Comments on: Masturbation Addiction Explained

By: Daniela

Daniela — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 12:36:58 +0000

I figured that there are only comments from male posters here, but the issue of masturbation is also a very real one for many females I think. I started doing it in my early teens, on and off, and only at the age of 30, I quit doing it after a sermon of a preacher that made a big impression on me. Then I was “clean” for 2 1/2 years, but unfurtunately I slipped back into it. It all began with my new satellite TV, where I saw women undressing and touching themselves. I also had a “cyber relationship” at that time which stimulated me to do it again. Then I struggled with it again for 3 1/2 years, somtimes with big intervals. About three months ago, I listened to a sermon again which compelled me to stop doing it alltogether. I haven’t done it ever since, and I’m thankful that the Lord has been helping me. Yet, I’m not completely pure in my thoughts yet. I’m often tempted to imagine how wonderful it would be to have sex with my future husband. It’s hard to live with this unquenched desire for intimacy, but I pray that the Lord may help me to cope with it and to become pure in my thoughts.

By: Ted

Ted — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 10:20:54 +0000

I have used masturbation as a coping mechanism ever since my father died when I was 8. For some reason the feeling replaced the emptiness I felt. I find it hard to think of a time I didn’t do it. I find now that I can help but do it and I feel as if my arousal is way out of whack, always wanting to do it more, sometimes as much as 5 in a day. I keep telling myself I’ll go a week without it starting today, but inevitably that fails. I did ‘keep clean’ for week because I was sleeping with my cousins and constantly around family. I found that my life improved 10 times, then I got back home and fell into the same routine. Masturbation of course can be healthy and at one time in my life I felt that but the way that I depend on it cannot go on. I’m glad there are others out there like me fighting the same problem together.

By: Dustin

Dustin — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 23:02:39 +0000

I am so glad that I came upon this website. I am 24 years old and i have been masturbating since i was 13, like every single day. I have had terrible luck with the ladies, and i have always kind of thought it was because of masturbating. After reading this article and all these comments, i now realize that is exactly the problem. i just masturbated and started feeling like shit immediatly,(just like everytime.) so i looked up masturbation addiction, and here we are. I need to quit today. It is ruining my life. I would hate to be married someday and have some dirty little secret that i always have to sneak and hide from my wife.

By: Jason

Jason — Sat, 05 Dec 2009 08:13:58 +0000

First of all thanks to God and the author of this blog. The topic discussed here and experiences shared by all of you guys are really great. It gives a lot of hope to me in overcoming my masturbation addiction. I’ve had a long history of masturbation dilemma. Started when I was only 10years old. At the beginning it was just a bodily experience, just an arousal and feeling of excitement at a so called ‘orgasm’. As I grow into my teen age, what sex is all about came to my understanding. The limited perspective at that time didn’t trigger me to undertake any serious initiative to overcome this struggle. Reading the issues discussed about masturbation at here has several commonality to what I’ve faced. In my case it is not about whether it is a right or wrong thing, since there are several occasions where it has helped me to cope with stress. The real issue would be the effects, mentally and physically in the long run. Thoughts created from this habit can sometimes be very disturbing. It truly does undermine your confidence level. The past few years, I’ve used masturbation as a form of sleeping drug. Not that there any sleeping problem. Just, the sleep feels more intense. Unconsciously, programmed my body to ‘feed’ it before sleeping. The side affects though, are not really worth it. Physically, I felt uneasiness at knee joints and increase of facial and body acne. Concentration becomes really poor, distraction are imminent; really deprives from true and constant potential of real growth mentally and spiritually. Giving a thought about it, pornography has been a driver for this habit. Since the internet era made its outburst, porn content are delivered to us in simple cliks of our mouse. But then, I wouldn’t have discovered this site if weren’t for the Internet. Today I’m going to sign up for the program to overcome my addiction. I strongly believe if we put our mind, heart and soul to overcoming our struggle, it will be done. Hating masturbation is not really a key. Anything overcomed by hate will only lead to another problem. Just love quiting masturbation. Love the effects gained from overcoming it. Love the purity and confidence level brought out by relinquincing it. Just my two cents.

By: ken

ken — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 00:54:18 +0000

after surfing the web for porn and masturbating for the fourth time that day i realized enough was enough. i have been struggling with this addiction for over 10 years now and has had devastating effects on my life. it cost me a relationship of 7 years with a wonderful women. it has cost thousands of dollars in credit card charges. i had know idea that this was such a problem in society and thankful theres somewhere i can go to discuss it with other people suffering from this also. today is day one and with the grace of god maybe i can beat this thing once and for all. good luck to everyone and god bless.

By: Thankgod

Thankgod — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 20:37:50 +0000

This is for lee and Peter. Thanks for sharing all these insights. I am affcted by this as well and I thought that I had ADD etc. But it seems like I am affected by this problem. Also, I think that i may have add as well. So these two problems are feeding of each other well starting immidiately, I will quit and keep all my fellow friends in loop with my progress.

