said,
11.24.07 at 9:35 pm
Thank you so much for posting this site. I was concentrating on just stopping, and that didn’t work. But I have a question. Why doesn’t that work? I mean, if u don’t want to do something, u should be able to stop yourself, right?
FLOW said,
12.03.07 at 4:43 am
HI, I have been masturbating since I was 8 years because my older brother who was in has early twenties at the time was left porn in the vcr. Ever since then I been doing it when I feel bored, stress, depress or even make time to masturbate. It has affect my relationships a lot because I would have sex than go masturbate to porn later on that day. I can’t even get my internship work done because I would be too busy masturbating the whole day and keep on say I will do it later. I’m laughing at my myself because I never reconize masturbate has taken over my life. This year alone I have spent $220 on porn. This really need to stop. I thought I was naturally lazy but I’m not. I am tired of feeling tired everday. I am too young and I don’t have problem in the get the ladies department but keepin them around is the problem. I would like to say thank you for creating this site.
Cris said,
12.07.07 at 9:38 pm
THANKS FOR MAKING THIS. I AM SURELY GOING TO STOP THIS ADDICTION I HAVE FOR MASTURBATION.
JUST A QUICK ADVISE. SINCE I AM A COMPUTER EXPERT, I SHOULD RECOMMENED THAT U GET A PARENTAL CONTROL SOFTWARE SO IF YOU AT ANYTIME FEEL LIKE WATCHING PORN, IT WILL AUTOMATICALLY STOP YOU.
THANKS FOR CREATING THIS WEBSITE AND GOOD LUCK ON EVERYONE’S GOALS. : )
john1970 said,
12.15.07 at 4:40 pm
There is a forum specifically made for men trying to deal with the consequences of over-masturbation or over-ejaculation, both mental and physical symptoms. This is called sexual exhaustion.
The site is also very good for people looking for right lifestlye modifications and healing methods/info about many things. Especially for curing sexual weakness, depression, etc…
http://recover.forumup.org/
Shane said,
12.28.07 at 11:24 am
I would like to thank the author of this wonderfully writen piece. I have struggled with porn and masturbation for almost 2 years and it has completly ran my life. I am only 15 but i think it has made a large impact in my life, now and in the future. I wanted to say to all who read this that watching porn and masturbating is a CHOICE! Please, choose wisely,because maybe you cant see now but in the future, it will hurt you.
I AM QUITING ONCE AND FOR ALL TONIGHT!
Tristan said,
01.02.08 at 8:41 am
thanks. i’m making a thesis to prove whether masturbation is a healthy lifestyle. your site is great. it helped me a lot.
Biz said,
01.03.08 at 5:20 pm
To think, I honestly thought that it was just me with this problem…..My life is on a downward spiral because of my lack of control….Masturbating daily has made me lazy, irritable and Ive lost my drive…..I found my uncles porn magazines around age 10…..I was confused at first…. seeing semen on women and not knowing where it came from, but as soon as i figured out how to masturbate….Ive been doing it regularly since…I am now 35 married with one son….We’ve been trying to have another child for the longest but to no avail. Im afraid to get a semenalysis because of what i might find out……Porn and masturbation has literally ruined my life….I still feel inside that Im a strong man….So with that, I will try these steps and hopefully this will work for me…I really dont know what else to do…..
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Jean-Marc said,
01.03.08 at 7:20 pm
I have never imagined that masturbation would be considered an addiction. In the beginning it is just something that feels so good and you just want to experience the extacy of it. After a while it becomes the addiction where your body constantly asks for. Lately I have realized that is has started to destroy me. It is true that it makes you feel tired, it affects your relationships and most importantly it destroys yourself. There is something you said in your article about “The strongest man is the one who controls the mind.” This is all about controlling the mind. It ’s something you must constantly fight especially in the start, I imagine. I never imagined that so many people could be suffering from this addiction but right now I really want to quit this malicious habit. Like other people already said, it also disturbs you from studying because the time you have for studying you use it for masturbating and after that you feel so tired where you do not have the energy to study. I will bookmark this website and I will be back, whenever I feel the need to masturbate and I will remember on your words of advice. I have been deep into this addiction for 7 years already and reached the point where it controls my life and honestly can not take it anymore but I am positive that I will make it. Thank you so much for trying to help others and make us see that we are not alone and that we can fight this. Wish me luck and I’ll maintain your website up to date with my advancements. I AM QUITTING NOW! 4 Januari 2008, 20:20! May your words inspire many others like it has done for me!
