Comments on: Whatever Controls Your Attention Controls You http://newlifehabits.com/2007/07/30/whatever-controls-your-attention-controls-you/ Fri, 27 Apr 2012 20:54:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Monde http://newlifehabits.com/2007/07/30/whatever-controls-your-attention-controls-you/comment-page-1/#comment-28690 Monde Sun, 26 Jul 2009 10:35:06 +0000 http://newlifehabits.com/2007/07/30/whatever-controls-your-attention-controls-you/#comment-28690 I would like to express my deep gratitude for such invaluable information. I have long ago admitted my addiction and the need to get out; But I have been unsuccessful in quitting. I read from a site what the dangers of porn are and unsurprisingly the information was the same as what i have been taught by my religion. Since I don't have a friend to confide in, maybe I should also admit that I just watched porn right before coming to this site. It started last night - with another Movie on tv. and I had known in the morning that I would watch it again today. It is like arguing with yourself - "Please don't do it, can you hold yourself just today, please. I don't wanna feel worthless like last time again." That's how it always starts, and then I will try convincing myself until it is too late. I do know the dangers and outcome of porn, but I guess i didn't have insight in the Thought Control Process. I knew I had to control my thoughts, but perhaps it was a matter of How to do it. So from now on I will try my best in thinking positively and I would like to come again, telling about my progress. Please advise if you see the need. I would like to express my deep gratitude for such invaluable information. I have long ago admitted my addiction and the need to get out; But I have been unsuccessful in quitting. I read from a site what the dangers of porn are and unsurprisingly the information was the same as what i have been taught by my religion. Since I don’t have a friend to confide in, maybe I should also admit that I just watched porn right before coming to this site. It started last night – with another Movie on tv. and I had known in the morning that I would watch it again today. It is like arguing with yourself – “Please don’t do it, can you hold yourself just today, please. I don’t wanna feel worthless like last time again.” That’s how it always starts, and then I will try convincing myself until it is too late.
I do know the dangers and outcome of porn, but I guess i didn’t have insight in the Thought Control Process. I knew I had to control my thoughts, but perhaps it was a matter of How to do it. So from now on I will try my best in thinking positively and I would like to come again, telling about my progress. Please advise if you see the need.

]]> By: mike levy http://newlifehabits.com/2007/07/30/whatever-controls-your-attention-controls-you/comment-page-1/#comment-28318 mike levy Sun, 01 Mar 2009 23:18:16 +0000 http://newlifehabits.com/2007/07/30/whatever-controls-your-attention-controls-you/#comment-28318 Ive been an addict for 20 yrs. Im only 33 yrs old. Im married with a new child and my wife is beautiful and has no idea she is being betrayed every time. I pray this doesnt break up my beautiful family. I dont know how to stop. I will try these suggestions. Im too embarassed to go to a meeting or something like that. I just hope I can survive this personal struggle. God Bless all who are in this innitiative. Ive been an addict for 20 yrs. Im only 33 yrs old. Im married with a new child and my wife is beautiful and has no idea she is being betrayed every time. I pray this doesnt break up my beautiful family. I dont know how to stop. I will try these suggestions. Im too embarassed to go to a meeting or something like that. I just hope I can survive this personal struggle. God Bless all who are in this innitiative.

]]> By: sorry4what!do http://newlifehabits.com/2007/07/30/whatever-controls-your-attention-controls-you/comment-page-1/#comment-27328 sorry4what!do Sun, 18 Jan 2009 10:46:09 +0000 http://newlifehabits.com/2007/07/30/whatever-controls-your-attention-controls-you/#comment-27328 I really have to agree with alot on this site. Life can put you in the most awkward of circumstances and the the brain reacts more to the primal urge rather then common sense. The internet is a really great concept. but when it all comes down to it the web is made mostly of porn. These late night infomercials for "free adult phone conversations" do not help either. society is pretty much based on the 'sex sells' idealogy and its very hard to ignore what is being waved in front of your face. Over all i wish i never been able to access porn, it wastes alot of time and i feel bad because of the time iv missed sleeping next to my spouse to be. Naked is truly natural and by covering up the body we (society) are creating temptation. and temptation leads to desire, curiosity, lust, and pornography. if we were all naked porn wouldnt have the same effect it has now. The porn industry would be dwindled down because lack of interest and curiostiy. I really have to agree with alot on this site. Life can put you in the most awkward of circumstances and the the brain reacts more to the primal urge rather then common sense. The internet is a really great concept. but when it all comes down to it the web is made mostly of porn. These late night infomercials for “free adult phone conversations” do not help either. society is pretty much based on the ‘sex sells’ idealogy and its very hard to ignore what is being waved in front of your face. Over all i wish i never been able to access porn, it wastes alot of time and i feel bad because of the time iv missed sleeping next to my spouse to be. Naked is truly natural and by covering up the body we (society) are creating temptation. and temptation leads to desire, curiosity, lust, and pornography. if we were all naked porn wouldnt have the same effect it has now. The porn industry would be dwindled down because lack of interest and curiostiy.

]]> By: Amitesh http://newlifehabits.com/2007/07/30/whatever-controls-your-attention-controls-you/comment-page-1/#comment-17402 Amitesh Mon, 01 Dec 2008 20:27:08 +0000 http://newlifehabits.com/2007/07/30/whatever-controls-your-attention-controls-you/#comment-17402 Hello Sir, To whomsoever it may concern, i am under some kind of a trouble and i confirmed that when i began to perform poorer than my previous performances, because i have started to spend more time on surfing internet porn sites and download porn videos to satisfy my sexual desires. Kindly please throw some more light to help me built a better successful life, i am student. Please help!!!!! Regards, Amitesh Hello Sir,

To whomsoever it may concern, i am under some kind of a trouble and i confirmed that when i began to perform poorer than my previous performances, because i have started to spend more time on surfing internet porn sites and download porn videos to satisfy my sexual desires.
Kindly please throw some more light to help me built a better successful life, i am student.
Please help!!!!!