By: Peter

Peter — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 02:47:34 +0000

I feel really blessed to have finally found this site and to know that there are people out there struggling with this like me.
My story is sad. Currently, I’m homeless but that’s the end of the story. I’m 25 and I started masturbating when I was in my mid-teens. It started out as a curiosity rather than a need to satisfy anything and as time went on, it became a need. I come from a well-to-do home and I’m the only child in the family. I never really had a lack of anything. I only needed to say the word and I had my wish. Came to UK to school some 6 years back with high hopes and dreams but today, I’m in an even worse state that I would ever have imagined. Masturbation has drained me of any iota of self-confidence, the ability to concentrate on things that actually need doing, an ability to truely love someone else, any sense of reality. Its destroyed my ability to excel academically. I used to be top of my class (always) growing up, but today I struggle to make sense of any academic material. I find reasons to postpone my coursework at school a little bit longer, because as long as I know there’s a coursework to be completed, the more I find a reason to be at the PC (I’m studying IT, see). Its gotten so bad that I’m homeless at the moment as strange as that may sound, but as long as I am able to find an isolated place to get my fix, I’m “ok”.
The sad reality is that until today, I never found any grounds to believe that I had an addiction or that masturbation was a serious addiction and that all of my problems actually stem from this madness. So I convinced myself that there was no harm done. Now I know different.
Its hard to quit. I try…not that I don’t. I can’t even bring myself to explain the burden I’ve carried on my mind all these years… not to anyone. Not even to myself.

I’m so happy I found this site that I can’t hold back my tears. I know now deep down, there’s hope for me and I’m going to break this no matter what it takes. This has seriously hampered my chances of having any sort of relationship with a girl.

I’ll beat this and I will be back to tell you all that I’ve finally done it.
Thanks for all the replies above, They’ve helped immensely.

By: lee

lee — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 04:33:59 +0000

Oh wow, good to see some reality checks.. Quite a few really.. Heres how masturbation screwed me up. First off, women do like me, it must be my looks and confidence. (from doing mirror affirmations) But I lost my job recently, and have been unemployed for like 3 or 4 months.. Yup, meaning ALOT of home time. So I ended up my masturbation cycle of like 4-6 times a day. Yeah, thats alot i know. And heres how I have been feeling…

*Low energy. Sluggishness.
*Lack of motivation and drive in life in general.
*Weakness, drowsiness,laziness.
*Not being able to have the drive to meet new women, due to lack of me feeling attraction towards them. Cause of all the dang porn.
*Low self esteem/confidence.
*Slight depression. This came from the low energy.
*Absent mindedness, dumb moments.. (way more than when I wasnt doing it.)
*Anti-social attitude
*Frustration
To sum it all up, over masturbation screwed up my life. I felt like I could control it to an extent, but I came back to doing it all day again. Guys, I do have the slightest of advice though, If you are feeling low self confidence or something, try mirror affirmations. such as “i am very confident in myself” “I am a sexy motherf***” “women want me everywhere I go” etc. AS for jacking off, I will try to stop. or cut down to like 3 times a week. As if i do it like 31 days a week, My confidence is at an all time low. I hope you guys and girls can find it in you to keep it at a bare minimum, you dont have to stop completely, but more than 3 times a week is probably the point where you feel he effects… I noticed, when I stopped masturbation, I had the opposite affects of what I named above…Complete opposite. And thats how I want to live my life. Free and confident,assertive,motivated.

By: nice guy

nice guy — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 23:33:12 +0000

hmmmm. im just curious can anyone answer my question please… what do you think is the way to overcome this habit.. between these two.. 1. to stop doing it totally or 2. to try the step by step for example: i am not doing it for 15 days, after i successfully done it i will let my self to do it for once only, afetr that i will aim for 20 to 30 days of not doing it and so on….. until i able to resist it for 1 or many of years and to stop doing it totally. what do you think.. bec. it is very difficult to stop the habit that you already acustom with for many years, someone says… you cannot stop it by forcing yourself to stop totally unless you start slowly. please someone im just wandering….

By: Sarge

Sarge — Sun, 13 Sep 2009 17:39:39 +0000

I’ve been dependent on self-pleasure for 40+ years … reading the posts on this site has helped me realize that I’m not the only person with the addiction. My mother said I had a “problem” decades ago; it took me a long time to face up to her being correct about that. Masturbation has been my drug of choice for so long … extremely cheap and always on hand, pardon the pun. I’ve used it to alleviate boredom, low self-esteem, anxiety, revenge (only in my mind) and sometimes sheer terror, but the effects don’t last and I always feel like sh*t afterwards. To the wives who are dealing with their husbands’ addictions: I salute you for caring enough to take on the monster for your loved ones’ sakes. Good luck to all of you, and to me.