Cindie said,
01.05.08 at 3:08 am
I am thankful I found this site, not only has if been very informational, but all the comments have been very honest, and shown me how guys think.
I am going to show this to my husband. He had a problem with porn for 2 years. And has worked really hard on it, but I know he still masturbates on occasion. I’d really like him to stop, as I think it’s linked to his addiction. Esp. as he’s been trying to convince me that he thinks he’d be able to start watching it again without caving in!
For goodness sake we’re only 21.
I’m praying this helps him.
John said,
01.07.08 at 6:09 am
I would like to thank the author of this article and also the comments left on this page you have all helped me relize that this addiction is real and God is really dissapointed in me for doing it. I am going to try and stop again but hopefully through much prayers and the prayers of others I will finally overcome this.
Please Pray for me in my next upcomig months,
A person who is dedicated to the Lord, God, and the Holy Spirit,
John S.
ben said,
01.09.08 at 1:25 am
Thanks for this page. You’ve given me inspiration to quit again.
I hereby swear that I will never masturbate or look at pornography again.
-ben
doze said,
01.10.08 at 1:51 pm
thanks for this site . I started masturbting at about 15 yrs ago i do it almost everyday but sinces last week i stoped sinces then i am haveing pains in my testicles. pls i need help and what can i do to stop the pains
addict 40 said,
01.11.08 at 9:37 pm
Thanks for this valuable insight and advice. I have been struggling with masturbation for too many years of my life. I cannot begin to imagine HOW much of my life has been spent doing this filthy habit.
I am really trusting that God will help me to apply the simple truth’s that are laid out here in order that my family can benefit from having a healthy minded father/husband. Keep up with this good work and try to get more exposure out there for those desperate people trapped with this shocking habit.
We need this to help us kick this filthy habit for the benefit of all concerned.
-addict 40
Jay said,
01.12.08 at 1:56 am
I hope this really works, i’ve tried so many times to stop but had a\ relapses. I’ve been doing it for 13 years and i just can’t stop. I’ve had girlfriends and still I did it on a frequent basis. I really hope these are the steps i need to overcome my addiction; i mean i did quit smoking, but i’d only been smoking for 2 years. Whats suprising is i didn’t even know i was addicted, i thought i could stop as long as i had a girlfriend. If this doesn’t help, i’m doomed to be jerk off for the rest of my life; so it’s a must that i don’t fail and i won’t.
Vincent said,
01.13.08 at 1:57 pm
Your site is great. Masturbation and the loss of semen in general cause tremendous damage to the male body. So many Americans believe it is a harmless activity and are blind to the lives that have been destroyed due to this horrible addiction. You all give me hope.
No Name. said,
01.13.08 at 1:58 pm
Hi,
I myself am 15 and i dislike masturbation strongly. I thank the writer of this article because i do need this positive encouragement. Everything in this article has reassured me in giving it up. I have felt the same way about everything you said and it is all so true. I have always felt weird but i have always been really affected by masturbation and have always wanted to give it up. My confidence is lost when i do it because i feel no control over my own body. I really want to give up permanately and i will read this when i get the urge. Thank you. I am afraid about what you said that i need filtering for my internet. It is a great problem but i can’t get rid of my family computer and i don’t want to ask my parent for the filtering program because i will have to explain why. I need no reply to this as i didn’t put my email address in this comment simply because i am so over come with embarrassment that i have such a problem.
Thank you again.
Thanks said,
01.17.08 at 1:31 pm
Some people are just so blind to see the bad effects of masturbation in males.
I don’t know why the hell the sexologist tell that bullshit that masturbation doesn’t cause any bad effects. If they are women they don’t know the male causes. If they are men there is two options:
a) They lie for some reason
or
b) They themselves don’t masturbate regularly so they don’t know anything about the bad effects of masturbation.
JD said,
01.18.08 at 6:56 am
As a young man in my twenties I found this website very useful. I feel great that i can overcome this addiction. You put the steps in simplicity which is even greater, Thanks
M J said,
01.18.08 at 3:33 pm
hello may the peace of the Lord be with u
well i guess i’m a young man who just started masturbating, althrough i have never slept with a lady before but this days i’m so addicted to masturbation that i can do without doing it twice a week so pls i will be very happy if you can send me any comment on how to stop it parmantenly
thanks
M J
Paul said,
01.18.08 at 7:24 pm
I really need to thank you for posting this article for all to hear. It takes a great amount of courage to look into your deepest emotions and fears, and recognize that you are weak and have an addiction. I have been addicted to pornography since childhood, and I have an incredibly hard time fighting it. I also have been addicted to frequent masturbation since the 8th grade. I believe that since both these addictions coincide, it is best to stop both at the same time. But so far all of my valiant attempts to quit have ended in tragedy and more shame.
