Comments on: Masturbation Addiction Explained

By: Dustin

Dustin — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 23:02:39 +0000

I am so glad that I came upon this website. I am 24 years old and i have been masturbating since i was 13, like every single day. I have had terrible luck with the ladies, and i have always kind of thought it was because of masturbating. After reading this article and all these comments, i now realize that is exactly the problem. i just masturbated and started feeling like shit immediatly,(just like everytime.) so i looked up masturbation addiction, and here we are. I need to quit today. It is ruining my life. I would hate to be married someday and have some dirty little secret that i always have to sneak and hide from my wife.

By: Jason

Jason — Sat, 05 Dec 2009 08:13:58 +0000

First of all thanks to God and the author of this blog. The topic discussed here and experiences shared by all of you guys are really great. It gives a lot of hope to me in overcoming my masturbation addiction. I’ve had a long history of masturbation dilemma. Started when I was only 10years old. At the beginning it was just a bodily experience, just an arousal and feeling of excitement at a so called ‘orgasm’. As I grow into my teen age, what sex is all about came to my understanding. The limited perspective at that time didn’t trigger me to undertake any serious initiative to overcome this struggle. Reading the issues discussed about masturbation at here has several commonality to what I’ve faced. In my case it is not about whether it is a right or wrong thing, since there are several occasions where it has helped me to cope with stress. The real issue would be the effects, mentally and physically in the long run. Thoughts created from this habit can sometimes be very disturbing. It truly does undermine your confidence level. The past few years, I’ve used masturbation as a form of sleeping drug. Not that there any sleeping problem. Just, the sleep feels more intense. Unconsciously, programmed my body to ‘feed’ it before sleeping. The side affects though, are not really worth it. Physically, I felt uneasiness at knee joints and increase of facial and body acne. Concentration becomes really poor, distraction are imminent; really deprives from true and constant potential of real growth mentally and spiritually. Giving a thought about it, pornography has been a driver for this habit. Since the internet era made its outburst, porn content are delivered to us in simple cliks of our mouse. But then, I wouldn’t have discovered this site if weren’t for the Internet. Today I’m going to sign up for the program to overcome my addiction. I strongly believe if we put our mind, heart and soul to overcoming our struggle, it will be done. Hating masturbation is not really a key. Anything overcomed by hate will only lead to another problem. Just love quiting masturbation. Love the effects gained from overcoming it. Love the purity and confidence level brought out by relinquincing it. Just my two cents.

By: ken

ken — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 00:54:18 +0000

after surfing the web for porn and masturbating for the fourth time that day i realized enough was enough. i have been struggling with this addiction for over 10 years now and has had devastating effects on my life. it cost me a relationship of 7 years with a wonderful women. it has cost thousands of dollars in credit card charges. i had know idea that this was such a problem in society and thankful theres somewhere i can go to discuss it with other people suffering from this also. today is day one and with the grace of god maybe i can beat this thing once and for all. good luck to everyone and god bless.

By: Thankgod

Thankgod — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 20:37:50 +0000

This is for lee and Peter. Thanks for sharing all these insights. I am affcted by this as well and I thought that I had ADD etc. But it seems like I am affected by this problem. Also, I think that i may have add as well. So these two problems are feeding of each other well starting immidiately, I will quit and keep all my fellow friends in loop with my progress.

By: Peter

Peter — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 02:47:34 +0000

I feel really blessed to have finally found this site and to know that there are people out there struggling with this like me.
My story is sad. Currently, I’m homeless but that’s the end of the story. I’m 25 and I started masturbating when I was in my mid-teens. It started out as a curiosity rather than a need to satisfy anything and as time went on, it became a need. I come from a well-to-do home and I’m the only child in the family. I never really had a lack of anything. I only needed to say the word and I had my wish. Came to UK to school some 6 years back with high hopes and dreams but today, I’m in an even worse state that I would ever have imagined. Masturbation has drained me of any iota of self-confidence, the ability to concentrate on things that actually need doing, an ability to truely love someone else, any sense of reality. Its destroyed my ability to excel academically. I used to be top of my class (always) growing up, but today I struggle to make sense of any academic material. I find reasons to postpone my coursework at school a little bit longer, because as long as I know there’s a coursework to be completed, the more I find a reason to be at the PC (I’m studying IT, see). Its gotten so bad that I’m homeless at the moment as strange as that may sound, but as long as I am able to find an isolated place to get my fix, I’m “ok”.
The sad reality is that until today, I never found any grounds to believe that I had an addiction or that masturbation was a serious addiction and that all of my problems actually stem from this madness. So I convinced myself that there was no harm done. Now I know different.
Its hard to quit. I try…not that I don’t. I can’t even bring myself to explain the burden I’ve carried on my mind all these years… not to anyone. Not even to myself.

