http://newlifehabits.com/2007/08/06/setting-boundaries-to-avoid-addiction-relapse/ Fri, 21 Nov 2008 06:11:40 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5 http://newlifehabits.com/2007/08/06/setting-boundaries-to-avoid-addiction-relapse/#comment-19 brandon Sat, 17 Nov 2007 07:03:09 +0000 http://newlifehabits.com/2007/08/06/setting-boundaries-to-avoid-relapse/#comment-19 Believe it or not; the most important aspect in overcoming my addiction to porn and masturbation has been boundaries. Although it is uncharacteristically late for me to be on the computer, this has been one of the most important boundaries. Staying off of the computer when I am alone, or any time past 9 p.m. has been resoundingly successful. When I am out in public or lifting at the gym and see a particularly attractive woman I don't stare and fantasize for the next fifteen minutes. Instead, I appreciate her beauty then simply go back to what I was doing. Ignoring boundaries is what got me in this mess in the first place; I didn't respect anyone's boundaries, especially my own. I can honestly say I feel like I'm recovering from this decade long ordeal, but it has never been easy at any point. There have been constant relapses along the way, but , once boundaries were re-established I was back on the road to recovery. You may find yourself entirely alone saying "It has gotten so bad I might as well embrace this curse and go film porn." But that is never the answer; as long as you have the constant unyielding will to change, you will. I wish everyone the best of luck with their recovery and God Bless. Believe it or not; the most important aspect in overcoming my addiction to porn and masturbation has been boundaries. Although it is uncharacteristically late for me to be on the computer, this has been one of the most important boundaries. Staying off of the computer when I am alone, or any time past 9 p.m. has been resoundingly successful. When I am out in public or lifting at the gym and see a particularly attractive woman I don’t stare and fantasize for the next fifteen minutes. Instead, I appreciate her beauty then simply go back to what I was doing. Ignoring boundaries is what got me in this mess in the first place; I didn’t respect anyone’s boundaries, especially my own. I can honestly say I feel like I’m recovering from this decade long ordeal, but it has never been easy at any point. There have been constant relapses along the way, but , once boundaries were re-established I was back on the road to recovery. You may find yourself entirely alone saying “It has gotten so bad I might as well embrace this curse and go film porn.” But that is never the answer; as long as you have the constant unyielding will to change, you will. I wish everyone the best of luck with their recovery and God Bless.

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