I am an extremely moral person in the rest of the areas of my life. But have hid in shame from the constant demon that causes me to be a hypocrite. I no longer will allow this sin to consume my life, and always make me feel weak. I have never been a truly and faithfully religious person, but I think with a little faith, and personal battling…I can beat this.
Thanks again for your outwardness about this subject. Posting your own experiences, as evident by all the replies, has helped many people fight back against these addictions. Together we stand against the evil in this world. Together, we shall prosper.
Thank you said,
01.21.08 at 2:51 pm
Great article, thank you very much
I found out that the reason I was masturbating varied from boredom to the feeling I was hurt. I found out that everytime I felt hurt I wanted to easen the feelings of hurt by masturbating. I tried to escape these feelings of hurt by masturbating and actually it just caused more pain. Now I know the reason and it’s great to realize it and now I know where to work. Instead associating masturbation with the feelings of happines I associate it with pain and lack of control and that’s the truth. In long-term masturbation doesn’t make you feel better, actually the opposite it does make you feel more pain.
Emanuel said,
01.21.08 at 4:58 pm
THANK YOU FOR WRITING THIS SITE AND EVERY ONE ISN’T IT COOL THAT WE HAVE LOGGED INTO THIS SITE THAN WHATCHING PORN SOME TIMES I FEEL LIKE WHY PORNOGRAPHY AND MASTERBATION EXISTED I MEAN IT IS GROSE IMAGEN THE CYBERSPACE WITH NO PORN ON IT THERE ARE ALOT OF COOL THIGS TO DO BUT WE ARE DROWN IN TO THIS THINGS BUT EVEN THOUGH WE COULDNT STOP PORN WE COULD STOP WATCHING PORN I HAVE TRIED TO QUIT BUT I RELAPESED ALOT OF TIMES I THINK IT IS TIME TO QUIT SO LETS KICK THE HABIT AND IF YOU ARE FEELING LONLEY YOU COULD WRITE ME TO adisrelieved@yahoo.com WE CAN CHAT
a loser who want to win said,
01.31.08 at 5:55 am
I’m an addict to masturbation though i have a religious background. i want to stop it completely. can any one send me any links, books, advices to me. plz.
undesired to my name said,
02.01.08 at 10:54 am
I am pleased to see this site, i would have lost my feelings and controls of my bodies and continue wit my crazy addiction, Due to curiosity i started this, i need to end this, so i started another safe addiction to replace that addiction and then i have gained control after i saw that. Everyone must be stubborn sometimes.
mico said,
02.02.08 at 5:40 am
hi there,
thanks for this article, i am 16 and i want to stop it. thanks for your help.. i hope i can stop this.. i want to start a new life without masturbating…. February 1, 2008
GOD BLESS TO ALL!!!!
Steven said,
02.06.08 at 2:21 am
I have been a sex addict since the age of ten or eleven. My Dad used to abuse my mother and me I would go to my room and masterbate into fantasy land to avoid the pain. I am now 39 and have had only short periods of freedom in my life, the severity alway6s elevates to a new level each time i relapse. I now realize what I must do. (with the help of a pastor who has been there, a godly therapist, and most important of all daily,hourly,minutely,secondly, Surrender to the Holy Spirit). Will someone please help me understand the withdrawal from sexual addiction,it has been one week since I have masturbated. I look forward to supporting each other.
warrior said,
02.06.08 at 7:59 pm
Good afternoon every one
I began to do this habit and unfortunately it has been harmful to me. Tough i didn´t do too many times (3 or 4 times a week) it caused deepest changes in my mind I started at 12, by now i´m 33 yo and never tought it could happen to me. I can´t believe i wasted 22 years of my life doing this. I feel tired all the time and even worst i´m getting a bald man, (the only one in my family). i get irritable easily and i use to left my jobs because mood swings, and now i´m about to went into bankcrupty and loneliness.