Regards,
Amitesh

]]> By: exaddict http://newlifehabits.com/2007/07/30/whatever-controls-your-attention-controls-you/comment-page-1/#comment-15 exaddict Sat, 05 Jan 2008 19:20:53 +0000 http://newlifehabits.com/2007/07/30/whatever-controls-your-attention-controls-you/#comment-15 I really believe that one needs to apply yourself and immerse yourself in matters that take your mind off the bad apple syndrome of being focussed on this rotten stuff. I have made a quality decision to stop the rot in my life as I enjoy my family more than the secrecy of internet porn and private masturbation I am so involved with. I believe that what has been posted on this website is truly valuable and vital to those wanting to make a concerted effort to be rid of this horrible stuff. I really believe that one needs to apply yourself and immerse yourself in matters that take your mind off the bad apple syndrome of being focussed on this rotten stuff. I have made a quality decision to stop the rot in my life as I enjoy my family more than the secrecy of internet porn and private masturbation I am so involved with. I believe that what has been posted on this website is truly valuable and vital to those wanting to make a concerted effort to be rid of this horrible stuff.

]]> By: exaddict http://newlifehabits.com/2007/07/30/whatever-controls-your-attention-controls-you/comment-page-1/#comment-14 exaddict Sat, 05 Jan 2008 16:51:18 +0000 http://newlifehabits.com/2007/07/30/whatever-controls-your-attention-controls-you/#comment-14 I have been struggling for far too long with this type of addiction which has also robbed me and my family of quality time together. My wife has had a major problem with chronic bipolar depression which has really left me quite alone a lot. I have also had too much time with my thoughts being left alone. I have been struggling for far too long with this type of addiction which has also robbed me and my family of quality time together. My wife has had a major problem with chronic bipolar depression which has really left me quite alone a lot. I have also had too much time with my thoughts being left alone.

]]> By: enlightenedguy http://newlifehabits.com/2007/07/30/whatever-controls-your-attention-controls-you/comment-page-1/#comment-16 enlightenedguy Tue, 18 Dec 2007 15:31:10 +0000 http://newlifehabits.com/2007/07/30/whatever-controls-your-attention-controls-you/#comment-16 Your blog was quite motivating and a kind of eye opener to the facts that we already know but can remember at right time. Keep up the good work. Your blog was quite motivating and a kind of eye opener to the facts that we already know but can remember at right time. Keep up the good work.

]]> By: You Better Learn to Enjoy Your New Life « NewLifeHabits.com http://newlifehabits.com/2007/07/30/whatever-controls-your-attention-controls-you/comment-page-1/#comment-12 You Better Learn to Enjoy Your New Life « NewLifeHabits.com Tue, 21 Aug 2007 06:22:02 +0000 http://newlifehabits.com/2007/07/30/whatever-controls-your-attention-controls-you/#comment-12 [...] life better there is the temptation to doubt your success and worry that you will just fail soon. Stop! That is addiction trying to pull you back into addiction. You are in control as soon as you make [...] [...] life better there is the temptation to doubt your success and worry that you will just fail soon. Stop! That is addiction trying to pull you back into addiction. You are in control as soon as you make [...]

]]> By: The Good and the Bad About Sexual Addict 12 Step Programs « NewLifeHabits.com http://newlifehabits.com/2007/07/30/whatever-controls-your-attention-controls-you/comment-page-1/#comment-9 The Good and the Bad About Sexual Addict 12 Step Programs « NewLifeHabits.com Wed, 15 Aug 2007 10:56:32 +0000 http://newlifehabits.com/2007/07/30/whatever-controls-your-attention-controls-you/#comment-9 [...] The last thing I had difficultly with was there seemed to be no exit strategy. It seemed to me that I was almost expected to attend these meetings for an undefined amount of time if I expected to remain sober. There was one guy, while being a great strength to the group, who was sober for almost two years I think and was still attending these meetings. However, while I was attending, he had a relapse. I couldn’t help but wonder if his continual attendance, despite his success, had caused this relapse. I believe that when a person gets to a point where they are sober and confident for say a couple months then they need to move on and live their life instead of continually dwelling on the worry that they may slip up again. Part of the problem with addiction is thinking too much about addiction. [...] [...] The last thing I had difficultly with was there seemed to be no exit strategy. It seemed to me that I was almost expected to attend these meetings for an undefined amount of time if I expected to remain sober. There was one guy, while being a great strength to the group, who was sober for almost two years I think and was still attending these meetings. However, while I was attending, he had a relapse. I couldn’t help but wonder if his continual attendance, despite his success, had caused this relapse. I believe that when a person gets to a point where they are sober and confident for say a couple months then they need to move on and live their life instead of continually dwelling on the worry that they may slip up again. Part of the problem with addiction is thinking too much about addiction. [...]

]]> By: Are You Walking on Egg Shells? « NewLifeHabits.com http://newlifehabits.com/2007/07/30/whatever-controls-your-attention-controls-you/comment-page-1/#comment-11 Are You Walking on Egg Shells? « NewLifeHabits.com Sun, 12 Aug 2007 10:19:15 +0000 http://newlifehabits.com/2007/07/30/whatever-controls-your-attention-controls-you/#comment-11 [...] is an selfish animal. It wants you to think about it and nothing else. As long as it has your focus then it has a tight grip on you. Focusing on the things you’ve been neglecting or the daily [...] [...] is an selfish animal. It wants you to think about it and nothing else. As long as it has your focus then it has a tight grip on you. Focusing on the things you’ve been neglecting or the daily [...]

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