I’m so happy I found this site that I can’t hold back my tears. I know now deep down, there’s hope for me and I’m going to break this no matter what it takes. This has seriously hampered my chances of having any sort of relationship with a girl.

I’ll beat this and I will be back to tell you all that I’ve finally done it.
Thanks for all the replies above, They’ve helped immensely.

By: lee

lee — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 04:33:59 +0000

Oh wow, good to see some reality checks.. Quite a few really.. Heres how masturbation screwed me up. First off, women do like me, it must be my looks and confidence. (from doing mirror affirmations) But I lost my job recently, and have been unemployed for like 3 or 4 months.. Yup, meaning ALOT of home time. So I ended up my masturbation cycle of like 4-6 times a day. Yeah, thats alot i know. And heres how I have been feeling…

*Low energy. Sluggishness.
*Lack of motivation and drive in life in general.
*Weakness, drowsiness,laziness.
*Not being able to have the drive to meet new women, due to lack of me feeling attraction towards them. Cause of all the dang porn.
*Low self esteem/confidence.
*Slight depression. This came from the low energy.
*Absent mindedness, dumb moments.. (way more than when I wasnt doing it.)
*Anti-social attitude
*Frustration
To sum it all up, over masturbation screwed up my life. I felt like I could control it to an extent, but I came back to doing it all day again. Guys, I do have the slightest of advice though, If you are feeling low self confidence or something, try mirror affirmations. such as “i am very confident in myself” “I am a sexy motherf***” “women want me everywhere I go” etc. AS for jacking off, I will try to stop. or cut down to like 3 times a week. As if i do it like 31 days a week, My confidence is at an all time low. I hope you guys and girls can find it in you to keep it at a bare minimum, you dont have to stop completely, but more than 3 times a week is probably the point where you feel he effects… I noticed, when I stopped masturbation, I had the opposite affects of what I named above…Complete opposite. And thats how I want to live my life. Free and confident,assertive,motivated.

By: nice guy

nice guy — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 23:33:12 +0000

hmmmm. im just curious can anyone answer my question please… what do you think is the way to overcome this habit.. between these two.. 1. to stop doing it totally or 2. to try the step by step for example: i am not doing it for 15 days, after i successfully done it i will let my self to do it for once only, afetr that i will aim for 20 to 30 days of not doing it and so on….. until i able to resist it for 1 or many of years and to stop doing it totally. what do you think.. bec. it is very difficult to stop the habit that you already acustom with for many years, someone says… you cannot stop it by forcing yourself to stop totally unless you start slowly. please someone im just wandering….

By: Sarge

Sarge — Sun, 13 Sep 2009 17:39:39 +0000

I’ve been dependent on self-pleasure for 40+ years … reading the posts on this site has helped me realize that I’m not the only person with the addiction. My mother said I had a “problem” decades ago; it took me a long time to face up to her being correct about that. Masturbation has been my drug of choice for so long … extremely cheap and always on hand, pardon the pun. I’ve used it to alleviate boredom, low self-esteem, anxiety, revenge (only in my mind) and sometimes sheer terror, but the effects don’t last and I always feel like sh*t afterwards. To the wives who are dealing with their husbands’ addictions: I salute you for caring enough to take on the monster for your loved ones’ sakes. Good luck to all of you, and to me.

By: nice guy

nice guy — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 14:24:58 +0000

All of you guys are right… me i became so frustrated because of this adiction but i realized that if you want to stop accept that your battle with your self is an endless battle bec. i tried to stop.. and i make to stop until 2months of not doing it but suddenly when i try to think of this sex things i begun to do this stupid thing again.!!! so when you tell to your self to stop doing this, dont give any place of weakness anywhere, anytime!!! accept that stopping this sin is a very tremendously serious issue.. dont underestimate it.. eventhough you able to stop it until one year it doesnt mean that the temptation became weak… just put to your mind that you need to put your whole armor(i mean your strong desire or motivation to stop this evil thing) every time , every place and be on guard with yourself and ask god to change you because you cannot change your self.. only god can do it.. (of course do your part…!!)

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 07:53:40 +0000

I have recently realized that I masturbate way too often. Before the past two days, I have been masturbating more and more each week… in the last couple of months, it has been once or twice a day. Not as bad as many, but a lot worse than many more.

I started when I was twelve, when it was of course dry. But that is completely irrelevant. I have began the “quitting” process – that is, I have not in the past two days… I plan on keeping it that way.

I will not profess to have had lowered self-confidence… but it is not healthy to be dependent on anything. That is the reason I am stopping.