Now i´m trying to stop it
God bless you for creating this site
Joe said,
02.07.08 at 7:57 am
Hi,
I masturbate about 10 times a week. It has gotten to the point that I have also become dependent on Viagara because I can’t get normally aroused with my girlfriend who is model gorgeous. I’m 37 and my girlfriend is 25. I’ve been masturbating since 12 or 13. I’ve been having guilty feelings doing this behind her back but sometimes I feel I just need/want a quick release. I have no problem getting women. Sometimes I just feel like I need to release. I think it is excessive and want to stop. After reading this article it gives me some strength…thanks.
Ra said,
02.10.08 at 11:16 am
Hello,
I have been effected from masturbation since last 7-8 years. I started when I was about 11 years and got addicted to this disastrous habit of self abusing. Initially it seems so much fun that I just didnt think about any consequences but then sometime later I came to know that its eating me from inside and I was having a strange kind of gut feeling which was taking me away from all my relations. The vice of masturbation is such a killing factor that you just keep on sinking in it as it gives you pleasure. I started from pictures then erotic pictures websites then erotic stories then porn cds and then this cycle continued until now I came to the big dark world of internet porn. Although I do it now once a week but still I dont like doing it and I am so tired of this habbit that I sometime feel just hopeless about it but your site has given me strength to fight back and stand again. Please keep writing such nice stuff.
God bless you!
Regards,
R
grace said,
02.12.08 at 10:50 am
thank you so much…i’ve been in this addiction for couple of years now. I’m so glad that God has led to me to your website. I tried so many times yet failed. I hope I would be victorious this time. Thank you for the inspiring advices. God Bless You!!!
Anonymous said,
02.13.08 at 7:53 pm
I am 14 and have been suffering from this problem for about a year now. I have tried to stop this awful habit and each time i do it I tell myself ” Today is the last time” but before you know it i am telling myself the same thing again. I also have religous views against this problem but it hasn’t stopped me. I hope the discovery of this website will help for real this time and I will stop forever.
Thanks
good said,
02.14.08 at 7:02 pm
Thank you very much for your excellent advice..I was an addict of masturbation till today for the last 5 years….but today you have changed my life……i decided not to masturbate from now at all under any circumstances because i am learning to control myself.if i control myself nobody can stop me from succeeding and i win always…i want to be the winner always…..i dont want to be a looser any more……this masturbating was the only reason which prevented my success till today………so under any circumstances i wont masturbate at all………………..
Thank you for your valuable suggestions….
unkowen said,
02.14.08 at 11:37 pm
HELLO THERE
I HAVE STRUGLED WITH THIS HABIT FOR YEARS IT DESTROYS YOU FROM THE INSIDE OUT I HAVE KNOWEN IT IS AN ADICCTION FOR A YEAR OR SO AND YOUR RIGHT ITS ALWAYS AT NIGHT WHEN YOU WANT TO GO TO SLEEP WHEN YOUR LONLEY I DONT EVEN KNOWN HOW THE HECK I PICKED IT UP ITS MENTALY HARD TO JUST STOP
GOD BLESS YOU WHO EVER WROTE THIS INFO
ONE LAST WORD TO EVRYONE OUT THERE IF YOU WATCH PORN AND FANTERSIES AS WE ALL DO JUST THINK YOUR ASENCALY RAPING THAT WOMAN IN YOUR OWN MIND AS SHE DID NOT GIVE CONCENT TO HAVING SEX WITH YOU AS THE BIBLE SAYS ADULTRY OF THE MIND IS THE SAME AS REALING SLEEPING WITH SOMEONE
WE ALL FALL SORT OF GODS GLORY AND I AM GIULTY AS THE NEXT MAY WE ALL BET THIS HABIT
GOD BLESS EVERYONE
Stary eyes said,
02.15.08 at 2:35 am
Hey,
I am a woman and I struggle with masturbation and I want to break it really bad. I am Christian, and I love God with all my heart and soul. I know this article was written for men, but one thing you said about it being easy to resist the first few nights and then getting more difficult hit me. That happens to me all the time. I can go a few nights without masturbating, and then when I hit a week I just can’t hold back anymore. I really want to stop and I’m praying that I can. Thanks for writing this!
Denver03 said,
02.17.08 at 10:47 am
i really want to thank you for this web it has enable me to finally start to win my battle if i never found this web i think that i would still be masturbating
thanks Denver03
alvan said,
02.18.08 at 9:32 pm
I really thank you 4 this article.Its so encouraing and spirit lifting.am also involved in masturbation and porn which is trying to ruin my life becos it is against what am involed in.am a priest in the makingand if i ashld continue like this it will very disastrous.pls i want you ppleto help me come out of this canker worm.
kevin said,
02.21.08 at 10:08 pm
Hi,
TY FOR THE INFO - EXELLENT
Bill said,
03.02.08 at 11:39 pm
This is helping people everyday, it has helped me. Thanks for not trying to make money off of my illness.
NNAMDI said,
03.04.08 at 12:22 am
thank you for your advice. i ve been badly affected by masturbation
i started doing it when i was 18. i am 23, but i realised 4rm you the best
way is to control the mind. since i found it difficult getting a galfriend,. i want to tell you that from today. i will stop masturbation by all means.
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anon said,
03.04.08 at 5:03 pm
Hello,
I’m trying what’s on this website to see if it helps. I just felt i had to get it out there that I have a problem; an addiction. It makes me miserable hiding it from everyone. I have such a hard time overcoming it, mostly because I’m pretty sure the reason I do it is stress. Everday is stressful! I’m in college! Sometimes I wish I could erase my whole past and start over again and tell that young kid to ignore what the friends say. Thanks for givingout advice! It’s nice to know I’m not the only one.
joe s said,
03.14.08 at 2:16 pm
Thankyou,
Your website is great. I am 32 and have been struggling with porn and masturbation since i was 10. I am married but still the desire is strong. The longest i have gone with out any problem is 3 years. There is trend usually in how i get back involved in it. It usually starts with a curiosity, seemenly harmless but it quickly escalates to trying to find sites to turn me on and masturbate to. There is definently a rush that comes but it only last for a few seconds then your left wondering how you could let yourself and your famliy down and also the lord. However i have never given up. One thing that has helped is being completely honest with my wife so there are no secretes between us. This alone has made it alot harder to perform the act because I know I will have to tell her and ask her forgivenss. May the lord bless those of us who struggle with this addiction.
ty said,
03.15.08 at 8:58 am
thank you. nothing more…thank you.
kdtrin said,
03.17.08 at 11:36 pm
For my relationship with Christ I struggle and learned that masturbation is a sin. I finally realize that it only doesn’t effect our spiritual relationship but it targets our flesh, our body, and then it hits our mental and spiritual side. So basically it only does not destroy the nervous system but also hits our true feelings and our relationship with God. I struggle to stop because all I knew was that masturbation was a sin. That was all on my mind…a sin. But this site helped me understand what it does to my mental side first. AFter that it hits every spot of the spiritual body and then weird mood swings and depression. Thanks for explaining what masturbation hits first, thats what I needed to know. What it hits first. Now my confusion is turned into answers that will stop me from sinning and from procrastinating in school. God Bless You.
Travis said,
03.18.08 at 5:47 pm
As a 19-year-old Christian man, I have struggled with the sin and addiction of masturbation for more than 7 years. I have recognized it as a sin since I began and an addiction for some time now, and I have struggled to stop for many years. At age 12 I became addicted to porn. Thankfully, my father found me out and confronted me. I stopped…for about three years. Again, my father confronted me about my addiction after a short time when I was 17. I stopped for a short time again, only to fall back into viewing porn after extreme emotional upset almost a year ago. I have only experienced about three months of freedom from the addiction of masturbation since I began; that was immediately prior to that upset, which cast me back into both addictions. by God’s grace, I am seeking the strength to stop this addiction: “I have set the Lord always before me because He is at my right hand, I will not be shaken.” Psalm 16:8 One of the previous posts made note of what is almost a pain from not masturbating–a sort of nervous energy. I couldn’t have described it better. I am very stressed with pursuing almost double the requirement to be considered a full-time student in college per semester (22 credit hours), starting and running a moving business, and emotional upset. The temptations are even greater for me now because I spend a large portion of my time on a computer completing homework and preparing business documents. I am very active; however, it is the physical, and mental release that masturbation and porn provides that I give in to. I just become exhausted with the stresses I face. I cannot express how encouraging it is to know that I am not the only capable, active, athletic, “role model,” Christian man to fight this fight. As a word of encouragement…I have looked to long-term, God-honoring relationships (not for sex, which is reserved for marriage) for relief, but that is not a solution. For those who have read this post, please, TAKE THE TIME TO READ ALL OF THESE POSTS!!
In Christ,
Travis
To answer someone else’s comment. The Word of God condemns sexual immorality and lust… it condemns masturbation.
Anwar Rashidi said,
03.20.08 at 10:37 pm
Thankyou so much for ur effort to better yourself and us… may Allah be with you and reward you for you’re help. I have been struggling with masturbation for almost 2 years now and it seems to be taking over my life and my habits. It makes me feel like someone else rather myself and I will try my hardest to overcome this humiliating and shameful habit or even more, addiction.
Thanks again and please inspire others and continue with your kind efforts.
Chris said,
03.22.08 at 1:00 am
Hello im 32 and english a chap from an above post said after stopping for a couple of years he started to become interested again in masturbation through what felt like harmless curiosity i know what he means ive felt exactly the same way wanting to mentally stop but it seems impossible, thats no exaggeration, 3-4 days my head is filled with nothing else but cravings to satisfy myself. Even trying to occupy myself with a hobby or excercise does not stop my thoughts from urging me to masturbate. I feel trapped. My life has taken a wrong turn ive become isolated my realtionship ruined and its only now that i know masturbating is to blame i still feel i need to carry on find it difficult to accept that it is ruining my life it feels like second nature. How can i stop?
Zaman said,
03.23.08 at 5:39 am
I think we should have a clear view about this habit as long as medical science also supports this…(twice in a week is normal), but I really hate this habit… I don’t know what to do … thanks for this article
J. said,
03.24.08 at 6:46 pm
I know in the Bible, in one of Pal’s letters, he says something about ‘resisting sins of the flesh’ by ‘keeping controll over his body and excercising it’. I know that excersise burns testosterone (the hormone that bings on the ‘urge’ to reproduce, in both men and women, allthough women have less.
I also know that men in relationships have been reported to have lower testosterone levels, so having a girlfriend can also help.
Personally I’m commited to stay single untill I find the right one, so I think a good book to read at night, and a jog in the morning before work should take care of it.
J.
ashamed person said,
03.26.08 at 7:07 pm
I have been visiting this website for a couple of months and i have still let myself down on many many occasions and this does not help much but when i think of stopping it is something i want to do but deep down i know that i do want to do it again and i know that i am going to blank everything out and do it again. I also find that telling myself to dramatically reduce the amount i do this helps instead of telling myself to stop because it is a more realitic target. If anyone has some more advice for me please post back a comment as i need as much help as i can get.
mikey said,
04.12.08 at 3:43 am
thank you for creating this site and article. i am a high school senior and ive been addicted for 3 yrs. i play football and u can imagine the negative affects that this has had on my game. i lost much of my needed agression and focus that is vital to me. ive been able to get by like this on the field and weight room but since i will be playing college ball next semester, there is no way that i can keep this going if i want to have success or survive at that level of play because my addiction has shrunken my margin of potential and success. this piece has inspired me to kick this mind disease out of my life, as it has affected my academic and social life as well and has completely ruined my state of mind. thanks for the help! please send me tips or advice if anyone out there is also an athlete or has had success kicking this thing THANKS A MILL AND GOD BLESS!!!
mikey said,
04.19.08 at 8:10 pm
just wanted to follow up from my last post. i went an entire week and two days, and more to come, without masturbating and it was phenomenal. if your trying to quit, just remember that the time ahead of it will be worth it as your quality of life will drastically improve. God Bless!!!
q said,
04.21.08 at 1:16 pm
Firstly l want to thank you for the enlighting and encouraging advice.l give God praise for granting you the wisdom to help so many of us who are struggling with this demon called masturbation.l am nearly turning thirty,married and have been fighting this problem for nearly 15yrs.l am from a Christian background and it pains me so much that this is one thorn that is so stubborn,deeply rooted in me.It all started when l was in high school,heard some older boys talking about it and as a curious teenager l experimented not knowing what l am getting myself into.The more l did it the more sexual content l required to feed this addition.l have tried so many times to stop but to no avail.Then when l became a born again l had the Holy Spirit has my helper.The journey has not been easy but l am assured that Victorty is at hand.The number of times l masturbate has reduced about once or twice in three weeks,but l am determined to break this habit for good.My wife is aware of it but she is definately against it as she says it makes her feel Less of a Woman.She is supportive but one can only hang in there for so long.The bible says in Romans 7v7-25 and the beginning of Romans8 gives me hope that my God knows and understands what l am going thru and there is a way out.l am praying for each and everyone of you,we all shall make it.Thank you for testifying.Together we stand divided we shall fall.If anyone wants help and encouragements thru those difficult times u can get in touch my email {queman78@yahoo.com}
CJ said,
04.24.08 at 10:55 am
Just think that we sometimes feel we could not overcome this addiction because we are weak and we are just human. However, let us not forget that because of God he will give us the strength to overcome it if you just ask sincerely for that much needed strength. We are weak as a nimble ant but because of YOU oh God I can be as strong as a million elephants!!!!!
Thanks said,
04.28.08 at 9:05 pm
I must thank you for this article. It means so much to me to see that there are so many other people out there with this problem I have read every single comment and they’re all worth it. I knew I was addicted both to porn and masturbating and how horribly wrong it is, but never fully understood what it’s doing. I am always feeling tired and lazy and masterbate usually twice a day almost which is embarassing to say to even strangers. I am as of today becoming resolute to rid myself of this addiction. I would like to ask for all of your prayers so that I can overcome this. Thanks again for the article and comments by all
p.s. I’m turning 18 soon.
zeal said,
05.02.08 at 3:27 pm
Just want to let everyone know that I been struggling with this addition for a long time. It really ruined my life. I always sit in my room, locked pretend I was studing but really I was not studing. I was going through all the porn sites and masterbate. Let me tell you guys, Porn and masterbation can only destroy your life. It may give you pleasure for about 20 seconds after that you feel the opposite of pleasure. I am saying this by personal experience. Once you visit a porn site you will not stop there. you will keep on exploring whats new out there. The sex/porn media is tyring to make money by going through all their sites. Porn & masturbation ruined my life especially my studying part. I know its hard but just try your best not going to porn site. I WILL TELL YOU, IT WILL NOT DO ANY GOOD TO YOU. You have family good friends (notice, i said good friends) spend time with them. Masturbation does effect you studies a lot. over Masterbation can cause mental status change, memory loos and a lot of other bad things. If you think about your body, it has lot of chemicals/ hormones. when you masterbate you loose those necessary chemicals that your body needs for the brain to work thus inbalance occurs. Scientifically when you talk about masterbation, everyboday says, masterbation doesnt cause any medical conditions. But, when you excessively masterbate you are loosing sugar/salt and when you loose those sugar you will feel tired and memory impairement can occur; your braied is deprived of oxygen.
my frends & some family cousins told me, hey go masterbate…gives temptation and all..& i though that it is good and everybody does all that..so i kept on doing it…then later I started finding that things I used to do, I am not able to do now. I am not productive interms of work, school, family, etc. I was always tired. Also, i figured that those people who are telling me to masterbate and porn is all good…they are only trying to give me/you tempetation, trying to get my life out of track. And, they are all going on with their life, workig, family life, basically very productive with their life. Here I am nowhere.
So, I tell all young kinds that “Dont start seeing porn” or “excessively masterbate”. Instead, why dont you go out have fun; find a good girl and talk with girl…but not sex. If you think you both are compatable then start a relationship and stay with the same person. The decision you gonna make better be a good one. Its always better to stay with one person, for body and mind. Just because your friends have girlfriends doenst mean you have to have one..or if they watch porn or materbate doesnt mean you also have to do it. My suggestion is DONT DO IT. enjoy your life single (if you are single) with no porn or not excessive masterbation. Concentration on your studies. Some people out there thinks that I am crazy. But I am just saying from my experience.
Porn and masterbation is a BIG TIME addition. its bad… really bad…it ..more than it it can effect your life..especially you studies.
People out there please pray for me to get back in track with my life.
by the may my name is not zeal….
PORN & MASTERBATION is BADDDDDDDDD…DONT DO ITTTTTTTT..!!! it will kill your life. No. It wont give you a life.!!
kids out there..ignore sex/porn/media types.
thanxx..
a friend.
malyq said,
05.08.08 at 8:28 pm
i started masturbating 11 years ago,back then i was in boarding school,i had no girl friend and loneliness was my closet pal
at first it felt so good that i thought i had answer the questios to my worries which are HIV,STD and irregular sex,as time went bye i became more and more addictive without knowing i am an addict.presently i masturbate twice a day and 5 times a week.i am an aspring body builder and model but i have just discover i am week all to the time to do anything
the lngest break i had from masturbation was when i was down with nhymonia
the weirdest thing of it is that it brings bad luck to me all the time,strange things or misharps occurs on such days
i must this article is very interesting and revealing
i hope insha allah i stop
please help me